I taught high school ag for 34 years and had my own two children. I understand what you are feeling and thinking. The first thing which isn't really going to help you is - remember who the adult is. You have to think and be smart. Secondly, have tolerance. Everyone is different - emotionally, physically, biologically. Don't blame things like this on yourself. I have known several farmers/dads who tried to change their sons and seriously lost. The lost so bad they put a permanent wedge in between them and their son(s) and "cutoff" the relationship forever. One farmer I know was so upset he cutoff the relationship with his son and eventually wrote him out of the will - gave everything to the school district. I think their relationship was tainted by the fact the son didn't want to work as hard as dad. True, the father was very successful, but probably at the cost of truely living and enjoying life. The son was more social. Parenting might take as much time thinking as it does action. As was mentioned the teen years can be tough. Not wanting to do chores or manual labor would be a common concern voiced by parents. All I can say is tread lightly. All of this is sort of like the saying "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink". How true. Today everyone has rights. Social services is right around the corner. It is a different time from when my dad or myself grew up. My dad was disiplined with a green tree switch. I was disiplined with a yard stick. Neither of us very often I might add. We are in a different time. Don't ruin your relationship with your son by making demands that he doesn't care to do. Be a smart parent by figuring things out and doing things that could build the relationship. The best thing you can do is teach by example - hardwork, tolerance, understanding, and caring. Goodluck.
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