Another Sad Post

You have NO idea how LUCKY you are!!!

Better her true feelings came out now than later.

I got the chance to play in a softball tourney-- It felt really good to smack that softball.. my mind had to be on the game (and no I didnt pretend her face was on the ball-- I thought about using that idea though lol)

Dave

• Hobby farm

The third time is a charm! :)

My personal record was a 20# weight loss in two weeks...let's see, in 8 days had a dog die (drowned and had to walk in up to my chest to recover), a friend and her 5 y/o son die when she rear-ended a parked tractor trailer (fiancee was following moments behind...), and got the let's just be friend's talk from the one girl I was ever in love with. Didn't really have much of an appetite for a while...

Talk about with friends or family. Clergy also.

Get out and do things -- and I can tell you from personal experience, going on a vacation may not be best...at least alone...gotta do something where you're *not* thinking about it. That means get a tractor to restore or something to just keep your hands and mind busy. Or going on a vacation with someone whose a chatty kathy who'll keep your mind of it.

If you don't come out...or especially if you seem to be "cycling" with good days that are good, and bad days that keep getting worse...don't be afraid to seek some professional help. Your doctor could help; clergy may have a good reference; if you have health insurance there's a good chance they can refer you somewhere. If you work for a company of any significant size, they'll have a EAP (Employee Assistance Program) you can call and they'll hook you up and probably cover a few sessions. Pyschologists will do, most likely you'd see someone called a Clinical Social Worker who can handle the fairly common problems like this without seeing the Doc.

The "cycling" is a classic sign of depression. That's probably not quite the right word for it since technically the pyschologists use that to describe a particular and fairly rare type of depression called bi-polar.

But those ups-and-downs really start to say this is not just the normal blues.

A CSW or pyschologist can make a proper diagnosis, and work with you to develop a treatment plan.

If you broke your arm, you'd go to the doctor and he'd stabilize it in a cast, and when the cast comes off you'd do physical therapy to regain full function.

Depression is often treated very similiarly. While some people just need therapy...most benefit from an anti-depressant that stabilizes the mind like a cast stabilizes a broken bone. And once stable, you can take full advantage of therapy to learn new behaviors and most people can wean off the drugs.