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dej(JED)

08-10-2006 07:53:46




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We just found out that my 84 year old father is dying of colon and liver cancer. This a rough time because his mind is very sharp. He keeps telling me to bale more hay and he will be home as soon as they get done poking and proding at him.He has been a farmer all of his life and I can remember us using teams to do a lot of work with. Our first tractor was a militry jeep, followed by a Farmall BN and an M. They say he will die in about 6 months if he has immediate colon removal surgery and 2 weeks if he doesn't have it, but they don't think he will survive the surgery. Mother is in no condition to decide what to do and I am confused.
Thank you all for listening.

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skipper

08-11-2006 05:56:27




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
My deepest prayers go with you, your father and your family. Skipper



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B-maniac

08-10-2006 20:10:38




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
My wife had complete colon removal when she was 34 yrs old.Not cancerous. She's doin' fine at 52. This is such a serious surgery that I don't believe he would make it.After surgery complications and lifestyle change isn't a treat either. Let him live out his life in dignity and if he's called home so be it,God will take good care of him and he will be happier than spending his last days in and out of hospitals. You say he's sharp in his mind yet, use this time to remminice and ask all the questions about the past that only he can answer. My dad died of lung cancer exactly a year ago after a long battle. He was tired of fighting a losing battle and was ready to go home. Life,to him at that point,was worse than dieing. It was the first peacefull and restfull day he had had in a year. Hopefully you can take him home where I'm sure he wants to be. Our prayers are with him and your whole family.

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M Nut

08-10-2006 19:46:19




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
Words can't describe how hard this situation must truly be for you. Your father, you, and your family are being prayed for. Keep your hope and faith up during this time. My grandma was in the hospital for 10 months with cancer. Doctors told the family she wouldn't leave there alive. She is 79 years old now and is still playing the organ at church on Sundays! God is still in the miracle business!

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ShepFL

08-10-2006 19:18:43




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
Jed -
Prayers from our family to yours. Let God's grace and mercy guide all of you. I pray for strength and comfort for all of you.

I can only empathize as I have 2 friends fighting this same painful battle.

By HIS Grace,
ShepFL



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Davis In SC

08-10-2006 18:53:51




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
You & your family are in my prayers... 6 years ago, this month, my Dad was in a similar situation. Spend all the time you can with him, other things can wait. Also, you & your family need to take care of yourselves during this trying time...



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Georgeharry

08-10-2006 18:21:55




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
I am praying for your Father your Mother your family and you .Please God give these people confort.God please bless you all .



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Dave from MN

08-10-2006 16:56:35




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
Prayers from our family to yours. I can not imagine the pain and wondering you are going through. God be with you all.



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phillip d

08-10-2006 16:35:19




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
Your family is in the thoughts and prayers of all of us in my house too upon reading your touching story.God be with you and all of your family in your time of need.He sure is lucky to have a family who truely cares as much as you do.



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tmay

08-10-2006 15:07:24




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
Praying for you and your family. Just watched a good friend and his family go through a simular thing. God be with you



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Blue guy

08-10-2006 15:07:14




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
Our prayers are with you and your family Jed. I'm sure your Dad gave you a smart mind and a strong heart. Follow them both.



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Midwest redneck

08-10-2006 14:21:46




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
If it was me I would try to get your dad to just live without having the surgery and wait it out. I lost my grandfather in 1998, he went in for the removal of a bowel obstruction and then went into a coma 2 days after the surgery and then died 1 week later, he was 83, WW2 war veteran/officer/pilot too. My prayers are with you in your decision. My FIL has bladder cancer and may live another 6 months, he doesnt go anywhere, except the doctor and lays around the house, he is 59.

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Paul Shuler

08-10-2006 14:08:27




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
My dad is 83 and I know I will have to be making some of these hard decisions someday my self. My prayers are with you and you family.
Paul



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Buddy

08-10-2006 13:16:37




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prayers sent.



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Steven@AZ

08-10-2006 12:57:01




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
Tough decision to make, you and your father are in my prayers. God bless your whole family in this time of need.



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Jrry

08-10-2006 12:25:57




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
John, I know that has to be tough. I have already said a prayer for him and the family.
Jerry



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john d

08-10-2006 12:13:32




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
You"re on the list.

Don"t count your dad out quite yet. As a cancer survivor, I can tell you to celebrate uncertainty.



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raleigh

08-10-2006 11:55:24




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
I will post this to another sight and ask them to pray as well..... boy oh boy....hang in there the LORD will pull you through..



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raleigh

08-10-2006 11:53:45




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
I will do that, boy this seems like it hurts alot!!!

Lord please give this family strength to move on LORD we would LOVE to ask for your healing hand in this matter, but we ask that your glorious will be done in this. LORD again Help this family to cope with this tough situation....



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Ih2444

08-10-2006 10:46:54




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
My prayers to you and your family.
If your dads mind is still sharp, let him decide on the course of action.
I know you all will miss him terribly, but it is his life.



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Dachshund

08-10-2006 10:15:28




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Prayers to you and your family. God's will be done!



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JDknut

08-10-2006 09:02:15




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sorry to hear that, my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.



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Rauville

08-10-2006 09:01:08




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Last year, my Mom at the age of 86 was diagnosed with chronic leukemia. She was given the choice of 5 weeks of intensive chemo therapy with a 5% chance at survival. She made the decision to decline the therapy and lasted just 5 weeks without it. The Hospice program provided assistance in the final weeks.

Your heart will help you and your Dad make the right choices.

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T_Bone

08-10-2006 08:28:09




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
Hi John,

Prayers from our family to yours!

Bummer on the surgery. If your Dad's mind is that clear then I sure would leave that decision up to him as well respect that decision.

I never could understand why a family member would go against the wish's of a dieing person even if that would result in the death of that person.

Four years ago when I broke my good leg I found out even my own family wouldn't respect my desire of health care treatment and now have written a living will to stop them from doing what I don't want.

As our body's get broken down with age, our thoughts to what we want in health care change.

My e-mail is open if you want to yak a bit.

T_Bone

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Logan in S.E. Texas

08-10-2006 08:22:27




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
Jed, My heartfelt prayers are with you and your Dad.
I lost my 83 yr. old Dad back in '03 and still miss him terribly. My dad had lung cancer and never recovered from surgery to remove spot, was unsteady on his feet and fell and broke his hip. Thankfully, it only took 9 months for him to die. Now that is a horrible statement to someone that has not lived through this situation.
My mom passed in '95, had a heart attack and died 4 days later.
To me, quicker is better, it is too hard to see them suffer and it is also unimagineably(sp) hard to make that decision.
I know that I will always miss my parents, but as time has passed I am glad they are no longer here, struggling in this world and suffering in old bodies. You are going through a hard time and it seems like it wont ever get better, but in time it does....days, weeks, months, 1st year anniversary is hard, but then things started to get better for me. I know this is long, will close with this prayer.
May God give you strength, grace and wisdom.
Logan

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Dave 2N

08-10-2006 08:14:15




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Been through this with my Dad; rest assured that whatever you decide, you will know that you did the best you could. Thinking of you....



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Jay (ND)

08-10-2006 08:09:06




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
You and yours are in my prayers. You need to go on a peaceful tractor ride to clear your thoughts. ATV rides do it for me.

You'll make the right decision, regardless of what it may be.

Jay



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Brokenwrench

08-10-2006 08:04:41




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to dej(JED), 08-10-2006 07:53:46  
You, your dad and family are in my prayers. I wouldn`t know what the right move is. It`s tough when something like this hits someone who is still so active. If his mind is still sharp, maybe he could decide, but his decision may be the hardest on everyone else. I pray that whatever decisions you make, you find comfort.
Hang in there Brokenwrench



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Harley

08-10-2006 08:01:10




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Prayers on the way Jed. To you and all your family. And I mean that. This will be a trying time for all of you, but with the Lord's help you will be able to get through it. Thanks for sharing, Harley



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Bob Da. (La)

08-10-2006 10:06:16




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My faith and prayers are with you Jed.It is a decision that you will feel afterwards, "If only we had tried the other way". Personally, I would set down with the Bible and my Dad and Mom and talk over the options. Since he is still so active and in what sounds like good spirits and full control of his mind, I would weigh heavily with his thoughts and wishes. Don't know enough about the condition to know if there is any alternative treatments available, but you might be able to go on the net and find out and also give him those options. It will be a long rough road and very difficult,not only for you and your Mom, but for everyone else concerned. I pray for peace and wisdom, and knowing that whatever decision is made that God provides the grace and strength for you and a peace that can only come from a firm and faithfilled abundance of the knowledge of God. God Bless. Bob Da.(LA)

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doogdoog

08-10-2006 11:31:16




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Aloha, Sorry to hear about your dad and I will be wishing well for him.

Mahalo,
doogdoog



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MN Bob

08-10-2006 11:30:26




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 Re: My Dad needs prayers. in reply to Bob Da. (La), 08-10-2006 10:06:16  
Bob; Our prayers are with you. Both my wife and I are cancer survivors. I met a lot of great folks at Mayo, We lived at Hope Lodge during the treatment stage. Some made the decision not to go through the surgery and treatment. Only God knows if it was the right decision, but they made it and the quality of life at the end was what they chose. Support his decision whatever path he chooses and love him for all the good times you have shared. God be with you and yours. Bob

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