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old

10-20-2005 18:52:36




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I have a brother older then me that is a no-it-all. But when it comes to tractors and equipment hes going to get me or some one else hurt. So how do you tell him he doesn't have a clue and need to listen to other. He about to drive me crazy and whats worse is hes an acedent waiting to happen. Thanks to listening/reading




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BobMo

10-21-2005 06:27:18




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to old, 10-20-2005 18:52:36  
Old, did you ever think that maybe he thinks he has a "no-it-all" younger brother.
You guys are grown men and need to resolve your issues without hard feelings. I know sometimes this can be difficult but give him some slack because older brothers always have a tendency to think they know better. Its a carry over from childhood...



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Galen

10-21-2005 05:46:49




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to old, 10-20-2005 18:52:36  
The way I handle it with my know-it-all brother is not to talk tohim unless it's an accident we happen to cross paths. We live less than 1/2 mile apart and haven't seen him for more than 1/2 hour in the past 3 months. Course, I hear all about everything I'm doing wrong from all the neighbor's he's gossiped to.....



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12-26-2005 13:14:30




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to Galen, 10-21-2005 05:46:49  
Due to your actions (ignoring your own brother) I sense some resentment or some jealousy. Must be an older brother for you to resent him so much. I agree with "BobMo" the younger brother just might be the "NO-IT-ALL" and isn't going to listen because younger brothers almost always are jealous and resentfull af their older brothers. Sounds like the "Stuff" You are doing wrong,(by your own admission),is the stuff that he is trying to help you with, But to call it gossip sounds resentfull. Did you ever think that as a brother that is trying to help a brother that won't listen he might just be going to the neighbors to find someone that you might listen to? But to delibertly choose to alienate yourself from him is a totally awfull and selfish act. Sounds like you are the one with the problem cause you Made the choice to not be an adult about the sitiuation. At least he is trying to help in his own way even if you don't like it. My advice for you is to "GROW UP" and at least approach your brother with an open mind. How do I know? Cause I am the younger brother that was in the same situation untill I "GREW UP" And started listening . Once I got past the Resentment and Jelousy and I realized that he was trying to help not control me I learned alot and life is good. I hope that you are "MAN" enough to make the right choice.

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Dick A

10-21-2005 05:26:54




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to old, 10-20-2005 18:52:36  
It's good practice for dealing with married life.



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coup

10-21-2005 03:08:06




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to old, 10-20-2005 18:52:36  
print off all tractor and equipment accident reports here and other places and read them to him.... talk about mistakes you have made and bout got hurt. warn others nicely to watch him...



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Stickler

10-20-2005 23:41:39




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to old, 10-20-2005 18:52:36  
I have a father-in-law like that. he's a fantastic welder, pipeliner for 50 years, but at anything else he's dismal. But he knows it all. He's absolutely scary around electricity, burnt his own barn down years ago but thinks he knows it all. What i do is call him for every little welding job I don't feel up to and let him have his moment of glory, praise his work, then shoo him off before he hurts something.

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Old Pokey

10-20-2005 20:19:25




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to old, 10-20-2005 18:52:36  
Dealing with know-it-alls is quite fun once you get in some practice. Let him do all the work. If you start to do something, and he comes in and says you have to do it his way, just say "gosh, I did'nt know that. Maybe you could do it and I'll watch and learn".:-) You can take this to any extreme you wnat. If he wants you to do it and he'll watch, just do it all wrong, like turn the bolt backwards or get the wrong wrench and stuff like that. Eventually he'll notice that he's doing it all himself and get tired of trying to "train" you to his way. If you do it well enough, he may even start to feel sorry for you. Brothers sometimes just get carried away with the superiority thing. When it happens, you just sort of have to let them out do themselves. But make sure you are there when they do cause it will be your ace in the hole from then on.

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Coldiron

10-20-2005 20:10:04




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to old, 10-20-2005 18:52:36  
I have a brother in law like that. I dont use anything he has made, fixed or driven. That way I am not going to get blamed for breaking it, ruining it or changing it so it doesnt work. He has his share of c@*p that doesnt work, never worked and never will. Still cant tell him anything and he doesnt have any friends so everyone is safe. ;-)



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jfp

10-20-2005 20:30:15




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to Coldiron, 10-20-2005 20:10:04  
Sounds like my neighbor.



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Tinker

10-20-2005 19:03:57




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to old, 10-20-2005 18:52:36  
If he's a know-it-all, you aren't going to tell him anything.



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Les

10-20-2005 18:59:49




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to old, 10-20-2005 18:52:36  
Do you have parents?



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steveormary

10-21-2005 09:15:49




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to Les, 10-20-2005 18:59:49  
Keith on DelMarVa

I apologize. I shouldnt have picked on the college people. My son graduated from USC and is doing very well for himself. Sometimes we are blessed with the trickle down effect.

steveormary



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steveormary

10-20-2005 21:45:25




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to Les, 10-20-2005 18:59:49  
Coldiron

Brother-in-laws are like that. I have 4 and cant tell them anything. 3 of them went to college,mabe that has something to do with it.

steveormary



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Keith on DelMarVa

10-21-2005 06:20:26




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to steveormary, 10-20-2005 21:45:25  
I disagree..... just because someone has a degree does not make them an idiot. I have a B I L with a high school education that fits the bill as stated before..... idiot.

I learned a long time ago I have 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason, so please dont paint all of us edumacated folks with the same brush.

Keith



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Cactus farmer

10-21-2005 05:36:44




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 Re: O-T how do you handle in reply to steveormary, 10-20-2005 21:45:25  
Some folks are educated beyond they inteligence.



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