Oh my God what do I do?

Your situation is much less troublesome than that of me and my poor family. My father died while attempting to protect our family fortune in the Afican village of Gul-li-bul. My brother was molested by a camel and my sisters made slave to pigmy pirates. Our fortune of $140,000,000,000.00 Zimbabwe monies is tied up somewhere between the raging camel and pigmy pirates. If you would be so kind as to forward a photo of your wife and her friend whom I believe may be my missing mother along with a check for $150,000 american dollars to cover transaction fees, I will have the family treasure transfered to your account. For helping us in this matter and entertaining our mother, we will allow you to keep $273,236,653.00 I hope that this will be enough.

As for your tractors, I would like to purchase them all for $1 million american dollars. My associate who owes money to me will write you a check for $10 million and I will ask that you forward the remaining monies to me when me shipper comes to take the tractors.

Get a lawyer. Don't just have one picked out. Have one at the ready with a plan in case things don't work out.

Get you and her into a counselor, pastor or some professional. Go even if she won't. You'll need to talk to someone. Try to work it out.

Look, if this is true, then you have some real problems here, and your tractors and tools should be the LAST thing on your mind.

One of the main culprits of extra-marital affairs, and so on.., is the fact that so much more of it is put on television for the public to witness. People see it more, they are less likely to be shocked by it, and they get used to it. For example: Last Super Bowl - Janet Jackson's "accidental exposure" occured, at one of the music awards girls half clothed were kissing on stage, and this is what people let their kids watch. WHY???

I really am sorry for the serious situation you are having to face. It should never happen, but unfortunately it does. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.

I wish you well.

Try to arrange for you to both go to counseling, and try to resolve the issue. I think counseling or discussion should be for you and your wife only. Try to avoid having the other woman there.

Do you have any kids, or are they already grown and gone?

My 2 cents...

I gotta go lay down a minute.

1/ Don"t blow up. Not yet anyway. First do some legal research either online or get a lawyer. Chance favors the prepared mind. Sometimes marriage vows can be taken as a legal contract and by breaking this contract she may not be entitled to some or all of your prized possessions (read tractors).

2/Decide what your going to do. Caution: it may be desirable for some men to have a wife with a "friend", however, she may end up leaving you for her (while taking all of your money in the process). I go to school with someone whose mother did this. Funny story, serious consequences. The least I would do to cover your ASSets is to have her sign a post-nuptial agreement. If the situation bothers you, try counseling however counselors may turn this situation into "she is the victim because you are a _____ ___ A$$*&^#.” Fill in blank with trendy catch phrase. This may lead to divorce so be prepared!

3/ Being prepared. One key step in preparation is to not let her know what is coming. The less prepared she is, the more prepared you are. Stay calm cool and collected while researching and deciding your course of action. After completing #1 you will have a rough idea of what would happen, financially, in a worst case divorce situation. If divorce is chosen, quietly sell your tractors and tools and other movable possessions cheaply to a good friend who would sell them back to you at a "fair" price. Take money from savings and tools and set up some type of trust fund for children for AFTER they get out of college or college will take it. If no kids, bury it somewhere or take a trip to Vegas or both.

4/ When you have fully researched and understand all the different courses of action that you can take, act. Have all your legal documents or counselors lined up. Make it a yes no decision for her. The less say she has in deciding, the less she can bend the situation to her favor.

Weird things happen when marriages go south. I have friends who got married right out of school. Four-five years later wife is living with kids and new beau (in your case girlfriend) in new house while husband makes the payments. How this is possible, I don’t know. I just know that the laws favor women 60/40 if not more. The only tool, as a man, you can fight this with is research and preparedness. Be prepared!

Never been divorced have ya REDEYE..lol round here it"s more like 90/10..wife takes house,retirement,cars,kids,tractors..aargh.. but at least the guy still gets to pay for all of it.. been there,twice

We really need some pictures to help diagnose your problem. :>)

Allan