Family farm relationships.... Comments wanted...

Posted by Bob on April 10, 2007 at 09:23:32 from (69.178.229.154):

In Reply to: Re: Johndeere engines.....thumbs down..way down. posted by Cummins/Cat on April 10, 2007 at 07:56:17:

No preaching here.

But why do you throw out a scenario for the world to comment on and then be so snotty about taking a minute to listen to and empathize with a somewhat similar situation someone else has lived through?

I'll quote your statement: "And i don't really care what your father did to you after the sun went down around your house, so spare me your preachin will ya?"

Not much empathy there! You REALLY do come across as a "troll" and a jerk to boot! Notice I said "come across"... all we know of you is in this "thread" and we all know it's risky to make any assumptions of folk's character by what is posted anonymously on the 'net.

I REALLY hope you are just having a bad day, and that comment was "out of charcater for you", and that you someday find peace with your Dad's memory.

From the tone of your posts it seems you have yet to find that peace, and I suspect the tractor issue may be a coverup for other resentment you have of other "issues" of farming with your Dad.

I LOVE farming and the chance to grow up on the farm. However, it's REALLY sad how many family farm relationships (my own included) end up with anger within the family over who is the manager (boss) of the operation... in charge of the checkbook.

If you farmed with your Dad for 40 years, and had no say in the operation, that's sad. I know. I had a similar experience with my Uncle, although not for quite so many years... he was "good as gold" to me, but was "going to live forever" and had NO interest in an orderly transition of my taking over the farm.

When he suddenly had a stroke and wound up in a rest home with no long term care insurance, it nearly cost me the farm (which was LONG before willed to me) and all the "sweat equity" I had in it. Thankfully, I was able to hang on to most of it although I no longer farm it myself.

I'll close by saying the ones of us who grew up farm kids, and stuck around hoping to take over the farm someday from relatives unwilling to set up the orderly transition of management are DAMNED FOOLS... myself included!

Comments by others who have gone through the "family farm thing"????

Replies:

• Re: Family farm relationships.... Comments wanted. dad's88 17:31:47 04/11/07 (0)
• Re: Family farm relationships.... Comments wanted. 4010guy 12:03:30 04/10/07 (1)
  • Re: Family farm relationships.... Comments wanted. Bob 12:10:20 04/10/07 (0)

Add a Reply Name: E-Mail: Subject: Comments: Optional Link URL: Link Title: Optional Image URL: Email Notification: If you check this box, email will be sent to you whenever someone replies to this message. Your email address must be entered above to receive notification. This notification will be cancelled automatically after 2 weeks.

TRACTOR PARTS	TRACTOR MANUALS

We sell tractor parts!  We have the parts you need to repair your tractor - the right parts. Our low prices and years of research make us your best choice when you need parts. Shop Online Today. [ About Us ]