Re: Helping your kids???

Posted by Billy NY on August 06, 2015 at 08:17:58 from (104.228.35.235):

In Reply to: Helping your kids??? posted by JD Seller on August 05, 2015 at 19:27:45:

In general, his father may be of the opinion its a hardline world, you're going to have to make it work, (hurts him as much as the kid so to speak), may not have anything to help him with, maybe he's just not so nice of a person, but we don't really know any of that.

One common denominator here is the kids attitude and work ethic, he's willing to do whats necessary, knows how to work hard and earn a good wage, he's willing to make sacrifices in times of need, all of that is help in itself. Its so much worse when you have to carry, drag or otherwise motivate a person to a point where they can "carry the ball" vs this young man who will parachute in and run with the ball just as his feet touch the ground.

I think you have described some hard times in the content of your posts here over the years and its easy to connect your willingness to help someone in genuine need to those kinds of times. That speaks volumes of your good character. Its like, "Hey, I've been there, now I won't give anything away, but I can help, and you'll have to work for it to get through."

I've been there too, feel the same way, I'll help as long as the person wants to help themselves in the first place, they have to do it, its on them to succeed, and if a little assistance is needed so be it.

Its sure no fun to face a situation like this, get stiffed on a paycheck, trying to figure out if there's any way to recover any of that, take care of immediate threats and still look for new work, not knowing if you can earn a paycheck asap or if your finances will be in arrears.

Whatever the situation with the father is, we know one thing, for whatever reason he won't or cannot help. You say to the kid, hey that is fine, you can work on that relationship where possible, but here's what, I've got work for you, enough to get you through. With that, because of your good nature, he's got some positive reinforcement, both of which helps with forward momentum, there's no doubt he will get through this and probably a dozen more like it in his life, the first one makes all the difference, later ones he'll likely weather easier, and be more prepared. It sure is nice to catch a break sometimes.

I've been there and the single most important thing was to stay busy, no matter what the work is, go every day and persist until you get back to the better work you may have, at some point the realization will occur that you have succeeded in overcoming the obstacle, even though it seemed impossible.

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