Cure for teenage boy conflict with dad

Dave from MN · Feb 11, 2010

Teach him to drive the skid steer, and let him start hauling wood to the house as a weekly chore. Little independance for him, lot lesss stress for me. Plus one more person to run a snow mover when it dumps on us, and he didnt even ask if he was getting paid!!!

rrlund · Feb 11, 2010

Unless he get horsing around and tips it over frontwards with the bucket all the way up like my nephew did with my brothers.

Foghorn Leghorn · Feb 11, 2010

That is an excellent idea. Most kids want to feel a sense of belonging. He watched you do this for years, and now he is big enough to do it. Moreover, you TRUST him with the equipment. That means a lot to him if you raised him right. I think you are doing all the right things. Just make sure that safety does not get overlooked. Once he knows that you think enough of him to trust him and treat him as an equal, you will have his respect and he will listen when you tell him things. Just try to make sure talks aren't always negative. Don't just criticize and put him down. He is doing a man's work now and also needs to treated as such

skip33652 · Feb 11, 2010

conflict with dad will end when he gets to the age of 30 or 40 or when he brings some grandkids home. probably not before.Paul

Lumpy · Feb 11, 2010

Mine wasn't very pleasant, so i'm not even going to post it. And no, I don't have any boys. This was my dad and I.

buickanddeere · Feb 11, 2010

13 yr old son who stands 1-1/2" over his Father thought the old man wasn't very smart or capable.
13yr old had been training a couple of months at the local martial arts school. It's put some muscle on him and removed some soft spots.
He decided it's time to put on the head gear and gloves and try the old man. Kid did pretty good, knew some moves and didn't get tired as fast as I did.Another couple of months and he just might be able to take me. He was surprised to go home with a black eye and some lumps. I was sore for about 10 days but didn't bother to let him know that.
Get along the best now we ever have. Kind of a mutual respect thing.

730d se · Feb 11, 2010

Saw a sign some years ago that went something like this:
"Teenagers, leave home now while you still know everything and your parents know nothing at all."

KJF470 · Feb 11, 2010

I couldn't believe how much smarter my Dad got as I got older! I was really proud of him!!!!

thurlow · Feb 11, 2010

Reminds me of the kid who joined the Army, because............ "I'm sick and tired of people telling me what to do."

CLTX · Feb 11, 2010

I made the mistake of putting on boxing gloves and going a few rounds with my father when I was about 14. I don't think I ever touched him and he would pop me and say "oops, sorry, I didn't mean to hit you that hard." That taought me a lesson.

Sid_GA · Feb 12, 2010

I told my now grown kids one day that I was so proud of them. Having overcome such a great handicap of being born to such stupid parents! They didn't really see the humor but they did agree my wife and I had gotten smarter.

greygoat · Feb 12, 2010

I joined the Army in 1961 to get away from my
stupid Dad. I learned a lot, He stayed the same.

tjdub · Feb 12, 2010

"When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years."

--Mark Twain

usetob · Feb 12, 2010

isn't it amazing how much your folks know AFTER you leave home

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