OT/well,it's over

rrlund

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I hadn't said anything,but for the past few months,we'd had a woman here living with us who was dying of Lou Gehrigs disease. My wife had worked for several years as a home care and Hospice nurse,but hadn't been working since early spring. She had worked with this woman several years ago at the local hospital. Her husband was a teacher at the high school for over 30 years. It's a small town,and they needed help. She didn't want to go to a nursing home. My wife had been going to their house every morning for several months,getting her ready for the day,that kind of thing. She finally got so bad she had to have 24 hour care. We got a hospital bed and moved her in here.

What a devistating disease. For the last 3 weeks,she couldn't even suck water through a straw. My wife had to pour a little water in her mouth at least every hour. Very little though since she could barely swallow. The hardest part was just watching her waste away. I shot a cow a month ago that was in better shape than she was in,yet we had to just keep watching her die slowly. She finally,mercifully passed away Monday morning around 4am. The funeral was this morning. We sure miss her,but at least her suffering is over. There's no way to discribe the slow death associated with that disease. I'll just tell you,my deepest sympathy goes out to anybody else who has it.
 
i know what you went thru. i lost my mom back in 1993 from ovarian cancer. fought it for two years before she finally passed away. she didnt want to die in the hospital, she wanted to pass away on the farm, so we brought her home and hospice helped us out. not something you want anybody to have to go thru.
 
I had a good friend at work about 5 years ago who was diagnosed with ALS. He had been approved for disability retirement and was in the office one day. The next morning while I was at a doctor's or dentist's appointment, his wife called in that he had passed away during the night. I knew he looked pretty tough that last day, but I had no idea he was that bad off.
That is some bad stuff.
 
thats why god made people like you and your wife to help certain people at certain times like that.thanks for caring .RICK
 
rrlund I firmly believe with all my heart that there is a golden place in heaven for people like Hospice and foster parents along with a huge list of caregivers that deal with the dying and brokenhearted young people. You and your wife have my deepest respects because for a Hospice caregiver it also takes a lot of support from the other half because there is a lot of crying and heartbreak. I bow to you and your wife my friend. As you said they are in a better place. Tomorrow is another day. CT
 
Don't know about all of that fellers,but it sure gives you a good feeling inside. My wife's the one who really deserves the credit. Yes,I got woken up in the night several times every night,but she was the one who was right there with her constantly. She stayed up with her all of that last night,reading to her,holding her hand when she passed. I'd sure like her to be there with me like that when I go,but on the other hand,it would destroy me to see her go through what she went through all over again. She's one in a million.
 
You are a lucky man to have such a caring wife.God bless her for helping this woman to the end after figthing that horrible disease.

Vito
 
Don't really know what to say, except I couldn't handle that type of care.

My Mom died in January 2005 of a massive heart attack, she didn't feel good when she went to work that morning. She clocked out and tried to drive back to my sister's less than a mile away to have her take to the hospital. She didn't make it home. Crashed the car into the grade school building, THANK the good Lord it wasn't 5 minutes earlier or later. No kids outside, they bus them to the high school for lunch.

My mom and dad were divorced, but he died in September 2005 of cancer.

Lost my best friend, best man at our wedding in 2003 to brain cancer this year. His boy will keep farming our ground back in Nebraska, but he will never replace Jake.

My sister works in a care home, she has to deal with this constantly. Like I said before, it takes a special type to handle it. DOUG
 
Randy & wife - truly a work of love on your part!
Sorry about your loss. Probably know her, or at least her husband. Ray
 
to you and your wife a big blessing is on its way. I agree with all the others that it takes a special person to give care. I and my wife have each taken care of family members during their last days and understand the strain of emotion and the relief of the same strain when the end finally comes.
The good lord will bless you in so many ways.
 
May the good Lord richly bless you and your wife for your compassion for this lady.

ALS is a horrible disease, I think the worst I have ever seen. The mind is still sharp while the body fails.

My wife and I had a friend who died of ALS. We would go over to her house and a friend and I would sing and play gospel music for her. She couldn't speak, but she would cry her eyes out. I thought we were killing her - but she would send word for us to come back and do it again.

With some diseases, I think it might be harder on the caregiver than the patient, but with ALS, it's hard on everyone.

By the way, I know a man who presently has ALS, and there are FIVE people in his little church that are afflicted with this horrible disease.

I appreciate the way that you honor your wife, but it would be impossible for her to care for this lady in your home without your blessing.

God bless you both.

Paul
 
God bless you and your wife RR. you and her are spicial people
i lost my sister a nurse in michigan to ovarian cancer in june 2003.
pete in texas
 
It is a terrible disease, my best friend from junior high died last year from it - he was a succesful car racer and business owner - he lasted about a year.
 
God bless you and your wife. I hope to have some of your strength as my father-in-law is in the last stages of Alzhiemers. You are so right about having to watch someone go down.Especially when you love them so much.
 
Thank you both for the care you gave. My brother found out he has it in Jan of this year. By July fourth he was in a wheel chair. He went from a six foot four 240 pound weight lifter. To a man that can no longer take care of himself. Don't know how much time he has left.
 
Somewhere in you and your family's future , God and this nice lady will pay you a thank-you. You will know when they do. God Bless.
 

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