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Lost my wife, prayer requested

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Morning folks, My wife of 19 years took her life Friday afternoon. She leaves behind a 12 year old son and a 3 week old son.

The only thing we can attribute it to is that post-partum depression. She never said anything to me about it and I didn't see a difference in her.

I never believed in depression before, thought it was laziness and self-pity but this stuff is real and a killer in the right circumstances. If you have it or know of someone that does please get treatment. I would not wish what I'm going thru now on my worst enemy.

We've never had much I didn't make her work, thought her time would be better spent making a home for us. I thought she was happy with that she also needed the time to care for an aging mother she got very little help at that from an older sister.

All in all she was a fine woman she done every bit that she could, she will be missed for many years. If you pray please remember me and my family. Thank You
 
so sorry for your loss, will say a prayer for you.

have been 4 suicides in my area in the last 2 months, 1 was murder/suicide.

everyone should be watching out for friends & family.
 
Our prayers are with you and your family.I suffered for many years with depression,and itis a terrible thing,Most don,t understand it.
 
There is probably not much comfort we can give, these are just words on a computer screen, but for what it's worth we are pulling for you.

Your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Gene
 
You are in our prayers and in our thoughts.Stay strong for the little ones.Be sure to keep in touch on this board.We may not know each other but we all care.
 
Be assured God is with you and will be with you raising your children. Sometimes we don't understand why but God uses situations and people to stand up strong and witness for his glory. Your wife is in the lords hands and your love for her and your children is what the Lord will see. I pray that the Lord gives you strength, peace and comfort. Most of all stay very close to your children and be active with them. Love in Christ Richard
 
Tears are in my eyes.May God bless you and your two sons.Will pray for you and your family.

Vito
 
Very sorry to hear this. It's hard to find comfort in words, but I'll certainly be praying for you and your family today, and in the days to follow.
 
I'm so very sorry. May our prayers help lift a little of the heavy weight from you, your sons, her parents and family, now and expecially in the years to come. Jim
 
So sorry for your loss. I cant imagine what you are going through. I agree with the depression issue. Seen alot of pain in people over the years.
 
We will be praying for you and your loved ones, for strength and comfort. You have our heartfelt sympathies in your loss.

Christopher
 
I am so sorry! Look to God for comfort, He will always be there for you to make sure you are not alone. Dixie and I will be praying for you and your family.
I lost my wife to cancer after 37 years of marriage but I can only imagine what this would be like for you. No way I could know.
 
My thoughts are with you. I've dealt with depression in a family member for a long time, its an ugly disease. For all it cripples them they can go through amazing lengths to hide it from others.
 
Prayers are sent. Don't know what else to say. Try to stay strong for the kids. We will be praying for you daily.
Fud
 
My strength to you in this hour of need. Please avoid taking responsibility. The most unlikely people are susceptible to that end. The "what if" time is best spent nurturing those children, and eventually helping them remember their Mom in the best light. Jim
 
I lost a sister the same way. Depression shows in many ways and you wont reconize it unless you know what to look for.

Having suffered from it myself I am able pickup on the signs in family, friends, employees.

Its real but also treatable. I am sorry for your loss.
 
I've been sitting here trying to come up with something adequate to say. I can't come up with it, but want to offer something. There's so much more that we don't understand than what we do, I don't know where the arrogance comes from that enables some to believe that we're the ultimate power in the universe! All any of us can do is our best. As said earlier, one day at a time, sometimes, one foot ahead of the other. God bless you and your boys.
 
My sincerest condolences. I never put any faith in depression till I nearly got divorced. Booze is no answer to the chemical imbalance that caused our families depression. These days it's all the harder with the daily stress we have.

Again, my sincerest condolences on your loss. You and your family will br in my thoughts and prayers.
 
WOW. One never knows what to say in a situation like that. Having lost a child 26 years ago,i know there isn't much that anybody can say. Makes for an awfully awkward situation wherever you go for quite a while. My depest condolances.
 
Very sorry for your loss. My daughter lost a dear friend in high school to the same illness as your wife. The phrase "took her life" is not part of my vocabulary. She died from an illness as many other people do. She appeared to be in good health but so many times illnesses go unnoticed. Remember the good times.
 
Sorry for your loss. That's a heart breaker.
DO NOT blame YOURSELF for not seeing it coming.

There was a case in Toronto about three years ago. The women/mother was a Obstetrician/Pediatrician herself. And at least two members of her immediate family were also medical professionals. The Post Partum hormones drove her to leap in front of a subway train while holding her newborn.
Perhaps some of us may see or hear tell of a case of PPD the future. Instead of thinking" it will be alright". Your loss will serve as a warning and save others.
 
i am sorry for your loss.we will pray for you and your family.i am at a loss for what else to say.hang on,things will get better.

barry and colleen
 
Prayers and sympathy hugs to you and your sons and all that is concerned. My Wife,son,daughter has went through depression,not a pretty site. they are now doing good with the help of meds.

Stay close to your family and your wifes'family, as you will need them.
 
prayers are on the way from here too.Please seek help for yourself for your and your children's sake too.You and your family have an incredible amount to deal with and it will be alot easier with someone helpfull to talk to.May God comfort you and your family in your time of need and always.pd.
 
That is very sad. I wish you and your family all the best. Contrary to what Tom Cruise says, there is help available for depression but sometimes it is very hard to determine how deep it goes. I hope you have a good support group to help you through this tragedy. There is nothing you could have done differently. Dave
 
I lost my wife to suicide 3 years ago. Apparently she was depressed and overwhelmed by a series of medical problems. We had no children, she was gone, I only had myself to take care of. Even at that, it was hard and in retrospect I wish I had done some things differently.

I tried professional counseling and a suicide survivors support group. Those did not help very much. What did help was to talk one-on-one to others that had been through similar events.

I don't have a time machine. I can't go back and save my wife nor change the mistakes I made in the 6 months that followed. But maybe I can help you. My email is open if you'd like to talk...
 
I want to extend my condolences. Unless someone has experienced a similar loss, they cannot fully understand how you must be hurting. I lost my 24yo daughter to cancer going on 10 years ago. I konw that no one who hasn't experienced this type of loss can understand fully. All folks can do is wish you the best of God's blessing from which hopefully youy can gain strength.
Mr. Bob
 
I'm praying for you. I'm so sorry for your loss, we nearly lost my oldest daughter to suicidal depression 11 years ago. Be there for your kids, and don't be afraid to talk about it and lean on God, friends and family. E-mail me if you care to, and hang in there.
 
Such a sad ordeal you are going through, if only she could see all the friends at her funeral and wake.

She has went on ahead, for reasons not understood by anyone. You will chalange the reasons the rest of your life. The way she left is one of the hardest to deal with. I hope you can understand it is not the normal state of mind for anyone doing this, and comon sence is not a factor.

You will go through many emotions for years to come, and not all will be plesant. You have the best two reasons in this world to keep strong, but remember tears are not a sign of weakness.

Try to remember--- when we get there, perhaps we won't have to ask why.

Keep your chin up, the sun will shine someday. Talking to understanding friends is a good thing, even if we haven't worn your shoes, and there are no words to make it better right now, we will all try to help.
 
Ours prayers from our home to yours are sent... The Good Lord will care for her forever in paradise. Depression is a real thing and hard to notice with most folks. We will continue to pray for your family. God Bless you and yours.
 
Very sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my wife in Dec 04 after a ten year battle with lung cancer.Never smoked a day in her life. She told me she wanted to end her life many times. Because she felt like she was a burden to me being sick. I reminded her I married her for better or worse. Just don't do what I did and sit around blaming yourself,by thinking about what you could have done.Your sons need you now more than ever. If you need to talk I am sure you have many friends on this site you can talk to. You will never get over your loss,you just need adjust as best you can. And be there for your sons. My phone number is 903-536-3202 call me anytime.
 
Sending our deepest sympathy to you and family. Depression has many mask unknown to most. You have the weight of the world on your shoulders at this time--seek professional help now to be able talk this out. The suicide now in your mind will not go away only change over many years. Rather blunt at this time but, have traveled this road for years you are now traveling.
 
My deepest heartfelt sympathies to you, your family and your children. Sometimes God seems far away, but it is then He is carrying you.
Prayers will be sent,
Skipper
 
done said the prayer am on medication took long time to find problem considered same path as your wife treated it with bourbon no help do not blame yourself or her terrible illness rough time for you ahead just bend your head forward and give it all you got i have faith in you and will be thinking of you
 
I am so sorry, You are in my prayers. I lost my first wife when She was 34 [heart problems].We had a 7 year old daughter. Remarried 4 years later to a wonderful woman that took my daughter as her own and gave me a son. She also had PPD after our son was born and wanted to end it all. Thank the Lord we caught it and got her treatment. All that to say this, You have to keep going for your childrens sake and there can be happiness again. Just know that You are being prayed for now and in the coming days.
Ron
 
I'm truely sorry for your loss. Not much I can say other than time will ease your pain. Hang in there.
 
You have My sympathy ,No one is in their Proper mind if they take their life ,. the Black Dog , as Winston Churchill called this terrible malady ,, tries to bite me from Time to Time..some folks like me cannot take the modern bs snakeoil that remedies depression for so many ,, thats why Makers Mark sells so well ...
 
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