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Hey guys,June 1st was not a real good day here, got a few things worked on but sank into a real deep well of bad thoughts and pretty much just didn't care about any thing for a good part of the day. I often wonder, what is it all for? To those who are fortunate enough to have a family to love and care for I suppose its different. I just have a situation that gets me into those feelings to often that I don't really care about doing anything or even being here, not that I would actually do myself any harm mind ya. Too often the feeling of hopelessness sets in with lonelyness keeping it company.
I hope the rest of the week goes better, would yall do me a favor and remember me in your prayers. Thanks
 
Lots of adult men are prone to depression. Think maybe it's in our fate. :>)

Anyhoo, take it from me there are two ways to successfully fight it.

You can either go to the doctor and get the "happy pills" to the tune of about $4 each/per day OR just simply get busy.

Keeping busy works every blessed time, doesn't cost anything and it's just plain healthy. :>)

Allan
 
Gary;

Consider it done. I think we all have a few days occasionally too, when job, finances, homelife, etc. get us down. I go out and work in the woods or see what's growing. Seems to help. Hope the rest of your week goes better.

Larry in Michigan
 
hang in there and try to refocus your thoughts. I get anxiety which often leads to depression cause I get so worked up about things. I dont know what your home or personal life is like, but just getting out and visiting folks is a great help. No matter what you are doing, if you are doing it and not hurting yourself or some one else, it's worth doing. Like Allan said, stay busy, but dont get so busy that you end up feeling like you are behind on everything. I always try to remeber that others do have it worse than me, and yo know, sometimes it makes the days better if I try to help them that do have it worse. Sometimes make really good friends that way, and nothing makes you feel better about what you do than seeing what you can do for others. Dont hold up and get more depressed, get out and visit people.
 
Hey there Gary;
Prayers on the way Gary. Just remember,
if you don't have any "bad days" you will
never appreiciate the "good days".
Bob
God Bless
 
Gary, prayers said for you. Keep your faith in God and He will see you through it.

If I were closer I'd come over for a visit, have a cup of coffee and tour the place... Maybe there's someone on here that is close enough to do that.

When I find myself feeling low or having a bad day, I used to go out and tinker with an old tractor or engine - don't have any here in AZ currently so I look to YouTube for some old engine entertainment... it works for me.

Take care and God Bless.
 
Yup...we all get that way. I do like Allan...I just get my bu#% up and make myself get busy.
Since I like fairly close to a town here in Tx, I sometime just go to a close coffee shop and I have my circle of friends there. Took awhile to get to know them...but I now have a circle of friends that I think are great. When one of us are down or need help...we all pitch in.
Just my 2 cents Gary.
 
Gary, I hope your week goes better too. Life is a roller coaster with it's ups and downs. Sometimes the downs are deep enough that it is hard to remember that the cycle is bound to go up. You did a good thing by asking for prayers.

Being that you are man who believes in prayer, talk with your priest or minister. While you do that, Allan's advice is good. Dig into a project. You are in my prayers.
 
Gary, I'm 79, in bad health, no wife or kids, lost my best friend in January. DO SOME THING, ANY THING. spent a little on some nick-nack toy..some food you like. Hunt up a friend and go help him....do any thing to get your mind off of what it is.
Kennyp
 
Gary prayers are sent and I know how you feel I am 39 and out of work for the moment and had to go back to school. When I get those feelings I try to go and work on something just the thought of helping an old piece of iron get going again seems to help so buck up little camper we are all in this together and were pullin for ya!!
 
YES, get involved in other activities, especially volunteering and/or travel. Our environment, including the weather, contributes to our thoughts and moods just as much as our diet and relationships. So when a storm of dark clouds moves into your area, you can move out. Go visit friends in the next county.
Personally, I like to volunteer at a local organic farm doing small repairs and weeding.
Remember, a black cloud is just a slightly tarnished silver cloud.
Good luck
 
More than a Dozen people here care enough to post nice responses. Hmmmm. We are friends, We do care, and I must agree with those who suggest (shruggest, That is with your sholders a little lifted while saying it)do some volunteer work. My wife and I both are 4-H leaders. Give your local club some tractor maintenance classes or what ever interests you. it definitely connects. Jim
 
i personally have several in-complete projects that i can focus myself on and loose myself for hours at a time. also find that a good cigar and great memories is a way to lift yourself.
 
Gary - Don't know how old you are but I went through a "mid-life crisis" in my 40's - it passed - I am 64 now. Get off your fanny and DO something, start walking, find a project, detail your car, if you have your health you are way ahead of lot of people out there! If nothing else depression is treatable. Saw a story by Terry Bradshaw and he said he used to sit alone and cry because of depression caused by a chemical imbalance, was treated and is now fine. Buck-up!
 
My Dad always told me when things are down in the dumps, dont give yourself time to think. Keep yourself busy from the time you wake up, until you go to bed. Has always worked for me.
 
I find banging on old iron help. I also like to shoot, so I go plinking.

Look around the community and see what other people are doing to enjoy themselves. Join in.
Keep busy. Do you go to church activities? That takes up a lot of my time.

I did go to my doctor after my dad passed away and was given some "happy pills" Didn't take them long, but I suppose they helped as I survived.

If none of this helps, put your phone# out. We'll call you and aggravate you,


Gene
 
I"ve" survived a divorce, a bout with lukemia, open heart surgery, a heart attack and a couple of angioplasties, need to get my knee "scoped "cuz I hurt it this Spring. My calving is going later that it normally would because of extremely hot weather during bull turn out.
But you know, I made it to green grass again this year and I find myself on the right side of sod. I wake up thankful for every morning that God gives me because I love my life ranching and living in one of the prettiest place that God ever created. Sure I get down at times, but then I just think of all the things in life that I have to be thankful for; a loving wife, another day to see the calves in the pasture, or a hawk on the wing, snow covered mountains, or the song of a meadowlark, and living in the good ol" USofA and I"m grateful for every moment.

So when you get into the blues, think about the good things in your life that you are grateful for, go out and take a walk around the place and look at nature"s beauty and the little miracles that are happening all around you. Will Rodgers, I believe , once said, "Most people are about as happy as they want to be." So don"t worry, be happy!
 
If you lived in Arkansas rather than Texas I would bring you some chicken and dumplings and hot hoemade bread and maybe cole skaw made from fresh cabbage out of my garden.
 
We all have problems its how you handle them that matters.Count your blessings you live in the best time in history to be living and live in the best country.What more could you want?
I'm just happy every morning to still be sucking air and able to do a little something.Go out and accomplish something self pity will get you nothing.
 
Hi Gary You sound just like me about 20 years ago. I was so depressed I couldn't care about anything. I was lucky to have an understanding wife who took me to a doctor who sent me to a shrink who new what my problem was. Not only was I depressed, I was also suffering from anxiety (thats worrying about every that you think is going to happen)due to a boss I was worrking for. After some counseling I was put on some medication and it sure helped. When your in this situation your not thinking straight and you need help. Go to your pastor or priest and tell all. They can help. They will pray with you and for you. When you realize that God loves you and that he cares for you, things will start to get better. E-mail me if you wish to talk some more.
 
Hi Gary You sound just like me about 20 years ago. I was so depressed I couldn't care about anything. I was lucky to have an understanding wife who took me to a doctor who sent me to a shrink who new what my problem was. not only was I depressed, I was also suffering from anxiety (thats worrying about every that you think is going to happen)due to a boss I was worrking for. After some counseling I was put on some medication and it sure helped. When your in this situation your not thinking straight and you need help. Go to you pastor or priest and tell all. They can help. They will pray with you and for you. When you realize that God loves you and that he cares for you, things will start to get better. E-mail me if you wish to talk some more.
 
Never would I recommend confiding in your pastor or priest or asking for advice...........except for spiritual matters, of course. It might be different in a LARGE congregation which has trained staff, but in a typical church with only one minister, NEVER. If you're dealing with clinical depression, I doubt that the 'work your way through it' advice given by many is gonna work. If you need professionl help, seek out a professional.
 
So are a long list of other things that are self induced.Its keeps the $$$$ rolling in to the head shrinks and the Prosac makers.Bottom line is I guess no one is to take responsibility for their own actions/problems anymore its "Society's Problem" I guess?
For me if I drink too much,eat too much,gamble too much or make bad choices its me that did it and its up to me to take the consquences and straighten it out.
 
Hi Gary, I understand, really. Its a dark place that people who dont just dont get. I dont know what it is about depression and other mental illnesses that people seem to think you can just 'shrug off'. Seriously, if your heart is sick you go to a cardiologist, if you need a cut sewed up we dont get a needle and thread (at least most of us) we go to a doc. It offends me to no end some of the responses on here telling you to just shrug it off. Find a therapist, or a psychiatrist. Sometimes it takes meds, sometimes not. Depression can be a fatal disease without treatment. Somepeople would still have us treating pneumonia with leaches, medicine doesnt have all the cures but modern medicine does have treatments. Been there. Good lick and I'm thinking about you today.
 
Hi Gary, I can't say that I know how you feel, but I can say that I know that there is very effective help in the Bible.It may not be enough by itself because some problems require multifaceted solutions. I am not a strong student of the Bible but I know enough to know that it is a comprehensive manual for life.For many years I have been a hard driving business man and farmer, as well as aggressive skier, firefighter, and snowmobiler. I probably don't fit the profile of the average Christian very well,but guess what, God Knows us all and takes us all if we just ask him to. It took God some time but he has shown me that he is in control and that I have no problem too big for him. I suggest reading psalm 84 and then find a church that makes it clear that preaching is from the Bible. IT DOES NOT TAKE A BIG CHURCH. IT TAKES ONE WHERE THE PASTOR USES GOD'S WORD DIRECT. God is big on his own. Go bless you and our prayers are with you.
 
Well............how about posting a recipe for some-a-them chicken and dumplings? I'm the mainest chicken and dumplings cooker for the whole family, but I'm always interested in how other folks do it. Maybe start a new thread; don't want to hi-jack this one.
 
This puts me in mind of the movie "Patton" and the way the WW II general chewed out the shell shocked soldier that was being treated for "mental" problems. I don't know if depression is a disease or a choice. But I do know having faith in God and a better tomorrow gives hope, which is what has carried me through my tough times.
 
Gary try to focus on anything that makes you happy. And do as others suggest, get real busy. And if all else fails; seek therapy. I know where you are coming from because of the Vietnam demons; I have put a gun to my head many times. And have stopped when I see my dog. God bless you
 
I am fortunate not to be plagued with depression, but there are are plenty of people who are seriously depressed who you'd be hard pressed to determine the cause. Serious depression can be crippling and not simply treated with "boot straps" mantallity. I used to have an attitude similar to yours till I got closer to people who are REALLY suffering.

Glenn F.
 
Horse $hit...My father was diagnos'd with clinical depression after he kicked cancer's a$$-was treated for it and lived another fine 30 years with treatment raising 5 fine boys. never asked for quarter from the likes of you, and probably wouldn't have accepted it. Gave all he had to any who needed it...a burden on you? HAH!
You should aspire to be like him!

Perhaps you don't eat, drink or gamble too much- sounds like the problem is you breathe to much!
 
Visit our website. My wife writes a Word now and then, and is very uplifting. We are in Cedar Park, just north of Austin.. Neither one of us can really stand the heat, and can't wait for the day when we move back "oop nort".
EagleSpirit Ministries
 
I highly respect you for what you just said and how you said it. I agree with you 100%. We sound rather similar.

Glenn F.
 
A lot of that depression could come from always having to fix something though. Usually it's not cheap and in the worst possible place to get at. That's my story and I'm sticking to it. LoL Dave
 
Gary, stay away from beer, drugs etc and get to a doctor. Lot's of folks suffer from depression and the only crime in it is if you let it ruin your life.
TRADITIONAL FARMERS cured this by heavy drinking, kicking the dog and beating the wife- making everyone around them miserable as well. Now-a-days, celebrax or effxor or stuff named like that in low daily doses will set you right. This is a body chemistry issue, just like diabetes- and it can be handled the same way.
And...PRAY. Jesus loves you, Gary! It will be made right!
 
Brother, If your gonna be blue, be blue. If your gonna be mad, be mad. Embrace it, then get over it. Emotions are rough, but you already know your blue. Acceptence is the the first step. Sounds stupid, but if you can bring yourself to tears, it's a release. They don't have to be sad tears either. I remember the good times I had with lost friends and my best friend, my Dad. Mentally and physicaly you'll feel better. Everyday is the struggle. I look for the good and try my hardest to stay away from negative people. Misery loves company. Some the response's I read were indearing. "Right side of the sod". Probably the most important.
It's spring and graduation time. I found inspiration in the young people who look ahead to their future, after 13 long years in public school. Their attitude is it's my turn now. Ask a grad what's next. Compliment them on their choice. You'll see a wonderful reaction. One more thing brother, a smile goes along way. Smile at everything and everybody. No matter how rude or what kind of a pain the tail they want to be. Good luck and Gob bless you Brother.
 
Gary, I remember you. You posted some time back when you were in the same situation. You made enough of an impression on me that I remember you and your situation. My point Gary is that you have a knack for being able to reach out and communicate with folks, so why not reach out and do as much there? Get outside and get some fresh air, meet folks, assuming that you're able bodied and can get out to do so. You didn't say whether you are or not, and you didn't say the last time either. Sure everyone here wishes you the best and some, most, or even all will include you in your prayers. But, it would be nice to know a little bit about you, what situation has you tied up in Texas without a family, or your family? Are you able bodied and able to get out and about to get some fresh air for your thoughts and to meet folks?

Knew this elderly lady once years back that had become a widow. Not good anytime, especially at her age after having that life long partner pass on and leave her alone. We talked awhile, and sure she was depressed. Real depressed. I told her that one morning I happened into a McDonalds and ran into several coffee clutching elders, retired elders that met there daily I supposed. I told her about them and suggested that some morning she stop up for coffee, orange juice, something, anything. Get out of that house, get some fresh air. She did. I ran into again, joyous as can be. She went up and happened upon them folks, one plesantry led to another and another, and a "Hey, why don't you sit down and talk...". Next thing you know, coffee every morning with the coffee clutchers, then networking with them, through them meeting other folks, and out and about. Didn't replace her husband, but sure helped. How do I know it worked? Same thing happened to another elderly lady that I knew...her partner passed, left her alone in this big ol' world at her age, extremely depressed. I told her about the other, the other about her, the other dragged her out and up to the coffee clutchers, and networked right on about life.

Good luck Gary. Go get yourself a cup of coffee or orange juice some morning if you can. If you can't, tell us why. It'll make it easier for us to understand you, which will help you understand some of us better. Us works better when us is a group.

Mark
 
Gary I lived a big part of my life with the same symptoms you are talking about and had difficulty overcoming them.Changing from the work I was doing, whitch was very stressful to me ,and buying a small business where Icould deal with people much better and become more relaxed and without the pressure I had felt,the weight,and bad thoughts about myself. Spend as much time around understanding people as you can.When the pressure got to high I would stop and look up at a slow moving ceiling fan,and as my eyes moved from one blade to another ,the tightness in my head and eyes would ease up and I would get relief.Wish you the best and pray you get that much needed relief..
 
I've had those days, hell, I've had those weeks. The wife got me P.O.'d yesterday, gave me crap over moving up a party by a week of all things.
And trying to do 40 acres of hay with museum equipment is a great exercise in futility. Every once in a while I remember to trust in God. Things will get better.
 
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