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Have made the decision to take my father to assisted living this weekend. I live 3 hrs from him and he had a medical episode the other night. Luckily my mother was visiting from her assisted living. Strange I know. More than I want to discuss. He fell a year ago and I have been able to keep him at home. A lot of driving, Immaterial, I guess that is what kids do. Hard decision , but the best I can do.
He is 92 going on 93 and I am 67 going on 68. One hell of a man, utmost respect for him.
 
Bruce,

That is one tough choice to make. I had many arguments regarding the necessity of placing my mother-in-law into a care facility. I think when she need more than we could provide, the answer became readily apparent.

Any choice you make may have regrets. I would check in occasionally, ensure proper care, and sleep well knowing you did in the spirit of trying your best.

Prayers for peace of mind,

D.
 
"Assisted Living" or whatever else you like to call aged care does get a bad rap because of some unfortunate cases, but I know a number of elderly people who live there and have told me "This is the best place to be. I am happy here". But do keep an eye on your dad and make sure HIS care is properly done, including medication - seems to be often a point of argument. And his financial affairs too. Do some homework on the establishment both before and after his move to it. We wish you both well.
 
My folks chose to go into assisted care 6 years ago. Dad has been in a wheel chair since 1983. Broke his back riding a colt I had started for him. Anyway, Dad is now 82 and Mom is 77. They absolutely LOVE it!! Dad is more active then he has been in years, and Mom doesn't have to worry about either of them falling and not having any help.
 
My thoughts and prayers are with you during this decision.

I had to put my Dad in a nursing home. Hardest thing I ever had to do, even though it was best for all involved.

God bless.
 
My grandparents (both 90) just moved in to assisted living about 3 weeks ago. Both are very happy and content with their new home. Many activities to participate in, great assistance with housekeeping, meals provided in the dining area, etc.
I am hopeful your dad will be happy once he gets there and gets adjusted to his new home.
 
When it was time for my uncle to go into assisted living my cousin found a place that used to be a farm, it even had a pond right out back residents could fish. Also a dining room set up like a restaurant so when we visited we could all sit at a separate table and have a meal together. We were very impressed with the facility.
 
Bruce I know exactly what your going through. I put my Father in an assisted living home several years ago. It was the best thing for him and after just a short while he realized it and enjoyed his time there. He passed last year.
 
I had to put my 101 year young mother in a nursing home a bout two months ago. She told the Doctor last week her plans are to get strong enough to go home and live alone. She was taking care of all her affairs up until she became dehydrated and weak. Yesterday she seemed as sharp and active as she had been before. I had to take over paying her bills as we didn't want her personal day to day personal information at the home for people to see. Mom still wants to see the check book register after the checks are written. The one Doctor told me that she can never go home without 24/7 care at her age. Some times he kids have to be the bad guys for their own good. I guess my turn will come sooner than I care as well being 79 with walkers and wheelchairs. I know that I will have my heals dug in as well.
 
We just had to put my 94 year young grandmother in a nursing home. She has been in and out of the hospital the past few months. Fallen several times and had several fractures in her back. My Mother and cousins had been taking turns staying with her at night. Neither of them need to be lifting or moving her. She went to one nursing home and they simply had to many patients and not enough staff. Got her in another one a week ago yesterday. She isn't happy about being there but we keep hoping after she gets to where she can get up on her own again and meets people that her attitude will change about being there. I hope everything works out with your dad and he can be happy at his new home.
 
I'm sure that's a hard decision, and hard to follow through on. Bless you for considering your options and then manning up and doing what needs to be done, even when it doesn't feel comfortable.
 
Hard decision for sure. My dad is not there yet. Mom is finally showing her age at 80 and is slowing down some. Going to be hard times ahead for me too. Heck I might end up in one of those places before them ? You never know ? About a year ago I remember seeing a news story about a nice young girl working at a rest home dancing for an elderly fellow. May of even been a lap dance involved ? She got in big trouble. I thought darn it ! I would of been looking forward to going to one if they were still able to offer that service. LOL.
 
My Dad has been gone for 18 years. I remember him sitting in front of me when the time came for him to go to assisted living and he said "I don't want to do this, I would rather just die." He was there for four years before he passed. After about six months of him being quite depressed about where he was (it was pretty tough at times) things finally started to turn. I was talking with him one day and had to ask "it seems like you might be starting to like it here?" His reply was that yes he did like it, saying that he didn't have to worry about getting to the store, laundry, ect ect. The biggest one being that he didn't have to worry about the house and all that went with that.

My hope for you is that he too will see that it's not so bad.
 
I remember when I was part of "the team" that took my Dad into a care center.....Bad job! And now I know I could be getting close to it......Honestly and frankly I hope I croak first.....But being a Christian I know I'm supposed to look at it in a different way.......Well, we'll see I guess.
 
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