There is a younger couple that we met at church. They are having a rough time of it. She had some serious medical issues a while back and that got them really behind the eight ball. They have three kids, 2,7,& 8. He has a fair job but not great one. She can no longer do the work she did before. Their under water on their house and car. Their budget was setup with them both working. So they are just robbing Peter to pay Paul. They have not asked for money and we have not offered any. They had asked an we have given them food/groceries a few times to tide them by until his next check. She just called my wife and asked for some help she had fixed the last of their food this morning. My wife and I packed up a box of stuff. Meat out of our own steers and canned goods we packed this summer. The wife is gone right now as she thought it would be better for her to take it over than me.
My worries: I do not mind in the least helping a couple that is on hard times. I have been there myself. They do seem to be really trying but the fact is that their standard of living is going to be lower than when she had a good job. What help we are giving is just a band aid on a larger wound. So how do you help/advice them on this????? I know that they are going to have to get cheaper housing and a lower cost car. How they do this is where it gets hard to give them advice without PO them.
Also if they are hard up on food today, and he does not get paid until Friday, what type of Thanksgiving are they going to have???? They do not have any family around here that I know of. Then what about Christmas????
When does helping become enabling???? I am thinking of talking to the Pastor and letting him work with them on this. The Church has funds to help people in need. I think that we need to limit our direct help until they figure out how they are going to live cheaper. The sooner they do this the quicker they can start to get back to even again. This a problem I do not know how to help with. If they where totally down and out it is easier to provide them the basics and help to get started. This couple is falling in the middle. I think that they are above any government help too.
When I think of those three kids having a crappy Holiday it makes my heart break. What do you do????
My worries: I do not mind in the least helping a couple that is on hard times. I have been there myself. They do seem to be really trying but the fact is that their standard of living is going to be lower than when she had a good job. What help we are giving is just a band aid on a larger wound. So how do you help/advice them on this????? I know that they are going to have to get cheaper housing and a lower cost car. How they do this is where it gets hard to give them advice without PO them.
Also if they are hard up on food today, and he does not get paid until Friday, what type of Thanksgiving are they going to have???? They do not have any family around here that I know of. Then what about Christmas????
When does helping become enabling???? I am thinking of talking to the Pastor and letting him work with them on this. The Church has funds to help people in need. I think that we need to limit our direct help until they figure out how they are going to live cheaper. The sooner they do this the quicker they can start to get back to even again. This a problem I do not know how to help with. If they where totally down and out it is easier to provide them the basics and help to get started. This couple is falling in the middle. I think that they are above any government help too.
When I think of those three kids having a crappy Holiday it makes my heart break. What do you do????