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agonair · Aug 23, 2015

Well, I knew it was coming. With the last kid off to college, my wife of the past 14 years has moved out. She told me a couple of months ago, but still tough. The reasons are many and I am not angry. I can't say I don't blame her. This is my second marriage failure. I guess marriage is a lot like the old machinery we have...it takes work and needs constant tinkering. Perhaps, if I would have put as much interest in my marriage as I do this old equipment, I would not be posting this right now.

David G · Aug 23, 2015

I have heard that is a difficult stage for a lot of couples, and expect my wife and I will go through similar decisions.

LAA · Aug 23, 2015

I would guess that there are very few men who really know how to put as much interest into marriage as most Women seem to want. Your current blues may soon change to relief.

Dan in Ohio · Aug 23, 2015

Definitely a difficult time, being a empty Nestor , in my life too. My wife and I got through it by working more for about the last 12-15 years. Now we have 3 grand kids and that too is a transition although a glorious one. Also have 14 old tractors that we really don't need but they made the formula work for me.

Keep your head up and your eyes wide open.

paul · Aug 23, 2015

Bummer.

Anything else I say would end up sounding silly. Bummer tho.

Paul

rrlund · Aug 23, 2015

Given the mentality of some women,you probably won't be alone for long. Some of'em will see you as a "fixerupper" who could benefit from their help.

Traditional Farmer · Aug 23, 2015

I've found a whole lot more women that wanted to hitch up than good equipment in my life,but now a good woman that wants to hitch is very rare.But then again just because you take a tractor or a woman for a test drive don't mean you gotta put your name
on the dotted line(LOL)

Dick2 · Aug 23, 2015

A guy that I worked with had been married 4 times. When someone kidded him about that his reply was: "I know how to get them; I just don't know how to keep them".

retired farmer · Aug 23, 2015

Join the crowd. Fifteen years ago the ex turned to drugs and left me for a worthless fifty five year old drug addict who couldn't hold a full time job. Hope she is still happy with him. I adopted some abandoned cats and to be truthful, I get more love from them than I ever got from her in thirty years of marriage.

Bob · Aug 23, 2015

A good dawg wouldn't be a bad choice, either!

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John T · Aug 23, 2015

We been hitched 45 + years but I remember when the last kid left home how empty and hollow I was feeling. After 20 years of ball games and practice and school events and a taxi service then all of a sudden emptiness OUCH IT REALLY HAD ME DEPRESSED BAD. However the good news is you get over it and when the grandkids come you get to fill them full of sugar and send them home lol

John T

Ultradog MN · Aug 23, 2015

Don't think I'm not sympathetic. I know it is hard to lose a loved one.
But don't cry about being alone.
Aloneness is a state of mind. There is nothing wrong with being alone. In fact it offers many advantages and opportunities to learn new things.
I know.
I did 40 years of it and was not unhappy. I went a lot of places and did a lot of fun things that I couldn't have done if I had been married.
I have a lot more respect for someone who can be alone than I do someone who goes from marriage to marriage or relationship to relationship and never discovers who or what they are.

just another old geezer · Aug 23, 2015

Look at this as an opportunity to find new interests or hobbies. Travel a little more, even if it's just weekends away to old tractor shows. Since Dad has been gone I have learned to be alright by myself and not "need" someone around to keep from being bored. Look at as an opportunity to grow. Like a friend who lost a job once said, "I was not fired, I was given the opportunity to explore other avenues of employment"

agonair · Aug 23, 2015

THANKS for the responses...made me think and made me chuckle. Yeah, I am looking forward to some things. Hopefully, will actually finish some projects!!
What I really need is someone who loves the old tractors...cooks...loves to fool around and lives somewhere else.

JF in MI · Aug 23, 2015

You are correct; A wife IS like an old tractor. To keep everything going smoothly they require lots of attention and must be serviced frequently.

Goose · Aug 23, 2015

Everyone talks about how traumatic it is when their kids leave the nest.

I never felt that way when our daughter went off to college. I was fascinated watching her grow into a well-adjusted, responsible, self-sufficient adult. We raised her to be independent and that's how she turned out. Somewhere during her junior year in high school, it dawned in me that she was thinking and talking like an adult and not like a kid anymore.

37chief · Aug 23, 2015

John T, About the same here, 45 years. The kids live real close. The grand kids are always here taking care of the their horses. We take them to school a few times a week. Our house is not empty, we have our dog, and three cats. Since the kids are gone we have a Motorhome. We are taking a trip to Arizona in Oct. Stan

BushogPapa · Aug 23, 2015

MY personal experience is "It is much cheaper to RENT than to OWN"...!!!

Ron..

Traditional Farmer · Aug 23, 2015

If they think its bad when they leave just wait until they show back up(LOL)

John T · Aug 23, 2015

I will be in Arizona in October myself on our return RV trip from 6 Natl Parks ending up in Yosemite where all 3 of our kids are going to join us. Were taking in the Grand Canyon and Zion Park on the way out.

Plan is to be at Agave Gulch Military Camp in Tucson Arizona around October 12 SEE YOU THERE????

http://www.militarycampgrounds.us/arizona/agave-gulch-famcamp

http://www.dmforcesupport.com/FamCamp/famcamp.html

John T

Dave H (MI) · Aug 23, 2015

Look at the bright side! Recent legislation has DOUBLED the number of people available as potential spouses!

37chief · Aug 23, 2015

We will be north of Phoenix in a town called Sedonia, on the first until the 9 th. Looks like you will be south of me if you are near Tucson. We did the Zion park a couple years ago. We will be leaving as you are entering the state. Stan

Bob · Aug 23, 2015

A good friend of mine who is divorced and has a GF tells me there's no reason for the GF to spend any more than 45 minutes at his place at a given time. I think she helps him catch up on paperwork, then goes home. Sounds like a plan!

01gentdc · Aug 23, 2015

today ,in thiscrzy world ,if you can float it, fly it, or phu- it otherwise , you are just as well off to rent it , The Modern Woman aint worth bringing home ... if you do take her home she will be hard to get rid of,.,. had a good wife for 20 yrs , got 4 beautiful children from her, she never worked out , was a good housewife ,, went to nursing school after 2 yrs ,, I had no idea who she was or what she had become,,. simply because of all the bijes she thought were her friends,, all came to a ugly end in june 1996, she married some one in august ,.I stayedun married til 2005,, met lots of gals, dated and test drove them a while ,, none were worth taking home for keeps , but I let two gals set up house with me at different times .took a while to get rid of them ... THEN I met my Sicilian born sara ,,.we are like green acres ,, she is the lovely naïve lisa like on the tv show ,with an Italian accent .it aint perfect , but it will do .. its been easy to see humor in everything . and that goes along wat .. I would not give a dollar for another day between marriages ...

State of Jefferson · Aug 24, 2015

Now THAT'S Funny Dave!!

Ben

hillbillyhim · Aug 24, 2015

Good luck. Finding a gal that likes tractors and can cook is hard to find.

Leroy · Aug 24, 2015

I know what it is like to be suddnely be alone as I lost my wife of 37 years this past march. She woke up hurting so bad she called into work at 6:30 would not be able to get in, something she only did a couple of times. At about 10 till 7 I asked her if she was going to be OK, said yes go on to bathroom, when I came back to bedroom 5 minutes later she was gone. We thought I would be first one to go by probably 15 years. It is so lonely, we talked about everything.

So at least you knew it was comming and was not blindsided. I know it can be hard for you but it at least was something you could prepare for, sudden death you cannot.

JML755 · Aug 24, 2015

Ditto on Goose's comment regarding kids. We raised our 3 girls to be independent. Made sure they went away to college to experience living on their own. Told all of them, there's a bed here for them if they need it, but that shouldn't be their "Plan A". See too many kids that "fail to launch" and their parents are a big part of the problem.

Karl in MD · Aug 24, 2015

After a failed 15 year marriage, I'm tempted to do what Lewis Grizzard said: I'm just going to find a woman who hates me, and buy her a house.

n9lhm · Aug 24, 2015

I know what you mean. We noticed how quiet it got when the first kid went to college. This year we are on our 10th foreign exchange student and have had a great time with all of them. We feel like we have family all over the world now. Also you don't have to pay for college or weddings on any of them!

GordoSD · Aug 25, 2015

Holy spit Batman. I am now available to half the old codgers here on YT.NOT LOL

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