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I am on the board of our small cemetery. We ordered four casket valts (heavy plastic liners). My friend and myself went to pick then up where they were delivered. We saved some on the shipping. Talking to the delivery man, he said his business is down. The reason is, more people are doing cremation. What are your thoughts on traditional casket burial, or cremation? Cremation creeps me out. I am going for the coffin. Then I really don't have a choice if my family changes my plans. Stan
 
I'm coming around to cremation instead of burial. Less stress on the family to watch the loved one being hauled around and displayed and dirt thrown on them. Memorial services with the urn there (or not) seem to be about half what I go to these days. My dad was cremated, we are going to his memorial a month after he passed. Mom wants the same thing... really surprised me they both wanted that.
 
I've always wanted cremated. No services. Ashes in a coffee can and poured into the forks of an old Sycamore here on the farm. Maybe a Keg party if anyone wants.
 
Marilyn said I will not be cremated and I guess I don't have a choice. Dad, the ever thrifty person, will be cremated and a few friends will get together in his house for the service. I will dig the hole for the urn beside moms grave.
 
I too am on the local cemetery board, we only allow concrete vaults, we have had the plastic ones float. Nothing like having a floater.
 
Cremation for me, my grandpa was cremated as per his wishes but since he passed away in the winter it was also nice that we didn't have to get together again for his burial and go through the grieving again.

The funeral director told us if we wanted to put his ashes in something more personal we could. The one thing I remebered he always had with him was his toolbox so that became his display case for the funeral.

I told my wife my I am to be cremated and my ashes are to be place in the starting tank from a John Deere B, which I have but haven't gotten it painted yet.
 
I want a viking funeral , set ablaze in a long boat on the water .... Of course the permeits and EPA ,DNR issues will make that a hassle ....so Just cermation. Bury some of my ashes next to my gramma overlooking the Sheyenne river valley in North Dakota .
 
Both parents requested cremation, kept my Dad's ashes here until my Mom went. Buried them together in a small vault on a single grave. Flipped a coin to decide who was going to spend eternity "on top" (you'd have to have known my parents)!
My "father" got a few rides on my motorcycle, went fishing on my boat and flew in a 172 Cessna with my son---all the things he never got "around to" when he was still here.
Will be cremated as well...wife can spread me or flush me, whatever.
Figure I've spent my entire career fighting fire- might as well let it win once!
 
As a grave digger its about 50/50 in the cemetery my cousin and I dig in. I live about 20 miles away in a little bigger town and there is more cremations here. Local mortuary guy found out I'm a grave digger and has my name on file when the other guy quits doing the cremations and I will take over where I live. chris
 
Cremation for me and the wife. She wants her ashes spread on her garden. And I am not giving the greedy funeral home any more of my money than I have to. So to the garden for me.
 

Cremated. I told my wife to get rid of me the easiest/cheapest way possible. There is a place in Birmingham, Al (90 miles from me), that does the cremation for about $800. and will transport for the cremation for a small fee. Can't beat that! Ashes to Ashes and Dust To Dust, is what the preacher always says at a funeral...so I take that literally!
 
When you do a little research, you find that through the years many people, especially those who live in "tribes", have practiced cremation. We discussed it some years ago and decided on cremation ourselves. It is not nearly as expensive as traditional funerals and I promise, you won't feel a thing!
 
One of my sisters had her husband's ashes placed in his favorite tackle box which she buried on a lake shore in Minnesota.
 
I'm undecided but my wife has the burning thing in relation to you know where down below. She's totally against cremation. She does have a point
 

Many are getting cremated to reduce the costs. They often have no visiting hours and no memorial service. I have told my wife many times that I don't want to be taking up space for eternity. It is where my soul is that matters. There will be a no cost memorial service at church and my ashes will be spread on my fields.
 
When a fella I knew died his wife had him cremated and she kept the urn on the fireplace mantle. She told people this was the first time she could keep an eye on him.
 
I aint having nothing to do with being buried or burnt. I have the will all made out and the taxidermist paid up in advance. I'm just going to be handed down from generation to generation and stood and mounted on roller skates so they can move me from room to room.

Mark
 
Yup look at New Qrleans! That happens every so often down there. On top of the ground cause of the water under ground. And they are stone!
 
I don't really care, would rather be cremated than waste a bunch of money that the survivors need.

I knew a man that worked at a crematorium for a while. Said there was a hole in the furnace, you could watch the progress... Said at some point the arms would always go up. Told me "No matter who they were, last thing they did was lift their hands to the Lord!"

And then, there is this solution...(Gotta listen to the last verse!)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1-QzLIjL1u4
 
Cremation for my wife and I. NO service, NO visitation, NO preacher, private ceremony, ashes poured out near the waterfall here on the farm. Headstone "In Memory of" at the local cemetery.
 
I would like to add something. Watch the movie "Wind Walker" with Trevor Howard as the main character. He plays an old chef who is placed on top of a platform like the Plains Indians do. Let the winds and the animals take you. And this is where the story begins. A little "family" oriented but very interesting, all in native tounge with translation and kind of sad but sweet too. Wonderful wonderful ending. Made in the late 70s. You can get a DVD but it is not in wide screen cause someone bought the rites and will not rerelease it. I have watched many times and loan it to a few friends. Everyone liked it, Give it a watch, you might be able to stream it. Jeffcat.
 
Had a SIL die on 29 January this year. The funeral was the next day. Home made coffin, no embalming, My wife and her mom dressed her, pastor friend did the service, etc, etc.....

The whole thing cost a whopping $350. Would have been $200 cheaper, but we hired a backhoe to do the digging. We lowered her and filled the hole.
 
Cremation. Joined a 'Memorial Society' about 30 yrs. ago for $80. Fee for (lifetime..until) cremation $100 per person (whole family covered). Won't have any input at the time and don't care where the ashes/bone fragments go. I checked a couple of weeks ago and the outfit is still viable, we'll see in 25 yrs. ! (69 now).
 
I was talking to a funeral director a while back about this and he said that there are way more cremations. He claimed that there are a lot of people that aren't buying the part about rising from the dead.

I have it in my will that I want to be cremated and the dust spread on our family plot with no
headstone.

I don't go to church so I guess I won't be going to heaven if there is such a thing.
 
I told my wife years ago to have my remains cremated and scatter the ashes on the garden so I could grow one last crop!
 
I am a trustee in two cemeteries.Today, We see about 50/50% for full burial and cremation.
The cost is about the same.
Over the years I have seen ashes buried in many things from a baked bean pot to a ten quart milk jug also ashes spread aver fields and at the sea shore.
 
I don't really care either way but I will be buried. I have the space right beside my first wife.

My second wife wants to be cremated. She wants half her ashes to be buried next to her parents and the other half next to me. This works for her as these two places are 650 miles apart.

As for visitations or wakes.

My Father did not want any kind of service. He did not even want to be buried anywhere. He always said to just donate his body to science and let them throw out what ever they did not use. That really bothered me. In the family plot there are SIX generations of my family buried there. If he was not there then there would be HOLE in the lineage so to speak. He finally decided to have a SMALL family service. Then be cremated and buried next to his Parents.

I think the visitation and actual funeral are NEEDED for the family and friends. It is a time for them to grieve together. It is a "closing" event/time for the survivors. I actually think it is harder on the family and friends when there are NO services. They don't have a "Official" period of grieving so to speak.
 
I wanna be burned on a funeral pyre: stack up a few cords worth of fire logs, throw my corpse up on top, light er up.
Everyone can dance around the flames, drinkin whiskey and painting their faces with the ashes ;-)

Ben
 
"Cremation creeps me out."

And having your blood sucked out and replaced with formaldehyde doesn't???? LOL!
 
When my wife died we did have a visitation, but some of our kids got upset because some family members who hadn't bothered to contact her while she was sick came to the funeral home. I don't think I will even have a visitation. The wife's ashes are in an urn on a shelf, mainly because we have never decided just what to do. May just wait and bury hers and mine together.
 
Bumblebee,
There is nothing about Cremation that will prevent you from rising from the dead. It is a common comment from funeral directors (and sometimes preachers) to induce you to gravitate toward a more expensive service.

Going to church will NOT guarantee your Salvation.

May I respectfully advise you to re-think the headstone - your descendants will appreciate a memorial stone.
 
It happened on the top of the hill. It was a bad back fill job(frozen ground) but still something to watch out for. The funeral home paid for a reburial.
 
The good book says ashes to ashes dust to dust so to me that says no difference plus if your ashes no one can dig you up and mess with your DNA
 
I want to be cremated. I don't want to be kept in an urn but spread somewhere that whoever is getting my earthly crap thinks would be meaningful to me and just disappear.

It took me by surprise recently to find out my parents also want to be cremated. I believe they still want a stone in the cemetery--they own 3 plots.

My grandparents are buried in church cemeteries.

Before my decision on cremation I'd always half joked I wanted to be buried in a plain pine box, no vault, no embalming. I'm not sure if that's even legal now.
 
To each their own I reckon. I have no intention of burning on either side of eternity. They can roll me in a ditch and fill it up. Don't see how anyone can keep an urn with someones ashes inside. To me that woulden't be any different than keeping a skeleton. No thank's!
 
Stan,
A lot of the people I know should be planted face down so the rest of the world would have a place to park their bicycles, when we run out of gas lol.
My wife and I are scheduled for cremation whenever the time comes. I am also scheduled to recieve asbestos boots and gloves. When I go look out your doors to see the huge black oily cloud darken the sun and moon,then you'll know I'm gone. LOU
 
I keep getting notices from 2 different places that want to cremate me. I'm not ready for that yet, as I'm still upright, taking nourishment and walking around.

My wife & I will be cremated when the time comes. I'm too claustrophobic to be put in a coffin!
 
I had my son's body cremated and split the ashes with his mother and me so we each have a part of him in separate urns. On top of that I purchased several small locket type cylinders that hold a tiny amount of ashes. I passed those out to his many friends who wanted one. I have one hanging on my truck and car rear view mirrors and dangling on a chain between my motorcycle handlebars. He goes where I go. Ghoulish? Maybe in some opinions, but not mine. TDF
 
My wife had an aunt who, while she was alive, told all the relatives that she did not want her casket to be put in a vault. She even put that request in her will. Her reason was that she didn't have enough strength to push the vault lid open when the day of reckoning would happen. She even made sure that the cemetery didn't have any restrictions about going vaultless.
Her relatives put her in a vault.
So far, she has not come back to haunt them, although maybe it's because she can't get out of the vault. Humor mode is now off.
 
Neither my Wife or me believe in cremation. Have had our plots, next to my parents for this comming summer 37 years and stone for over 15 years.
 
Fellow that lived in the mountain part of the county had a bunch of friends and they were always playing practical jokes on each other. He got cancer and when he died, he had it set up for his friends to carry him up the long hill to the cemetery. They struggled as it was a steep hill. After a short graveside service, his son motioned to the funeral director and they opened the casket. His son told all the guys " Well, Dad got you all one last time". Then they took out all the cement blocks laid around the body.
Richard in NW SC
 
".....I wanted to be buried in a plain pine box, no vault, no embalming. I'm not sure if that's even legal now."

Depends on your location....it is here in Missouri. Just did it with a SIL....
 
My wife who passed in December wanted a traditional burial. I want to be cremated. The small rural cemetery (association) allowed me to purchase 1/2 of a plot and my ashes can be interred there too. Saves some land and we'll be together again.
 
My wife and I are both going to be cremated and our ashes spread somewhere that only the person spreading them will know. Want to make good and sure that none of my relatives ever are able to visit, I have not seen any of them in almost 10 years, and never want to see them again, now or in the afterlife if at all possible.
 
That's my thought as well. Cremation is not an option nor is stewing in my own jucies (embolmed) in a sealed coffin forever. There is a way to have a natural burial. It referred to as a green burail. Basically it means be recycled into dirt. Wife and I both plan to go that way. If interested google natural or green burial.
 
I would prefer to be cremated (after I die, of course) but since my wife is likely to outlive me, she will do what she wants. I don't care because I'll be DEAD.
Had my beloved cat cremated when she died of liver cancer last year. I have her in a little wooden box in the gun safe and want her to be placed with me whatever SWMBO decides to do.
However, I ain't planning to die for a LONG time.
 

I'm considering cremation mainly because of cost and I can have my ashes spread on the farm. I've been living off cows eating grass, I may as well fertilize the grass. I also am repulsed by the traditional funeral. People parading by the deceased and saying "He looks so natural" is just weird to me.
 
I lost my eldest son, a 24 year old army vet to suicide last July. I opted for cremation and I have his ashes that I will eventually sprinkle around the farm. I get a lot of flak from family about them wanting him to be buried in the local Vet cemetery so he can have a monument.

My son's monument will be a 150 year old oak tree. Eventually it will become mine too.
 
I made my own coffin- plain pine box with carrying handles- a couple years ago just after radiation treatment for cancer(just in case I was the 15% treatment didn't help), ready for whoever in family needs it, setting in older brothers garage. would have saved about $1000.0 on younger brothers funeral if the other brother the sheriff called had known it was nearby. About $100.00 in materials from Menards. Deacon in church had mother die last year- funeral expense had 2 coffin rental for $500.00 each time, viewing and then again later funeral service. Big 'Pine Box' for public displays, then cloth body bag for the oven and small box for ashes to set on shelf or carry into woods to help grow a tree. Youngest brother is in Missouri, maybe I should see if we can drive down when needed and help the lawn grow. RN
 
I know of a few people who want to go to med school after the die. My donating their body to med school, no funeral expenses. When they are done cutting up up, Cremation.

I'm looking into having my ashes put in a soccer ball. That way when my kids have a bad day, they can come home and kick my ashes.
 


No decision here. We have our plots, caskets, and funeral all payed for. Two years after we were married, they started up a new cemetery about four miles away, and we bought our lots then. Then when my Mom passed away, Dad bought the two lots next to ours. So we're not going far.
 
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