Christmas over the years

37chief · Dec 24, 2014

Almost every Christmas over the years I was able to enjoy with family. I enjoyed everyone. One stands out as being not so joyful. It was in 1967 in the Navy, stationed in Iwakuni Japan.
The CO thought it would be a good idea for everyone to work as normal. So we spent Christmas day working. I guess that kept us out of the bars feeling sorry for ourselves. I am sure others in the service, or working other jobs have had a miserable Christmas during their life. What has been your experience? Stan

JayinNY · Dec 24, 2014

Maybe not what your looking for, but this will be my first Christmas without my wife of 12 years, and not having my daughter on Christmas Day, I was lucky to have her today, so we had a great day, then I get home and get the mail and see that wife's attorney wants my trial for custody on Jan 29th adjourned to feb 26th, in August I was supposed go to trial on oct 30 th, it never got scheduled, now she wants to put it off even longer, it just sucks., so ya this Christmas will be my worse down the road I guess. At least I'm alive and well I guess! Lol

Bruce from Can. · Dec 24, 2014

Well it wasn't so bad for me, but I am sure my wife didn't care for it. Dec 3rd 2012 my wife fell and broke both her arms.So that Christmas ,I cooked dinner, spoon fed her miked the cows and anything and every thing else.She was a very patient ,patient, and put up with a bumbling farmers nursing,cooking etc. Like I said worse for her than I, but very different.

JD Seller · Dec 24, 2014

Jay you need to get a BETTER lawyer!!! Like yesterday too. Than you need to remember that your ex has turned the page. There is no need to be nasty but you do need to forget "what SHE wants" and concentrate on "what YOU want".

She has already got you to wait 4-6 months longer than it should have been from the first court date. You also need to stand up to whatever lawyer you get too. HE/SHE works for you not the other way around. They will gladly keep it rolling along because they get paid more the longer it takes.

IF you keep letting her and the lawyers jerk you around it will continue on into the future. Even if you get the court to let you have your daughter more your ex can easily prevent that happening in a smooth way. So being FIRM now will help later.

I know I may sound harsh but I have had to hold the hands of too many men over the years when their wives moved on and they did not.

So have a Merry Christmas!!!! Just remember the good time you had with your daughter today. Forget the legal wrangling until Monday.

retired farmer · Dec 24, 2014

Couldn't have said it better myself.

JayinNY · Dec 24, 2014

Thanks JD, I have talked it over with my parents about getting another lawyer, I don't know how much of this is her fault, but we haven't got our day in court to present our case, show our evidence ect, it's just a joke.

GordoSD · Dec 24, 2014

Tell your attorney he doesn't need to rep you at that hearing. You go and tell the judge why another delay is unreasonable, hurting you and your daughter. Make it about her, not you,
Your ex is too stupid to see that her attorney is milking her, and you with more court time. Bring that to the judges attention also,
The reason you don't bring your attorney is "what do you have to lose" other than another 2000 dollars.

JayinNY · Dec 24, 2014

Is it even possible to talk to the judge, another thing the law guardian for my daughter is retireing at the end of this year, so another one will be appointed to her.

Jeff B. · Dec 24, 2014

Things could always be worse. If you were one of the refugees fleeing from conflict across an endless sea of sand, you might think you were in heaven, only going through a crappy divorce. I was married for 12 years, too, and most of them were good. Afterward, with a couple years of healing under my belt, I found great comfort in living alone. Not that the divorce was fun, but there IS light at the end of the tunnel.
If I had any advice for you, I'd say, (if you have a lawyer) to ask why she's dragging it out, and get it over with. The sooner it's done, the quicker you will heal up emotionally and get on with your life.
I feel for you, man. I know what it's like. Sorry to hear what you're going through, but I hope you make the best of it. There are others on this site that will help hold you up.
God Bless,
Jeff

NCWayne · Dec 25, 2014

I always enjoyed Christmas growing up, as most kids do. After school I did 6 years in the USN, and there, it was pretty much 'business as usual' every Christmas I can remember. Once out, I always enjoy Christmas for the kids, but tell everyone not to buy me anything. Since getting married, I still enjoy this time of year for our daughter (even though she knows about Santa now), and the rest of the kids in the family.

For us, as a family, this will be the best Christmas we've had since my wife and I got married. That's because our daughters biological father is finally out of the picture, and no longer causing us heartache or pulling us apart on the Holidays. Hopefully by next Christmas we'll have the adoption process complete, and things will be even better still.....

88-1175 · Dec 25, 2014

like jay my year has been pretty bad,health wise its been so-so,but ive been without my ex wife for 2 yrs.we were close young and married young.we were married 20 yrs,she wrote a letter when she left saying she cheated randomly for 17 of those 20,i was completely devastated,i knew about one and forgived her.then itjust gets worse from there,the son is with me again,girlfriend isn't,(yes).were divorced shes moved on to wreck another mans life,the big 'd' only cost me 325 dollars.do I want her back no way!!! but I do miss a woman terribly bad.thats gonna be 1st on my agenda come the new year !!!!!!..

Dick2 · Dec 25, 2014

I remember that Christmas on the farm was a good experience for me. I would go to the barn and somehow the cattle seemed to be more contented than on any other day. They seemed to know that the day was special to them too. There was a noticeable difference in their behavior.

MeAnthony · Dec 25, 2014

Ditto everything JD Seller said. My separation/divorce took two years, because my ex-wife wanted to delay/reschedule dates and fight over every little detail. She had several different men in and out of the house during this time. The whole thing was just a mess and very rough on the kids(oldest son was with me the whole time, daughter and younger son were 50/50 as decreed by the court). At the end of it all, after the judge's final ruling, ex-wife told her lawyer "find a way to stall, I changed my mind about getting divorced." After that emotional roller coaster and $12,000 in legal fees, I'd have been a fool to go back. Kids and I are much better off now.

Most important is the affect it will have on your daughter, best to get it over with as quickly as possible, in a fair and sensible manner.

Kyle in KY · Dec 25, 2014

Being in Afghanistan for the second Christmas in a row!

rrlund · Dec 25, 2014

33 years of milking cows. If the gutter cleaner chain or manure spreader chain was ever going to break,or anything else that could go wrong,it did on Christmas.

David G · Dec 25, 2014

I have no experience to share, but wish you the best.

Goose · Dec 25, 2014

This was the first time in 15 years that our daughter was home for Christmas.

When she was in the real estate field in the Washington DC area, her office was a madhouse in December with all the high rollers wanting to get their big deals wrapped up by the end of the year, and it was impossible for her to take off.

This last July, she accepted a job with a real estate title company in Omaha and lives in La Vista, a suburb of Omaha.

It's nice having her less than an hour away instead of 1200 miles.

Nebraska Cowman · Dec 25, 2014

I've always had cattle to take care of on Christmas so I may look at things different. But I do remember one cold Christmas Eve. 1983 to be exact. Anybody alive then will remember THAT winter. I had friends over for dinner and after dark a knock came at the door. Water problems in the feedlot. I was soon back in the warm house problems fixed. My friends seemed to think this was out of the ordinary that I would even be asked or expected to go out on such a night and I have never forgotten their wonder. It all seemed so very natural to me.

Pair-a-dice farm · Dec 25, 2014

I can't remember the last Christmas that I didn't work at least a couple of hours. I was a boiler operator for many years and there weren't enough of us so that we could take off much work I've always had cattle and for the last 15 years have worked for myself and I guess I'm a slave driver :lol: This is the 1st year in a long time that I wasn't calving at Christmas but after last year I decided I would miss a few months than go through that again.
Honestly after a couple of hours at the house I get antsy and need to go out anyway.

Fawteen · Dec 25, 2014

Keflavik Iceland, 1987.

11 months into an unaccompanied tour of duty, dark 20 hours a day, fighting (and losing) a battle with alcohol.

Yeah, that was pretty miserable.

showcrop · Dec 26, 2014

My recollections of Christmas over the years are positive. From when I was a kid, with three siblings, to raising my own family, to being with our two and the three grandkids. my younger brother however, youngest of four, always would sulk at Christmas, because he was never happy with what he got. In all of the Christmas pictures, he would be frowning while everyone else was smiling. This has continued through the years, as for most of the forty five years he has for the most part not wanted much to do with his siblings wife or children. He just continues to make himself miserable convinced that he always deserves better than he gets.

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