Update on Winnie

Well today is my first day alone here on the farm stated out by crying then trying to eat a little breakfast. BOy it's hard. I keep seeing my wife around the house just walking in or sitting in her chair.
If you would like to send flowers she is at the Farmstrom mortuary 401 Monmouth street, Indepence, Or 97351 untill Friday morning.then Hopewell Cemetery, Hopewell, or
Walt

Walt,

I cant tell you how bad I feel for what you are having to go through. I joke around sometimes about my better half, but the truth is, I would be completely lost without her.

Its ok to cry. Let yourself lean on the loved ones around you. You will eventually deal with things better, but it doesn"t have to be today.
God bless you, Walt
You and your family are in my prayers. BW

Keep talking to us Walt we are your friends.

We can never replace Winnie, but there is
always some one here that will listen.

Prayers for you.

I am very sorry to hear of your loss, Walt.

It will take time to feel better, but time does heal things.

And most of all, take care of yourself.

My sincerest condolences to you.

I second that. Prayers here as well.

Hi Walt
Sorry to hear of your Very sad loss. Don"t be ashamed of crying, It"s a better way to deal with things now, than just storing it up and having a huge emotional Crash down the line. I"m sure you got lots of memory"s to make you smile as well.
Thinking of you ,family and friends at this sad time.
Regards Robert

My condolences on your loss.

very soory to hear of your loss Walt, we will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

So sorry to hear about your loss. I know my wife and I have been married going on 7 years now, and although we joke about me not missing her if she was gone, I know in my heart that it's a completely different story. It's never easy to lose someone close to you, and even harder to keep on when they are gone, but I always try to keep in my mind the thought that they loved me enough to want me to be happy, and I love them enough to want them to be looking down on me and seeing me happy. Not happy that they are gone, but happy remembering their life and the times had together, and knowing that some day we'll be together again.

Flowers on the way.

Hang in there.

Sorry for the loss of your wife.

So sorry for your loss. I'll keep praying for comfort and peace for you, Walt. Go ahead and shed those tears... somehow, it seems they help.

My mom went a couple years before my Dad. Dad said the first year was really hard. He cried a lot and that's ok.

Walt, I went through the same thing after being married 52 yrs. I took care of my wife for 7-1/2 yrs. After she passed(witch was not a shock) I decided not to become a couch potato. Keep yourself busy, If your a Church man go there, people are always willing to help! Time is on your side. I'm praying for you my friend! Jim in N.M.

I'm sure that there are no words to express the grief you must feel. So sorry for your loss. As time passes, it may become a bit easier, but there will always be a big empty spot. It is never easy to lose a family member. Best wishes, and hope that God will look out for both of you.

What can one possibly say to console you at this time. Just know that many are praying for your family. I hope that you may find the strength to go on. One minute at a time. One minute at a time.

When my Mother passed away I said it was the cruelest thing that could've happened to my Dad. They kept each other going as I'm sure you and Winnie did. We kids missed Mom but nothing like Dad did.

Thank you very much Nancy I sure she will treasure them.
Walt

Give yourself time to grieve, and stay close to your children and other relatives as much as possible.

We are going through my Mother's decline now. She is reliving her childhood in her hometown of Charlevoix, Michigan most evenings. She is gone from us most of the time and the grieving process is ongoing. Even though we will miss her very much, we don't want her to linger and suffer.

Best wishes and hope you find peace during this sad time.
Rand

It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' Not necessarily true. The wounds remain. In time the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.

Dgasper , you are so right. I liken it to a severe physical wound that you don't totally heal from.

Walt, like the others said feel free to let it out on us any time you feel the need. A broken heart can be mended with compassion from your friends. Jim

Walt losing your wife is one of the hardest things to go through in the world. I know what your going through. Lost my first wife at 45.

You will go through stages in your grief. You will be so sad you will cry for the slightest reason. I then got mad at the world myself. Why her and not me.

Then after a time it got better. I still had a hole in my heart that was tough on me. Heck it still is there 19 years later.

Here is some little things that helped me.

Encourage people to talk about your wife. Many will shy away from it as they don't want you to suffer by reminding you of her. Well if your like me you where think of her all of the time anyway. So talking about her was actually a way to share my grief.

DO not allow some one to come in an remove "Her" things. Unless she had mountains of stuff. Wait a while for your grief to settle down to where it is not as sharp of pain. Then sort it yourself. The reason being that there will be things she kept that meant something only to you and her. They maybe "junk" to anyone else.

An example of this would be a worn out pair of woman's leather winter cloves that my first wife kept and I still have. They have holes on top of holes. So why keep them??? Well they where my Christmas gift to her on the first Christmas we where married. We did not have much so we only got each other one thing. I paid $12 for those gloves in 1966. That was a 1/4 of my weekly pay at the feed mill. She wore them for many years. I did know she kept them. She would get them out just to remember our first Christmas together.

So do that yourself. It will make you cry like a baby but it will help you in the long run. Your grief will lessen and the GOOD memories will over ride the pain that your now feeling. So it does get easier.

Email me and I will gladly listen and talk to you anytime you want, day or night.

Thank you I will always cherish the times we had together after 46 years there are many. She fell in love with sports car ( a 1968 Saab Sonett ) we spent many miles in that little car going hunting and fishing and just camping out.
I still have the car plan to keep it forever.
Walt