Dealing with new neighbors need your opinions

First not having issues with new people but i am getting bashed locally for what i did. Here is it in a nut shell. New people bought a place some of it borders me. I stay on my farm and don't bother them, I don't really associate with them, I have little in common with them. Locals say I am not sociable don't welcome prople from away etc. To me they are good neighbors they leave me alone don't seem to cause my farm any grief. Just wondering how you all feel about this???? Others in the area have pestered them and been like new best friends!!!!

well since you asked... you ought to be yourself, not what somebody tells you you ought to be.

Some people have way too much time on their hands. I don't socialize with my neighbors either. I am too busy working and doing what I have to do. If a neighbor comes over and wants to talk to me, I will take a few minutes with them,but I'm just not the visiting type.

Sounds to me like you are worrying too much about gossip.

You could be friendly and say hello, doesn't cost much.
The new neighbours may think you are some crazy hermit loner from what they see and hear now.

I agree with FBH44 100%.

With the following proviso. There is no excuse for bad manners. Ill behaved, rude people need to clean up their act. Too many people only socialize thru forums and other "social media"...an oxymoron if ever I heard one. When I bought my place, it came from an estate and two of the beneficiaries live across the street. Elderly men who, in spite of being warmly treated by myself and every member of my family, have gone on some shameful rants about how they opposed the sale and wished the estate (which was open for many years because of these two) had never sold the property. They have insulted us and we have even had vandalism and theft. Just a horrible pair of SOB's and yet, I still wave and smile as I go by. It could have been so much different.

When new people move in near you. Go over and welcome them to the neighborhood. Tell them if they need something, to just ask. Most of the time they won't bother you again but you will have a good foundation should the day come, and it likely will, that you need something from THEM.

I'm surprised at some of the answers here.
First of all you have the right to be an atrabilious old crank if you want to be.
There is nothing wrong with that.
You also have the right to be left alone on your own property as long as you don't do stuff that bothers your neighbors.
A true individual does not give a rat's nose what other people think of him.
Next thing you know they will be talking about how you dress funny and that you need a haircut and your house is the wrong color and you'll have to get a subscription to GQ magazine and we'll have to read a lot of posts here about men's fashion.
Ignore them.
Soon enough you'll be thought of as that neighbor who is ok but prefers to keep to himself.

We came off the farm and bought a house that was over built for the neighborhood. The rich guy that built our house also built one for his SIL that was real close to ours that he owned. When she died the banked son bought it for 60 cents on the dollar, kept it a week and sold it. Since then the first owners were okay. The next one, we said hello and gave them a rose. Worst mistake ever. They drug in 3 dogs, a labthat caused no trouble, a beagle that dug under our fence, and a black barking SOB. A BIG mouth obnoxious SOB that FINALLY moved. Next group same old stuff but with only 2 dogs but they barked twice as much. Thank goodness our trees block their veiw but they cut off the overhang on their side of our fence after we called the cops about the dogs. These yoyos think a 1/2 acre lot is living out in the country. This one was target shooting a bow with a house with 2 very young girls living in it plus using his back yard as his toliet in front of neighbors.

Yes we do have very good neighbors. But I keep telling my wife that we need to sell out and pull a trailer back out to our farm even at our age. Having your own space is worth a lot.

We came off the farm and bought a house that was over built for the neighborhood. The rich guy that built our house also built one for his SIL that was real close to ours that he owned. When she died the banker's son bought it for 60 cents on the dollar, kept it a week and sold it. Since then the first owners were okay. The next one, we said hello and gave them a rose. Worst mistake ever. They drug in 3 dogs, a lab that caused no trouble, a beagle that dug under our fence, and a black barking SOB. The BIG mouth obnoxious SOB that FINALLY moved. Next group same old stuff but with only 2 dogs but they barked twice as much. Thank goodness our trees block their veiw but they cut off the overhang on their side of our fence after we called the cops about the dogs. These yoyos think a 1/2 acre lot is living out in the country. This one was target shooting a bow with a house behind the target with 2 very young girls living in it plus using his back yard as his toliet in front of neighbors.

Yes we do have very good neighbors. But I keep telling my wife that we need to sell out and pull a trailer back out to our farm even at our age. Having your own space is worth a lot. Keep to yourself until they prove their worth.

I suggest attempting to intoduce yourself to them, maybe let them know you mostly stay to yourself.

We stay on our property too, however last couple times we've worked on pasture fence line surrounding people next door property, on 3 sides, they called cops on us. Local cop last time told me to mind our property and not thiers (???)

I would say high to them. Tell them you are not much on talking. Like staying to yourself. But if they ever need anything just ask.

People who do wrong things are wrong. Compounding their behavior by doing something equally wrong fixes nothing. People not knowing and respecting their neighbors is a huge problem in our society today. Keep doing the right thing by offering your hand to your neighbor. If they slap it, then you can console yourself by knowing you did the right thing. I don't know what else to say to you people who turn backside to a physical neighbor and then post 20 times a day on internet forums with strangers. I guess just open whatever book it is that supports your particular faith and look for an answer.

My new neighbors throw trash and the leaves they pick up on my property.I've called the sheriff on them twice now.Don't think I want to know them.

Personally - I'd just go over, introduce myself, give them my phone number in case they ever have any trouble and leave it at that.

It's good to have SOME contact with a neighbor - if they see somebody suspicious walking around your place they can call you - etc.

You don't have to be best buddies, but knowing each other well enough to watch out for each other has value.

When I get "new" neighbors I usually go and introduce myself and have a short conversation an leave it at that. After that I usually just wave as I drive by and that is it.

If they have trouble I offer to help then.

I value the seclusion I have living in the country and pass that on.

I'll second that JD Seller...

we do exactly same ,, the key is short visit ,,,had a few folx that you just cant get to leave ,, no matter how busy you are , ,, these daze , it seems more and more folx have become heroin zombies.....

I know my immediate neighbors on either side of me, even had the one couple over for dinner once, and have met the folks across the road twice in 20+ years.

Sure Jerry- now you made me look up ANOTHER word! That made me look up another one. When will it end?

The portrayal of your image by others, is of no consequence, detriment or benefit, its just hearsay.

It's fine to introduce yourself, or not, there are a few homes that abound this old farm, and and old subdivision, over the hill. I typically do not have much trouble here, yet I maintain a conspicuous presence, its visibly posted. I too enjoy some seclusion, mostly privacy, when others disturb that, I deal with it accordingly, and usually in a nice friendly manner, its seldom the other way, has happened when someone steps on my toes. A few neighbors I see at local establishments and its nice to socialize a bit, for the most part, everything is good around here. Some will tell you I am crazy, others not, I do try my best to be a good neighbor to all, clean driveways when it snows, remove fallen trees, and

I do not bother anyone around me, ever, I do tend to look after the boundary hedgerows, and on occasion ask if its ok to remove dead or trees that should be so the others remain healthy and we have that nice privacy hedge.

I don't do annoying things, and given the 48 years we have been here, I do believe some mutual respect is acceptable, don't come in here and try to dominate through change or nuisance, there has been a way of life here that has been long established.

Attitudes have changed, I've seen all the other neighbors die off, all the houses have changed hands, and it was then that problems started, one of which got real nasty, they have been gone for years. Prior to, everyone was respectful, and in those years, there was rarely any nuisance, and I maintain that today. I have one neighbor left, from the old days, been here almost as long, and I tell you, I wish all neighbors were like Bob, you just don't find people like him very often and he's as old as my dad now, it worries me, he's in good health, great family and business man and the most polite/friendly person you'll ever know.

I came back from mowing and I see a neighbor up over the hedgerow, with this nasty smokey, blue smoke billowing wet wood fire going It's unattended, he's in his new solarium on the deck, watching the game and the entire valley is smoked out. Perfect weather, cool dry air, full moon, freshly cut field of lush grass, I don't want to smell this smoke in my house, getting sick of it, and this happens a few times per week. That's the kind of crap I hate, no one did that back in the day, and if they did have a fire, their wood was dry and under cover. Burn barrels were hot and quick, same with burn piles, people just knew how to have a fire, not any more! He's got grandkids and they are so darned loud, screaming and carrying on, and actually, there's something good, normal about that, it becomes background noise, sounds like a playground and you realize the kids are just being kids and having a blast, but if I worked nights, there would be a problem, and of course you get labeled a crab for that LOL ! I don't say anything, but that smoke is becoming a problem for sure.

Overall, do as you wish, who really cares if you are friendly, want to socialize, or be left alone, live how you like !

Common now days. Back in the day a neighbor was your friend or you enemy. Now days hard to say which one will be. Sad that now days few even know the guy up the block

It's NEVER a bad idea to know something about your neighbors. What if you had a dog that got out for example. Would you prefer the new neighbors call the pound to come pick it up, shoot it, or call you to come and pick it up? What if you're away for a few days. Would like the new neighbor to keep an eye on your place? You don't have to have a lot to do with the neighbors but at least introduce yourself to them. Who know's, you might have a lot in common. It's probably more awkward for them moving into a new neighborhood. No different than welcoming a new student at school. Make them feel welcome. They might save your bacon some day. You'll know pretty quick if either of you want to have much to do with each other.

Maybe you can "friend" them on facebook? LOL...sorry I had to mention it. It seems that is how a lot of people "socialize" now days and if a person doesn't they aren't sociable. I know some of my neighbors, some that I just know of and that is about it. I agree, introducing yourself is just fine, and leave it at that. I would rather have a neighbor that way than one that is a "fake" neighbor. Had a few of those too.

I have lots of neighbors as my farm is in semi-suburbia,I don't rush over to meet new people
but make it a habit to meet them when the chance presents itself most of the time when I'm working on a fence or doing something close to their houses.
I've made some good friends over the years and some of these folks just want to be to themselves and that's fine too.Never hurts to be neighborly.Several
are people that grew up on farms worked off farm jobs for most of their lives and if something is amiss with the livestock or spot tresspassers they'll give me a call which is very helpful to me.

When someone tells me something like that, I say to them:

"I'll make you a deal: You do what you want to do - and I'll do what I want to do!" "End of dscussion".