What a week!

Whew, I think a whole year's worth of stress happened this week. Monday morning, son calls and said he's stuck with the feed truck at a hog site. Dropped the front axle off the gravel and into the mud. Trailer's empty but can't back out. I grabbed the tow strap and headed that way while a friend came with his 3/4 ton pickup to try pulling him out. Hooked the strap to the back of the truck and to the pickup, friend gives the strap some slack and floors the pickup. When the strap tightened the clevis on the pickup hitch spread and the clevis launched into the back of the feed trailer making a dent I couldn't make with a sledge hammer. Another feed truck came and pulled him out. Fast forward a few hours and son calls and said dad fell hard on the cement at the farm. Got to bed at 2:00 the next morning after six hours in the ER. Dad went through surgery to plate the broken leg fine but it's STRESSFUL. Then the search for a nursing home came, which we finalized this afternoon. This morning a neighbor called and told me the $3000.00 air compressor on my trailer fell off on the road when he was pulling the trailer at 60 MPH. Then son's driver called him and told him he blew the 2" hydraulic return hose on the feed trailer and he was sitting at a hog site half unloaded. Son's wife called and asked if we could watch their 3 year old son while she took the ten year old granddaughter to the doctor because her injured knee was so sore she couldn't walk on it. I was interviewing a nursing home with Marilyn and an antsy grandson entertaining the residents but by then I was trying VERY hard to be a gentleman. My sis arrived and we toured the nursing home dad is going to and chose a room. Tomorrow he goes to the nursing home and tonight I just feel like I'm deserting my son and walking away from him tomorrow. The nursing home is only temporary. He can't walk on that leg for six weeks so he will be home by mid-summer if all goes well, but I still feel like I'm deserting my helpless dad by leaving him in the nursing home. His mind is sharp and he makes friends easily so he'll be OK, but still--------. My oldest granddaughter graduates from high school this weekend and it will be a toughie because her mother, our daughter, isn't alive to be there. (sigh) Anyway, sometimes telling my thoughts to someone else is good therapy. Thanks for listening. Jim

Jim,
You sure got problems by the bucketful. If it helps any, all of us here are thinking and praying for you and your family. It WILL get better!

Good Luck, hope it turns out better.

I saw the strap issue coming when they took a run at it. Those things were popular in the 80s and pulled many a bumper off.

Somewhere in there is a sone and dad and grandfather combination to feel pain with, but rather than sort it out I will just feel the pain in general. It too will pass. Jim

Jim, sounds like you did have one of those weeks!
Just keep the faith, this too will pass. Prayers to
you and your family.

Life can be difficult at times when it seems that everything comes at us at once. BTDT. After a day or so, we are generally able to sit down for a few minutes and sort through it, and prioritize. I fully understand how you feel when you can not be in two or three places at once and everyone seems to need you at once. Thinking of you and yours in my prayers.

Keep your chin up and a smile on your face, things could be worse, you could be stuck in Colorado like I am.

well, at least tomorrow is friday. sorry you have had such a crappy week. i hope next week gets better. hang in there, we all get hit with 12 things at once some times, it builds character, if you don't believe me, just look around at all the characters on this website.

Stand tall and stay strong. You are the one your family turns to when things go rough. Be calm and respectful, others where once there for you, and others will be there for you again one day. This is your time. You are the "sandwhich" generation . Both parents , and kids to look out for.

Hey Fixer, I feel for ya man but it could be worse.
Hang in there!

Hang in there, fixer upper.

My mom always said two things that seem applicable for you:

"When it rains - it pours... and then sometimes it rains some more."

Then she would always add... "But this too shall pass."

Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

You are a very tough man to tolerate all this at once. Hang in there and tough it out, there are better times ahead.
Dale

Fixerupper,

I could take your post and change the date to January 2008. That was me.

You WILL make it through. Just try to relax and address each issue one at a time. Getting excited/agitated/screaming doesnt help, and usually makes it worse.

I know its easy for me to get you advice now, but when I was going through it, it seemed impossible. You'll make it, trust me.

Rick

Fixer, You have had a very stressful week but you've done a magnificent job helping all family members. Prayers sent to you and your family.Hopefully things get better soon. Richard