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After a long nasty divorce (marry over 20 years) getting back to meet the ladies is it still a good idea to give a yellow rose on the first meeting or not friends want me to meet on of her coworkers this week one night for coffee?
 
If it is a "date" I would say go with the rose. If it is just a "we are getting together for coffee" wait.Then if you two hit it off and make a real just us date, take the rose.
Don't come across as TOO anxious to make a good impression. Don't want to scare her away!
Good luck! And be yourself!
 
Hey, first time to meet her right? Open doors, pull
chairs and walk her to her car. If you get a second
date, then go for flowers.
 
Uh, you might want to pick a different color. A yellow rose symbolizes unrequited love. It's the flower equivalent of saying, "Can't we just be friends."
 
I met a new lady about a year after my wife died.Things were fine for about four months. Then she started telling me how to live. Got up one morning. Never went back.
 
Flowers are always a good idea anytime.

You may discover there are a lot of bipolar, messed up, divorced multiple times, gold diggers, be careful.

You may want to find a woman that can support you in a life style you will like. Have woman send pics of truck, motorcycle, tractors, Ha H

JohnT may be able to give you better advice than I, but before you ever think of getting married again, check in to a Rev Living trust. That may be a way to protect you from gold diggers.

George
 
Isn't "being yourself" and "making a good impression" a contradiction of terms?

Sorry, couldn't resist it.
 
This doesn't sound too formal. I'd forget the flowers, or any other gifts. I'd just show up, be friendly and sociable, and see where it goes.
 
If She has been divorced more than one time I wouldn't bother to ask for a real date.
One time she could have married a jerk...2 or more times and the problem will be self evident! My experience....
 
Just be yourself. No flowers. Would you like it if she brought
you a present. She will be more impressed if she feels you are
being what you are, not what you bought.
 
My wife and I dated for 6 years never lived together or had s$x
( her idea but a good one) we have been married for 39 years
now.
Walt
 
I'd just exchange pictures of your tractors over first coffee.

Of course I be a good one to give advise. Dixie and I got married on our second face to face meeting. That was over eleven years ago.
 
Hmmmm......Thats a tuffy.
You have to tell her about all your buddies on this tractor site.

Ask her if she would like to ride on your tractor.
Watch out for gold diggers, be sure that you date her for a long time before you marry any woman. Or have her sign a Prenuptial agreement.
One thing too is make sure that she has a job or has had a job in the past.
Some women that have never worked think that money grows on trees and they want everything......
 
Well, I have never been married, but my last relationship was 6 years. (I'm 27, so that was a significant portion of my life). That ended, I spent a while single and having fun doing what I wanted to do. After a while, I became tired of doing that, and since I work and go to school full time, I joined an online dating site. I never was too keen on them, but I met a wonderful woman in July. Parents are relaxed like me, she likes to have fun with me without telling me who I can talk to or what to buy her, and she encouraged me to pick up the latest tractor project ('41 Slant Dash JD A) that I will be working on to give her something to do at the shows. If she decides she doesn't enjoy the shows, I can always sell it. But so far, I am ten times happier than I was when I was in my last relationship. On our first date, we met for lunch (after talking online for about two months). I brought a single red rose, and put it in a water glass on the table before she arrived. (She didn't even notice it on the table until we were leaving). Had a great two hour lunch, and extended it to a Harley dealership (which she had also never done). That showed me she was interested in exploring my interests as well. It's been a great uphill climb ever since, and Maybe by this time next year if all goes well, we will take the next step. Who knows. Keep an open mind, but know where you stand. Don't talk about your ex, unless it is unavoidable. Most importantly, be yourself. Have fun!
 
If the conversation stalls a little just ask her a general question about herself then she'll pick it up from there after an hour she'll think you are a genius.Plus you may know more than you want to know about her life.
 
check at local cop shop and see if shes been
arrested for stalking
had one schizophrenic tried again she was
bipolar one more time she was a born again
christan out to save my sorry abut asked
anthor before 1st date she left the state.at
least the biggest problem the mutts got is a
few fleas
 
I don't know about a yellow rose, but since you have been out of the circuit for some time, do NOT dig the old leisure suit out of the closet no matter how many stylish colors it might be. No leisure suit.

Mark
 
Treat her like she is, but it will be a while before you know for sure that she is a "lady".

All women are not ladies, and it is frustrating when the policeman interviewed on TV says "the gentleman was arrested and charged with theft, reckless endangerment and manslaughter". Think...definitely not a "gentleman".
 
I ran this past Marilyn and she said maybe no rose for the first meeting. If you and she are still warm after this one, bring the rose to the second meeting. Jim
 
I feel the same way as Marilyn... but refrained from saying so.

But to me a Rose, no matter what color, says "love" to me. (Even though on the web there is a chart that says it can indicate friendship... to me a rose says just says "love".

But maybe a pretty single bloom of some other flower variety might be well received.
 
I wasted seventy five dollars on a beautiful basket of flowers for a first date once. Never again. They want flowers, they can pick their own.
 
Don't wear your baseball cap in the resturant during dinner. But if you do, and she doesn't notice....she may be the one for your!
 

George you left out she needs to bring her last 3 years income tax returns and her Car Fax.. Their are some real air heads out their look'n for a free ride...

Face book is a good place to go get a handle on how they spend their time... Does anyone care that you have to get up early are got to bed late are you can't wait till the week end so you can sleep in...

On the second date ask her if she could buy you a tire for yer truck you are having a hard time making ends meet...
 
As you can see, you'll get a million different opinions. And they're all wrong and they're all right. It's that simple....There is no pat answer when you start talking about the "best way to deal with women". No two are the same, and not even ONE of them plays by the same rules on a consistent basis. Just when you think you have one figured out, the game changes. That makes it interesting MOST of the time and frustrating as he!! the rest of the time.
 
Thanks I will just go and be myself hopefully she will be a non smoker if she smokes it will be a deal killer
 
Ask her if she has a truck and trailer and if so have her send you a picture of the truck and trailer.
 
All went well thought maybe it would last hour the first to check each other out lasted 3 hours would have lasted longer but I had to go to work. She is a young widow 4 years my junior a lot of things in common. She is just like me getting back to dating for the first time in many years
 
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