Hello Fellow YTers.
It has been a tough 6-8 weeks this fall. Many changes in my life and very few of them good.
1)My wife and I switch homes with my middle son, Bill. There where several reasons for the switch. Bill and his wife are having twin babies here soon. They also have the three daughters that have the horses. So they would have had five kids in a three bedroom home. My wife and I where living in a five bedroom, eleven room house. We only used maybe 3-4 rooms. Also Bill"s house has a level/single level down stairs, There are two bedrooms upstairs but they will just be storage for us. The old farm house has different levels as it has been added to several times. With my wife"s health issues the level floor plan will work better long term.
2) Not only did we switch homes but Bill took over the majority of the livestock chores. His good paying job moved to Texas. He had the choice of moving or taking a generous separation deal. He stayed here. He and my older two sons have picked up additional farm ground and some pasture for additional livestock and grain farming.
3) The change from the farm was not completely want I really wanted but I know that if I stayed involved on a daily basis I would be smothering the boys at times. My personality is just too head strong/bossy to not have had issues if I get too involved. So I have been put out to pasture kind of. LOL I still do the stock cow care. I also control all the land use and crops on the home place. Still I miss the daily routine of the livestock. Sounds crazy that I miss the challenge that caring for the cattle in the cold/winter is.
4) My Father had a stroke six weeks ago. I really have not gotten along with him in more than 30 years. HE is a cheating womanizer that can be a total a$$hole most of the time. He is a very selfish person. The heck with worrying about anyone else type of guy. The trouble is that my wife get along with him. So she took upon herself to care for him.
5) Four weeks ago he fell going down his front steps. He knocked my wife down the steps as she was helping him down. He landed on top of my wife. He was not hurt bad. She broke her left hip and right arm.
Her diabetes is causing her hip to not heal correctly. We have talked to several orthopedic Doctors and the last one was honest enough with us to tell us she more than likely will never heal correctly. She is not a candidate for a hip replacement because of her heart/diabetes issues.
My wife is not fifty years old yet and is not handling this very well at all. She is suicidal. I have all of the meds under lock and key. I have moved all of my guns upstairs in a locked bed room. She just started mental health care this last week. I hope it works.
6) Finally got the nuisance phone calls stopped. It was no one involved with YT. It was a fellow that is mentally unstable that blames me for his problems. His Mother sold me her farm 15 years a go and he thought she should have given it to him for free. It did not matter to him that she needed the money to live on.
7) I had to put my Father in assisted living care last week. He just is not able to care for himself. I just could not care for him and my wife both any longer. I had to chose one.
My sisters are mad at me for doing this. They came an helped for ONE week and then quit coming but I am supposed to keep doing it. They both are screaming that I am after "Dad"s" money. That is a laugh. HE sold me his house 10 years a ago because he had blown all of his retirement money. He was living the high life taking "Younger" women on fancy trips and all. My sisters are in for a big surprise when he passes. He does not have much money. My one brother and I are paying for his assisted living care.
So this is not a real "UP" lifting Thanksgiving day. The kids all are at their in-laws for this holiday. Which is fine, they will be here for Christmas. This is the first time in a long time that there was not a turkey cooking in the oven along with all the trimmings. I did cook a ham and some other things but the wife eat about two bites and went back to sleep. Mine tasted like saw dust by myself.
I have missed YT and you fellows. I liked the debates/arguments with many of you. Liked to tease rrlund about his Olivers/Whites being high priced to repair. Bison and Traditonalfarmer about farming in general. Loved seeing Larry and Sweetfeet"s pictures. Lyle, the super Canadian, projects just make me tired think about doing that much work LAMO. John T"s electrical knowledge has taught me a lot. Hope Lance is catching his dreams. There are many more of you that I miss too. This would be much too long If I could remember all of you but your in my thoughts.
I just am not going to have the time to be here much. My wife"s care is going to be time consuming for a while longer. I think she will get better mentally. She is a tough woman that will come to grips with her "new" issues. She has fought them down before and I am sure she will again.
My Uncle took some of what I have ranted about, while mad at the world, and wrote on here about it. He has gotten 2+2=5 on much of it. I have been MADDER than HE!! about how things have been going. Not much I can do different just life sucks sometimes. I can be a grouching old fart at time like this. So If I have offended anyone I am sorry for that.
Old Iowa is my uncle. He has been here some today. He has been a big help just being here the last few weeks. He is leaving for his winter home in AZ on Monday. I will miss his company. I will not miss his sense of humor(Pain in the butt). LOL
It has been a tough 6-8 weeks this fall. Many changes in my life and very few of them good.
1)My wife and I switch homes with my middle son, Bill. There where several reasons for the switch. Bill and his wife are having twin babies here soon. They also have the three daughters that have the horses. So they would have had five kids in a three bedroom home. My wife and I where living in a five bedroom, eleven room house. We only used maybe 3-4 rooms. Also Bill"s house has a level/single level down stairs, There are two bedrooms upstairs but they will just be storage for us. The old farm house has different levels as it has been added to several times. With my wife"s health issues the level floor plan will work better long term.
2) Not only did we switch homes but Bill took over the majority of the livestock chores. His good paying job moved to Texas. He had the choice of moving or taking a generous separation deal. He stayed here. He and my older two sons have picked up additional farm ground and some pasture for additional livestock and grain farming.
3) The change from the farm was not completely want I really wanted but I know that if I stayed involved on a daily basis I would be smothering the boys at times. My personality is just too head strong/bossy to not have had issues if I get too involved. So I have been put out to pasture kind of. LOL I still do the stock cow care. I also control all the land use and crops on the home place. Still I miss the daily routine of the livestock. Sounds crazy that I miss the challenge that caring for the cattle in the cold/winter is.
4) My Father had a stroke six weeks ago. I really have not gotten along with him in more than 30 years. HE is a cheating womanizer that can be a total a$$hole most of the time. He is a very selfish person. The heck with worrying about anyone else type of guy. The trouble is that my wife get along with him. So she took upon herself to care for him.
5) Four weeks ago he fell going down his front steps. He knocked my wife down the steps as she was helping him down. He landed on top of my wife. He was not hurt bad. She broke her left hip and right arm.
Her diabetes is causing her hip to not heal correctly. We have talked to several orthopedic Doctors and the last one was honest enough with us to tell us she more than likely will never heal correctly. She is not a candidate for a hip replacement because of her heart/diabetes issues.
My wife is not fifty years old yet and is not handling this very well at all. She is suicidal. I have all of the meds under lock and key. I have moved all of my guns upstairs in a locked bed room. She just started mental health care this last week. I hope it works.
6) Finally got the nuisance phone calls stopped. It was no one involved with YT. It was a fellow that is mentally unstable that blames me for his problems. His Mother sold me her farm 15 years a go and he thought she should have given it to him for free. It did not matter to him that she needed the money to live on.
7) I had to put my Father in assisted living care last week. He just is not able to care for himself. I just could not care for him and my wife both any longer. I had to chose one.
My sisters are mad at me for doing this. They came an helped for ONE week and then quit coming but I am supposed to keep doing it. They both are screaming that I am after "Dad"s" money. That is a laugh. HE sold me his house 10 years a ago because he had blown all of his retirement money. He was living the high life taking "Younger" women on fancy trips and all. My sisters are in for a big surprise when he passes. He does not have much money. My one brother and I are paying for his assisted living care.
So this is not a real "UP" lifting Thanksgiving day. The kids all are at their in-laws for this holiday. Which is fine, they will be here for Christmas. This is the first time in a long time that there was not a turkey cooking in the oven along with all the trimmings. I did cook a ham and some other things but the wife eat about two bites and went back to sleep. Mine tasted like saw dust by myself.
I have missed YT and you fellows. I liked the debates/arguments with many of you. Liked to tease rrlund about his Olivers/Whites being high priced to repair. Bison and Traditonalfarmer about farming in general. Loved seeing Larry and Sweetfeet"s pictures. Lyle, the super Canadian, projects just make me tired think about doing that much work LAMO. John T"s electrical knowledge has taught me a lot. Hope Lance is catching his dreams. There are many more of you that I miss too. This would be much too long If I could remember all of you but your in my thoughts.
I just am not going to have the time to be here much. My wife"s care is going to be time consuming for a while longer. I think she will get better mentally. She is a tough woman that will come to grips with her "new" issues. She has fought them down before and I am sure she will again.
My Uncle took some of what I have ranted about, while mad at the world, and wrote on here about it. He has gotten 2+2=5 on much of it. I have been MADDER than HE!! about how things have been going. Not much I can do different just life sucks sometimes. I can be a grouching old fart at time like this. So If I have offended anyone I am sorry for that.
Old Iowa is my uncle. He has been here some today. He has been a big help just being here the last few weeks. He is leaving for his winter home in AZ on Monday. I will miss his company. I will not miss his sense of humor(Pain in the butt). LOL
