is this as strange as it seems to me

My grandmother passed about a month ago after 91 goods years and 7 days in the hospital after a burst aneurism in her head. While my mother was sitting "guard duty" she had some in depth conversations with her brother. It turns out that this 63 year old veterinarian father of two decided that he has never felt comfortable as a "man" and now wished to become a woman. this being done without the "operation" and continuing "life as usual" otherwise. He has never been the most ambitious person you ever saw, and my brother seems to think that he didn't do enough in life that he conjured up the need to "change teams". This is just the latest in a line of what I perceive to be strange behavior in my family. wondering what any of your reactions would be if you had this happen in your family.

Well......if it was one of my sisters wanting to go the other way,NOBODY would be surprised in the least.

This isn't all that surprising either, it's the timing that has us all raising our eyebrows.

Ya,I can see your point on the timing.

If the truth be told we all could tell an odd ball story about our families.

What family? Just kidding, I think we all have family surprises.

I have three siblings. One is seriously affected mentally. Two are(have been?) alcoholics.
We(wife and myself) have extracted ourselves from having anything to do with most relatives, on both sides. It could be a long complicated story, but the short version is they all want one way relationships, with us doing the giving.
Isn't it great that we can choose our friends!

People are strange, family can be stranger. My uncle was married for 15 or 20 years. never saw him much(lives 10 miles away)then he got divorced. found out a little while later that he was queer as a 3 dollar bill. that being said uncle stops by all the time and helps around the shop when he is off work. I guess he must have been miserable before. Not my choice of lifestyle, but not my life My father tells me all the time you can pick your a$$ pick your nose but can't pick your relatives.

Have a niece that decided to be a nephew. Then married a very sweet young lady. They now have a son. No, I didn'task for any details. They're family, so I still care for them. But yes, strange.

I worked with a guy for 30 years. As he got towards retirement, he decided to come out. Started wearing makeup, and dressed as a woman. He had a exwife, 3 kids, all adults, I guess he didn't want to fake it anymore. He had a few relatives in the plant, they didn't seem to be affected by it, so maybe it wasn't a surprise. I have a female cousin who has been gay since she was a grade schooler. She looks like she could play tackle or linebacker...

My best friend in high school was the best man in my wedding (the first one...). He was a long way from being anything but normal. On almost every date he went on he asked the girl to marry him. One finally did and they had three children. He had become a missionary Baptist preacher and lived in Holland for about ten years. During those years I sorta lost touch with him. Last summer I got a call on a Sunday afternoon from him. I had not heard from him in maybe twenty years. The last time was after one of our high school reunions. During the phone call he informed me he was divorced and was now gay and had a partner who I believe to be one of our classmates from high school. I didn't ask a lot of questions at that point. I still wonder why he called me after that many years. He may be sick or something. Either way, it sure took him a long time to figure things out...

Maybe living in Holland had something to do with it.

You are over thinking this!

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When I was in school,there was a girl in my class who always dressed in jeans. In the seven and a half years we were in school together I don't remember seeing her in a dress over half dozen times. I always figured it was because she lived with her grandparents, even though she did walk kinda like a boy. But in the fifties, we knew very little about such. Fast forward about forty five years, we finally decided to have a class reunion every year. This woman, (person?) always came in wearing a business suit, complete with tie. She had a very responsible position with a large company with about seventy five or better people under command. I heard behind-the-back remarks that she "marched to a different drummer", and since she and I had always been able to converse freely, I decided to just sit down at the next reunion and discuss the history of the situation, and I'll be darned if she didn't get sick, (don't ask, I don't know,) and died before I saw her again.
There is a young man, well he's 41, that my youngest daughter went to school with, he spent many Saturday or Sunday afternoons at our house,very friendly and outgoing. No reason to be suspicious about anything, but for some years now he has lived near a town about fifty miles away. My daughter says she is sure that the reason why is that he has "other feelings". I have never verified this, but we keep up with him on Facebook. I personally do not approve of these "alternative lifestyles" but it is not for me to judge. That matter is in the hands of someone else.

We used to have a neighbor family with eight very bright, intelligent kids. All of them went on to college and a good prestigious career. They were a devout religious family who never missed mass and did all the things their religion wanted them to do. The youngest one who happens to be a guy, is gay. When I found out it shocked me because I remember them as being raised in a solid farm family where the husband sat at the top of the totem pole and the wife was required to be a stay at home mom who should be at home baking cookies and doing laundry. Go figure! Jim

We have a friend that is as butch as can be, she out mans Paul Bunyan. She and her "wife" have a herd of belted galloways, and a few longhorn watusi cattle.
Liv is as nice a person as can be, her wife is the original man hating harpy.
Many is the occasion that I will high five Liv and say, "YOU DA MAN". I do it mainly to pizz off her old lady.

Wouldn't bother me if there was someone like that. I don't think anyone picks to be like that as its about one of the more difficult things to be in life with other folks always saying mean stuff about you. I never "picked" to like women it just happens to be like that, on top of that I'm not sure I could change which types of women I'm attracted to either.

Lots of sheep and cows with different orientations without any one interfering in how they turned out, guess people are the same.

One of my best friends "came out" two years ago. I have known several gay people before but never one I knew this well. I must say it came as a shock to the system especially when we were competing for the same girl years ago and he won! She turned out to be not much of a prize and he sent her packing. He dated a few more girls but didn't seem to care if they were around. For several years he was difficult to be friends with as his attitude was nearly intolerable, all of a sudden things got better. He came from a good solid family and he has his own herd of dairy cows and does a bit of crop farming. Poor guy is worried about his neighbors finding out and is fearful he will loose his rented land. But still is happier than he ever was and he is still the same person he always was.

I don't agree with his lifestyle but he also likes John Deeres and I don't! lol

Thanks for all the input. I'm not totally sure that my uncle wants to "become" a non female appreciator, he just wants to be my aunt now and keep his wife of 31 years. She seems to be fine with it as long as there is no physical change if you know what I mean. it doesn't seem that he wants men, just doesn't want to be one anymore.