OT: Dad

RBnSC · Nov 20, 2013

A few of You know that My Mom and Dad live with us now as Mom could no longer physically handle Him any more. He has had several strokes and is suffering with dementia. I have to say He was not easy to get along with on his best days. Lately he has been reliving some of the worst episodes of his life. The other day He was begging everyone to please help Him get back up the hill before He lost his job. I recognized what was happening. Not long after they got married Dad got a job with a large construction co. operating big pan. They were piling dirt and Dad told His boss He thought it was getting dangerously high. His boss told him to keep working or He would fire Him it wasn't long before the edge gave way and the pan rolled down the hill. Dad jumped off unhurt but lost His job. It seems that He is lost in a bad dream and can't wake up. I can tell You it is gut wrenching to watch day after day.
Ron

tomturkey · Nov 20, 2013

Prayers for you and your wife as you deal with this unfortuate time in Dad's life. gobble

Mike in Mn. · Nov 20, 2013

Been there, I know what your going through, stay strong, stay cool, it will be over someday and then you can get back to your own life and family. Dealing with elderly parents is --- there are no words for it, when you look back you know it was the right thing to do. They took care of and tolerated me when I was young and I took care of and tolerated them when they were old. now there gone and I only remember the good.

da.bees · Nov 20, 2013

I will remember your fanily in prayer. It has to be so difficult watching a man who helped you find answers all your life that can't find his own now.

Tony in Mass. · Nov 20, 2013

Don't worry about it, you don't need to be old to have bad dreams... I had a bad dream about wearing a uniform for years after I threw it in the trash! Meeting and having conversations with friends and relatives who have been dead for ages... that's creepy.
My dad's 90 year old brother said he was being 'edged on?' to the other side? by several relatives, one a rough grough uncle of my mother! This man never swore, but repeated what the long dead distant relative said about bothering to still be on earth... now that was creepy.... funny and creepy at the same time....

dino in iowa · Nov 20, 2013

Best bet is to learn to except things we cannot change, I hope you
recieve the help you need.

RayP(MI) · Nov 20, 2013

BT_DT.

When I walked into my folks house one day and said, "Hi Dad!" and he turned to my mother and said,"Who is he?" That was a hard time for all of us.
Few years later, mom went the same way.
Wife's parents too. Dimensia & Alzheimers S__k.

Be strong, this too will pass.

David G · Nov 20, 2013

I feel for you, BTDT with my dad.

donjr · Nov 20, 2013

Even though he has been gone for nineteen years now, I have to think I was lucky with my Dad. I first noticed problems with machinery, and taking him to different Masonic affairs. It was sad to handle, but he also had a minor heart problem that manifested itself in a major way before he got to a point that he wasn't mobile. He had a major heart attack in front of the local grocery while shopping with Mom.

I can only wish you the best with your family. It's hard to watch them slowly slip away. Mom finally passed a year ago after two years in a nursing home. She was two weeks short of 99.

Northvale - PA · Nov 20, 2013

I was visiting with the in-laws last week. They were telling me stories about their kids in high school, back in early 70"s, like it was yesterday. But they were messing up yesterday. Funny how the brain works.

CAROGATOR · Nov 20, 2013

Sorry to know that You have this to go through. All I can say is be really careful to never lose your temper with anything that he may say or do. It will happen, believe me, if he lives long enough. And it will be something you will never be able to say I'm sorry for, after he is gone. BTDT.

RBnSC · Nov 21, 2013

Thanks Guys, I needed the encouragement and prayers.
Ron

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