Update to my post about high school sports from the other day...
My son was supposed to go with me and his brother to a family function this weekend. Happens every year, in a bigger town a few hours away, we make a weekend out of it and have fun.
My younger son informed me that older brother had a basketball tournament this weekend and he didn't think older brother would be going with us. Older brother had said nothing of it. Totally out of left field, blindsided me.
Long story short, I called older brother (remember I'm divorced) and he told me 'Yeah, I'm going with you, probably, yeah". Which was a lie, because he then texted me a half hour later to tell me he was going to the basketball thing, his team "needed" him he had made a "commitment", blah blah blah. And he was sorry.
Were you sorry about not going, or lying to me?
What about your "commitment" to your family?
So here's where it gets interesting. I decided to take this to the next level: I called his coach. I had a nice conversation with the man, for at least a half hour, about what I thought of high school sports, that fathers are important in a kid's life, and seeing how you, the coach, are with my child more than I am, could you please have a little conversation with him about the importance of family, and how it's not right to mislead or lie to your parents?
My son won't like this. This will make him very uncomfortable. Today I am going to call the principal and superintendant of his school and chat about the relative importance of sports.
Balance. Gotta have it. Talking to him doesn't seem to change his mind about these things, so I'm going over his head to his coaches and school leadership. Sometimes you have to apply pressure to get a result, and again, being divorced, this is about the only pressure I have at my disposal.
Why is this tractor related? Because part of that "balance" I want him to have is workin' the hay with me this summer!
My son was supposed to go with me and his brother to a family function this weekend. Happens every year, in a bigger town a few hours away, we make a weekend out of it and have fun.
My younger son informed me that older brother had a basketball tournament this weekend and he didn't think older brother would be going with us. Older brother had said nothing of it. Totally out of left field, blindsided me.
Long story short, I called older brother (remember I'm divorced) and he told me 'Yeah, I'm going with you, probably, yeah". Which was a lie, because he then texted me a half hour later to tell me he was going to the basketball thing, his team "needed" him he had made a "commitment", blah blah blah. And he was sorry.
Were you sorry about not going, or lying to me?
What about your "commitment" to your family?
So here's where it gets interesting. I decided to take this to the next level: I called his coach. I had a nice conversation with the man, for at least a half hour, about what I thought of high school sports, that fathers are important in a kid's life, and seeing how you, the coach, are with my child more than I am, could you please have a little conversation with him about the importance of family, and how it's not right to mislead or lie to your parents?
My son won't like this. This will make him very uncomfortable. Today I am going to call the principal and superintendant of his school and chat about the relative importance of sports.
Balance. Gotta have it. Talking to him doesn't seem to change his mind about these things, so I'm going over his head to his coaches and school leadership. Sometimes you have to apply pressure to get a result, and again, being divorced, this is about the only pressure I have at my disposal.
Why is this tractor related? Because part of that "balance" I want him to have is workin' the hay with me this summer!