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JD Seller

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I believe in God but I sure can not figure out his plan. My 9 year old nephew passed away this morning. He has been battling acute lymphocyte leukemia since last spring. He just did not wake up this morning. The only good thing is that he is finally without pain.

This has been a very private thing in my family. We have kept it close to just the family. My nephew wanted his life to be as normal as it could be. He did not want to be treated differently for as long as he could. Really until after Christmas it was that way but then the treatments stopped holding the cancer back. It simply exploded the last month and a half.

I can still remember my brother calling me and telling me he had a son. He was feeling ten feet tall that day. It only seems like yesterday that my nephew was running around here getting into things while we where working on something. He really literally grew up with his DAD/my brother. My brother's wife had a very good full time job. So after her maternity leave my brother took over the kid care duties. He did this while farming full time. We made car seat brackets for a lot of equipment over the years. Then buddy seats when he was bigger.

They had another child four years ago. This time they where blessed with a baby girl. My SIL quit work at that time.

This loss is terrible on any parent. It is really hitting my brother HARD!!! He just lost his child and his future plans all at once. There was never any doubt what my nephew wanted to be when he grew up. He was doing chores as soon as he could walk behind his Dad. He was involved/around farm work from birth. My brother carried him in a baby back pack since he was weeks old. This is a crushing blow to my brother. We can be there for him but that is a small thing compared to his loss.

Why am I writing this on here???? The next time you are asked to donate to cancer research think about my nephew. WE WILL beat this disease some day. It just will take someone finding the cure.

Heck of a way to always remember Good Friday in the future. I just can't understand the plan.
 
my condolences to you and your family. Cant imagine loosing a child.my mom lost her favorite son when he was 35yrs of age and never got over it. our prayers are with you all.
 
My condolences on your loss.

A co-worker lost her son to brain cancer last year. They first discovered it on his 4th birthday, got it beat back for a year and then it popped back up. They made heroic efforts to battle it, even going to NYC for treatment. The little guy was a candidate for an experimental treatment at Harvard but he was too far gone for that. They stopped the chemo and treatments and he was gone within two weeks. Hit her, her ex and their daughter very hard. I guess it's something they will never really get over, but will move on.

My BIL, age 21 and my wife's only sibling, was killed in a car wreck (riding drunk in a car with a drunk driving) three months after we were married and three days before Christmas in 1976. Going to the funeral home on Christmas day and seeing him that way was one of the hardest things I think I've ever had to do. They decided to have a closed casket service, even though the funeral home did the best they could on his head and face. Still think about him from time to time and what life might have been had he lived. My in-laws seems to have gotten over it, mostly, but it really changed them, MIL got harder in her personality and the FIL really mellowed out, and quit drinking.
 
JD Seller, my condolances. I feel your loss, this leukemia thing is very rough. My brother is battling it, and awaits a stem cell transplant after being in remisson from acute myloid leukemia for not quite 9 months. He is way too young (22) and your nephew was too. I don"t understand God"s plan either thorough it all. We can have plans for the future and suddenly they are just turned upside down by cancer. Prayers for you and yours.
 
I gave up trying to figure God out years ago. I suppose someday we will know what it is. All we can do in the meantime is make the best of it. My Sympathy goes out to all of you. I lost my nephew last month.
 

So Sorry to hear of such a tragic loss for your family. The passing of Youngsters is such a tragic thing. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
 
Prayers and sympathy go out to your family for such a tragic loss. Only God himself knows why children pass on at such a young age. I asked a pastor one time,..Where is God when such young people die? He said, "God is in the same place as he was when his own son Jesus Christ died."
I guess it is true, God"s ways are not our ways and his thoughts are higher than our thoughts. Still the pain remains with tose who loose such young family members.
 
We wish you and your family peace. Beyond the darkness, light . . . Beyond the sorrow, peace. We wish you everything you need to get through this difficult time.
 
Dear JD Seller & Family,

We are so sorry for this news. I read this as I was leaving for Mass. We will keep you and your family in our prayers.
 
My heart hurts for you and your family, I lost my nephew, the pain gets better, and the thoughts are always there of the good times.

He will be in my prayers.
 
Sorry to hear this JD. I agree if God has a plan. I sure don't understand it. Friend of mine lost his two year old daughter. Last year. Him and the wife are still trying to get over it.
 
My greatest fear in life is outliving one of my children.
I can't find the words to adequately express my grief for Your Family.
Larry
 
JD and Family, We are are at a loss as how to tell you how bad we feel about your loss of a loved one. We will be saying a prayer for you folks. clint and Lee Ann.
 
I have been in that position and the words we try to offer, will seem to be so inadequate, but the support of those around him will be very meaningful. It may be all you can do, but it will also be the best that you can do for him.

Some day you can congratulate him on the great job he did as a Father, and tell him that not all of us get to have all of our loved ones for that long.
I have been on both sides.
All the best
Steve
 
JD,

I dont have any words that would make you feel better, other than look at all the responses, people care.

We donate every year, FIL died from Agent Orange at 44, we werent even married yet. Guess he was my future FIL.

Rick
 
Condolences ,,And prayers for comfort JD..I know how you feel . My Nephew just lost his son yesterday at the age of 31 I haven't received news yet as to what happened. just that he died in a reputable Hospital in Pittsburgh.
 
Our community lost a young farmer a decade ago....tractor turnover. The Padre quoted The Lord"s Prayer......"Thy will be done". No way to explain God"s plan.....I"m sure your brother and family will take strength from you and yours, like you"ve demonstrated so often here.
 
So sorry to see this. I lost both of my parents last year but they lived very long lives. To have any kid pass on early in life is so tragic with so much for them to live for. God bless.
 
Very sorry. Childhood cancer will make a persons faith, have two neighbors with it right now, one is 6 the other is 4 it is a terrible thing. Both families are leaning on their church and God to pull them through.
 
My deepest sympathy to you and your family!
I cannot imagine what you must be going through.
We all love our children but the grandchildren light up our lives in our declining years and it is so sad to lose the joy they give us.
God Bless You!
 
JD Seller,

So sorry for your loss. Will keep you and your brother's family in my prayers. Terrible thing to lose a child.
 
Way too young. Like you say it's so hard on the parents. They lost some of their heart and soul and they will never get it back. Jim
 
So sorry to hear this. I lost a loved one on 20 Dec 50 years ago and Christmas has never been a big thrill for me.
Perhaps the greater good in this is thst your brother can now put his daughter in those seats. Maybe something she has been longing to do but just overlooked.
 
JD Seller:
I am so sorry for your loss. I have had similar
loss of loved ones to that most dreaded of all
diseases.
As I read the medical news flyer that we get at
the hospital where I work, I am excited to learn
that there may be hope for future cancer patients
in the form of a new drug that turns off the
protein that protects cancer cells from the immune
system. This protein CD-47 allows tumor cells to
fool the body into thinking that they are normal
cells, and avoid being destroyed by the body's
defenses.
The new drug has been very effective in killing
human tumors that have been transplanted into
mice. Human trials are not far away. Although the
drug may affect some normal cells, research
indicates that the side effects are not as severe
as most chemotherapy.
The National Institute of Health in Washington DC
is currently conducting research on many new and
exciting alternatives in cancer therapy.
The scientists there, along with others in
Universities and hospitals all over the world are
working day and night to prevent the type of
sorrow and loss that you have experienced, and one
day they WILL win that fight. This research is
funded largely by the government, and is one
example of good use of taxpayer money.
God bless you and your family.
Bill
 
Sorry to hear about your loss. Wife has been battling cancer for 8 yrs now. One thing that we count ourselves thankful is that it is not one of our boys.
 
Having helped a female friend raise a special needs child for nearly 12 years, I know well the feeling of dread when, during his early years, an alarm went off in the middle of the night telling us he had stopped breathing, etc and what we had to do to insure he did wake up. I can't even begin to imagine the heartbreak your brother/family is experiencing from this tragedy. My prayers go out to you and your family.
 
Sorry for your family's loss, I can't imagine the pain for loosing a child , grandchild, niece or nephew. The only consolation I can offer is that children go straight to heaven. My prayers will include your family.
Now I'll get on my soapbox. For the last several years, I have been donating blood platelets. When patients have have chemo, it kills their platelets. By recieving a platelet donation, it help them regain their strength. I did a double last Monday evening, took about 2 hours start to finish. PLEASE, contact your local Blood Center and inquire about donating platelets. It helps children and adults both.
In Sunday School a while back, we were discussing premature deaths, and a couple people said they were going to ask God why he allowed it to happen. When they were done talking, I said that I thought that when we get to heaven, it will be so overwhelming, that we won't even remember what we were going to ask him. My personal viewpoint is that every human is put on this earth for a purpose, and when that purpose in completed, God takes us home. Sorry for rambling on so, I'll keep you all in my prayers. Chris
 
So sorry to hear of this loss. I'll be praying for your family during this difficult time.
 
If you seek a plan, you will be continually distressed. Our life on earth is best served by finding joy in what we can make out of it. The family support shared, and the replay of memories of his life are a treasure that can be built on. I feel your suffering and wish it to pass. You are the best you can be. You share with us as a network family, and it is obvious from your posts that you have deep faith. A wise man of strong faith told me to place control gently where the effect will last. Good night, Jim
 
Tell your brother, a while from now, that in his weakest moment he had people all over the US praying for his family, I will all weekend long, Mark and Pam
 
So sorry for the loss of your nephew. Our thoughts and prayers will be with your family.

Not sure I understand either, just have to accept that it happened and now he"s running and playing without pain or restriction.
 
JD

Please know that your nephew no longer suffers. We will keep you and your brothers family in our prayers.
 
Soooo Sorry for your loss. I lost a Daughter to cancer on Thanksgiving day in 05.But we were Blessed with her for 53 years, Still it hurts. Including you in Prayers.
 
It is an INCREDIBLE loss,especially after all you you for your friends and neighbors. My parents buried their firstborn children, a set of twin boys over 40 years ago, and dad was still concerned about them om his deathbed this Feb.I never heard much about them until then. Just shows it will always be part of them and of you, until the lord tells you why when you meet Him. thoughts and prayers for you and your family
 
STUFF happens. Life goes on. Been there, DONE that. Had a first-born son in 1983 who was gonna take over the farm. etc., etc., but suffered a birth injury and needed 100% care 24/7. Despite 24 hour care at home, he passed away just before his "classmates" graduated/he turned 18. NOT swell, and I feel for you., but when a guy and a gal fall in "love" and "git 'er done" there's no guarantee from God or anyone else that there will be no bumps along the road to adulthood. Sometimes, it's just NOT meant to be. My son's grave is to the right of the angel.
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Loren, my sincerest condolences for your loss, thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

I've had the same question as you do in the past- why? I've given up trying to put everything off on God. I think we screw ourselves up trying to comprehend His plan. I think, these days at least, that it's more of a general plan than a specific plan and that sometimes things just happen. I've given up being mad at God for the bad, the hurt, the pain that comes my way. Sometimes things just happen.
 
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