OT- Question for Graydon/ Gitrib

Great story about your courtship. Had a question, and the thread is 4 pages back now.

Was just wondering- did things ever "thaw out" with the inlaws? I was surprised to learn late in the story that they were farmers, too- I had just assumed they were city folk, with the common "don't marry a farmer" prejudice. You were kind of a high flier in the farming community, and I'd have thought they'd be thrilled.

It was the other way around in my family- dad was a farmer, mom a city girl- but it was dad's mother who never approved of the marriage- it was kind of a joke that until she died, Grandma always said "it'll never work". It worked for 40 years, until my mother passed away.

Mike; We could never figure out the reason for the feeling. The thing that always bothered Marg was I recived the award as the outstaning State 4-Hclub meember. The award was a exhiit sponsored by a local TV station and a trophy to be given at the program in th hippidrome. I had always told Marg that when th time came to walk out and get the trophy she was going with me. She had told her folks he would like them there. They had to go to Nebraska an buy cattle that week end. I alway felt it was a contrast in faming methods. Dad & I were on a mall farm andrentig land and using every one of th layest method to sgueeze the milk out of those cow. Her parents were on a farm with his father.It was 160 aces of deep Tiled farm land They always had a bumper crop. Her father alway had a banker that would allow him to go direct to the ranch and buy top feeder. He was good snd oftrn toped the Omaha market. Margery mother raaised laying hens and provided egg to the local grocer to be able o buy grocieries. Margery had always told here folks she was going to marry a Dairy because they always had money. as seen through the eyes of a child. It was defnatly a conflict of farming methods.gitrib

I enjoyed your story and my heart went out to the two of you as you were starting you new lives as a married couple.

I also never had the approval of my in laws. They were city folks, not achievers either, and I was a country boy. I made good in the farming busines, but always was reminded by her folks that I didn't add up.This affected our married lives and eventually we divorced after 18 years. My first wife could not stand up for us, always had to be swayed by her folks.

My second wife and I have made a wonderful and even more successful life for ourselves. We have been married for 20 years. I am thankful for her everyday. If you don't have a woman who is beside of you and you beside her, you don't have much of a life or a marriage.