TEN MONTH NURSING HOME REVIEW

OKAY What are feeling at the end of ten month. I shared with you how my entering a nurseing home was family decision Momhad been her for six years the first we had ever been apart it has been great to be together. We share th same room.She had two seizures that ended up in the hopital. I reconized both of them earlier and pulld th call light. We are sure this got fast help and I made the call as the Aides and nurses acted lost. CALL 911. I noticed several little thing in her day to day living that ended in changing in her medications. I brought music reording of her playing the church organ set to picture of our life. These have been wonderful therapy.
Now how about me. Let me say it is experience. Having personnel caring for you 24 hrs a day, is mind boogling. Not having to be concerned about your medicine. it is ther and is administered as needing. Your blood is monitered every day. Food is good an always ready. Ihave many things wrong with me. Both knees replaced and hae constant pain. Both shoulder rotor worn out not s candidate for surgery so I just hurt. Wear a pain patch 24-7. They caught I had a infecttion so it we surgery for that and that was heck or worst. Yuh I know it was the new Laparoscopic It is stll a line of BS Children argued with surgeon I was nt ready for realease as a out pationet. NO MEDICAL REASON WHY HE MUST STAY IN HOSPITAL. Got back to nursing home in time for ambulance ride back to the hospital. The big thing to remeber you are paying for care do not be bashful use it. Yuh I know I have never had to depend on someone. but you are not a youg buck ready to take on the world. It has been easier on the cildren. The know we are looked after 24-7. But you must make sure of one thing once you are in a nursing home You lose some of the control You must have a child or somone to back you up.

I have seen several older men ener the hom and be stubborn and indepndant and no I will not use the walker I will go myself and BANG They fall break a hip and then it is a fast downhill slide.

I KNOW THIS IS WHAT MANY OF YOU DO NOT WANT TO HEAR. BUT I AM TRYING TO BE HONEST. THIS IS JUST AS IMPOTANT AS WHEN YOU ASKED THAT LITTLE GAL TO BE YOU WIFE MARG & I WILL BE 82 & 83 YEARS OLD ON JULY 3rd & 4th. During the time we have been apart Mar use to tell people "Graydon and I are not divorced we are not living together."
Please excuse the errors. Ince surgery my old brain and fingers do not work together all of the time.

Graydon (itib) and Margery

Glad to hear your outlook on this situation! Sounds like you are not fighting being there, which helps everyone involved, plus you are in love with your wife! You are a good example!

I can only hope I have your understand when I get there. That is also what I want. I already know they won't let me bring a tractor. Ha Ha

Very glad to see that you can enjoy being with the love of your life and are getting the well deserved care that is due to you at your age. I hope both of your birthdays in July will be celibrations for you and all your friends. I have followed your posts and wish you the very best as time moves on. Looking forward to more updates from you.
Loren, the Acg.

Thanks for the update.Glad things are working out and you are happy.Steve

I'm sure glad you shared this with us, even though you had glazed over the bumps in your life , Both of you have been very inspiring to many of us.

I'm really glad the home you live in now does take good care of you. I know of similar homes around here that there is so much of a turnover of aids that it is sometimes impossible for some aids to get to know the needs of the clients, some don't even care .

I also want to wish You & Marge a Happy early birthday... Looking forward to pictures of the events. hope that day is as pleasant as the "Ice cream social"

thanks for the review,always nice to hear from you,

Thanks for the update and advice. A lot of us will be there someday.

A week ago I drove a parade float with folks from the nursing home, in a local hometown parade. This is the second year I've done it.The float was a people mover from the local threshing show and I pulled it with a tractor. It took a half hour for the personnel to load the old folks and decorate the float. The drive to the parade staging area was five blocks so I kept the speed to 3-4 MPH on the way there and about the same speed coming back from the parade. Even the riders who didn't look like they were noticing what was going on had a happy way about them. One older gent just sat there and stared down. I approached him, got down low on my knees so he could see me and we had a wonderful conversation. I'm sure it made his day even though he showed no emotion.

I have really come to appreciate the kind of work the personnel have to do every day. Took five ladies to help one gentleman get off. When they finally got him in the wheelchair they had to take a moment to catch their breath. All the time they were cheery and upbeat. They really gained my respect. Jim

Graydon you and marg have a millon frends out hear. keep the good news comming. Bob