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SJ

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Are granddaughter passed on Monday.This could be a long story.I've seen some powerful support on this site from complete strangers in the past and just thought I could use some.She was nine yrs. old.She was a normal child till about 11mos. old(our first grandchild).She started losing all her voluntary motor skills.It came to the point where she could'nt talk,try to walk like she was starting to holding onto furniture anymore.Could'nt even hold her head up anymore.Started having violent siezures for hours on end.The hardest thing about this was they could'nt diagnose her.Till this day 8yrs.later they never found out what was causing this.She has been poked and prodded,hook up to thousands of wires to no avail.In the last month her involuntary skills,breathing etc. began to deteriate.My son and her mother decided it was time for her to stop her suffering.I personally commend them for there courage to make that decision.I know people will send there prayers and I appreciate that.But Im pretty angry with god right now and that scares me.If theres a heaven I sure hope theres a real big spot for her up there.

Thank For Listening

Stan
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Sorry about that...... Things happen for a reason. Being upset won't do you much good, just be glad she's through with the poking and prodding.

Keep your head up.

Dave
 
Stan,

I'm so sorry. I lost my wife about three years ago and was pretty upset at God myself. Although, knowing that there was a real big spot for her up there sure helped me work things out in the long run.

I finally figured out the best thing in this world is love, and it sure sounds like that young lady in the pictures got her granddad's....

Peace to you Stan. Grief is a long hard road.... Grab onto whoever you can...

Brad Bachelor
 
Stan,

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I can't even imagine how I would handle such a tragedy.

No words from a stranger can really help but just as a thought, I remember an incident in the Bible where Jesus had told a man to have faith and believe some certain thing. The man's response was, "Lord, I believe - help thou mine unbelief." I think we all struggle with a similar situation. We believe that God is good, but at the same time we need help with our unbelief.

For what it's worth, you have my prayers for peace.

Tom in TN
 
Stan,it was hard to read your post and not get emotional,I am so very sorry that a child has been taken,especially a grand daughter to you. perhaps a day will come when her condition is understood. You have my sincere condolences.
 
In March of 2000 my wife had a bad miscarriage, 6 months pregnant. And my sister sent me this:

---A SPECIAL LITTLE SPIRIT---

Youre a special little spirit, the all great Master said. As he gently caressed the curly dark hair of the little spirits head. You need to go to earth to spend some time, you know. A place I send most spirits to be tested to learn and grow.

The little spirit in sadness slowly bowed his head. and from his eye a tear did steal and down his cheek it shed. Dont you fret now little one I wont let you stay too long. Ill bring you back to help me here, youll hardly know that youve been gone. Youre my choicest little spirit your the apple of my eye. And he wiped the tear and gently kissed his little spirit goodbye.

Im back the little spirit whispered as he climbed onto his masters knee. And the Master said, I told you you would not be long away from me. And then the Lord, He noticed still another tear welled in his eye. Why are you so sad little spirit, whatever should make you cry.

Im glad I am back the spirit said, but Master you must surely know. When your Angel came to get me I didnt want to go. I know you said you needed me and that Id be gone the shortest while, but Lord, couldnt I have had a little longer earthly trial.

The Master let the little spirit slip down from off his knee, He firmly took the little hand and said, come walk with Me. The little spirit and the Lord walked slowly hand in hand. As the Master explained his special part in the great and marvelous plan.

Now Lord I dont mean to argue, I understand you needed me home. But I left in such a hurry : I left everyone hurting and so alone. I didnt let my earthly parents know how much I love them so. I was much to small to tell them, Lord, how will they ever know? They feel they've been cheated and in a way so do I. Not getting to share anymore than we did, how can I ever tell them why.?

Little Spirit, I know your heart is heavy with this message you need to share. But you need not worry anymore , Ill watch over your loved ones there. Ill send them loving comfort as a strong and helping hand. Ill content and give peace to their aching hearts, so they will understand. The little spirit looked up at his Master and said, thank you for explaining it to me. And could you please tell them I am safe and happy and someday theyll be here with me.

Yes said the Lord with a smile and a nod. Ill tell them all I can. Then the others came to see the little spirit as the Lord let go of his hand. He said, Ill tell them your pure, as pure as heaven's Gold. That I needed the warmth of your perfect soul to keep heaven from getting cold.

Author unknown.-------
 
We can only slightly imagine your suffering. You are in our prayers.
Loosing a (grand)child is, to me, the worst of all conceivable losses. This year I lost my father and a dear Aunt (my father's sister). That hurts. But a child ... I cannot even begin to fathom such a loss.
 
I am very sorry to here about your loss i cannot imagine what you and your family a going through but please be strong my heart goes out for you guys if you had ever ead my post you would know i have triplet girls and they were born prematurely and i saw them with tubes and hoses and wires the one was 1 pound 10 ounces she could fit in the palm of your hand the other two was 3 pounds but now they are very healthy I will be thinking of you and your grand daughter please be strong!!
 
Sorry for you loss, its terrible thing to happen to one so young.

Our son went through a similar situation only his started at age 3. The only thing Children's Mercy (Kansas City) could tell us was he had epilepsy. He went from a normal 3 year old to looking like a little old man with advanced Parkinson's by age 6. At that point they told us to prepare ourselves for things to get a lot worse.

Instead we went doctor shopping and burned through two more specialist in 6 months. They told us the same thing Children's Mercy told us. The third specialist we tried told us that he had a plan. 5 years later he's seizure free and still recovering the use of his right arm (picture a recovering stroke victim) but its a H3LL of a lot better than what the experts told us to expect.
 
Stan,
You have my deepest sympathy. You're story really weighed heavy on my heart. She was such a beautiful girl. My prayers go out to you and your family.
Tom
 
Man .........that takes me back we had six miscarriedges and our twins started out as trippletts and we brought two home.I have no words of wisdom ..only that you MUST put one foot in front of the other.You will never ever forget her but the pain will get easier to take after a while.We also had a two year old get run over and killed by a drunk driver.You must find someone to unload your hurt on I am so sorry Steve
 
I can't even begin to understand what sorrow you and your family are going though. I do believe there is a new angel above us though and my thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family and all of those that who's hearts are saddened by the loss of this precious little girl. So sorry Stan.
 
Very sorry to hear about the loss you have all suffered. Lost my wife in Dec 04 after five years of hospital stays. She was tired of being poked and prodded all the time. Sad to see a kid not have a chance to grow up.

But you can always remember the good times you had with her.If you need to talk. You know you have friends here.
 
Sorry for your loss. She is standing tall and whole and walking streets of gold. I know you are going to miss her, our prayers are with you.
Ron
 
So sorry to hear of the loss of your granduaghter. Someone sent me this when my wife passed away, I know it is not the same but still.....

God saw that she was getting tired
and a cure was not to be.
So he put his arms around her
and whispered, “Come with me”.

With tear filled eyes we watched her
slowly fade away.
Although we loved her deeply
we could not, make her stay.

A golden heart stopped beating,
hard-working hands put to rest.
God broke our hearts to prove to us
He only, takes the best.
 
I am really sorry to hear of your loss. Feel comforted in the fact that she is in a better place now. I will be praying for you and your family.
SF
 
Take with you the strength of family and friends that shared in the joys of her short life. Every time she is remembered her legacy will be renewed. Jim
 
So sorry for your loss

One day you'll get to be with her in heaven and you and she can have an eternity of happiness and joy together

Keep your faith so you can be with her again.......
 
Stan, my sincerest condolences and sympathies to you and your family. This is surely one of the hardest things a family can go through. I understand being angry with God, been there myself. We don't always know why things happen, but they do. That doesn't mean God doesn't care, I think it just means we can't understand the reasoning. At this point maybe it's best to take some comfort in knowing she's in no pain, even though you are, and that she was loved and still is. Save God for later, He'll be there.
 
Stan

Sorry about your loss, you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. Heaven just recieved another wonderful angel!!!!
 
Its always a tragedy when you have to bury your child. I commend them for making the excruciating decision to let her pass on to the next life, and end her suffering. My heart goes out to them.

My mother and my favorite aunt had a pact, which I only learned about after both had passed. If one was in a hopeless condition, the other pledged to find a way to "pull the plug". Thankfully, the pact didn't have to be used, but I praise them for making it. I intend to do the same with my daughter, when I'm a little older.
 
Stan I am so sorry for your loss.God can take your anger. My wife and I lost our daughter 11 years ago at 3 years old. She was sick and spent a lot of time in the hospital. You are going to go through a lot of emotions but lean on family and friends for support. You never know what God has in store for you but don't be afraid to ask for help. Rick
 
Hello Stan,
It certainly seems as if God has taken her away from her family. But really she has been an angel on earth, now she will be an angel in heaven.
I could tell you that the hurt will mellow with time,but that would not be the truth, I know that!
My prayers are with you and all your family. I hope that some of the words here on this board will give you strength to carry on.
My condolenses to all of your family from one of the memberes of your virtual family here at YTMAG.
Guido.
 
I am so sorry for your loss. There are not words to describe what you all have gone through, or the sympathy you are getting from this site. We are all with you in this.
 
I am not the godly man I should be, but I am a believer. There is a Bible story found in the 12th chapter of 2 Samuel. King David had a baby to die and the king had suffered through the child's sickness, When he heard that the child had died he spoke, "But now that the child is dead why should I fast? can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me," 2 Samuel 12:23 Please read

Look forward and anticipate your joining this child in Heaven
 
Hey
finished wiping my eyes after reading. Havent lost child or grandchild so I cant say I know what you are feeling. My thoughts and prayers are for your son and his wife and you, God understands your feelings, he created you. He loves you and right now he is loving that pretty little girl who wont suffer any more. Anticipate the reunion, Mark
 
Stan,

I am so sorry to hear that. I hardly know what to say. My condolences to you and your family. I pray that one day that all of you will be together again as one big happy family, and that when you get there, she will be waiting with a big red or blue ball and readly to play.

May God bless.

Mark
 
Stan......I'm very very sorry to learn of your loss. I feel your pain. I lost my first born grandaughter 6 years ago this saturday, and believe me the pain will never go away. It's something you have to learn to live with. It's ok to be angry with God. I still am.But you must remember that God didn't cause this tragety. He let it happen. There is evil in this world. Try to take comfort in knowing that God saw her suffering and in his mercy he chose to end it. You know that she's in Heaven, God's word tells you so. But even though you know this, it's still hard to let go. She'll save you a place in Heaven, at the foot of Gods great throne. And you'll all be together again, when you at last go home.
 
Stan, my mother was #14 out of 15 children. She lost one of her brothers years ago when he was only 23 to lieukemia. The neighbor lady told my grandmother, "You won't miss him you have 14 others", my grand mother replied and said; "YOU HAVE 10 FINGERS, YOU LOOSE ONE IT HURTS FOR A WHILE BUT YOU'LL ALWAYS MISS IT". My dad was #5 of 5. The oldest was a daughter. She stepped on a nail when she was three and got an infection. She passed away from it and my grandfather cried they said. I never knew my grandfather on that side. It's been passed down that my dad's sister told her mom three days before she passed away. "Mom don't you see those pretty flowers". Give it time Stan. God brought people into our lives for a reason and can take them any time. We own no one but he owns us all!
You have my deepest sympathy.
 
I've got a neighbor who's daughter suffered a similar problem when she was about 4 years old. In her case I believe they were able to diagnose her problem it didn't make her get any better and she hung on for nearly 12 years in a vegative state before passing. I saw the tramatic effects of the situation on both him and his wife and it's not something I'd wish on even my worst enemy. It took them awhile to get over the loss and I know this isn't what you want to hear but even though you will never forget the loss, never forget the pain, you will eventually move on and the pain will fade to a managable degree and you'll move on with your life just as I'm sure your granddaughter would have wanted to you to do. Til then, know you and your family will be in the prayers of alot of very good guys off this site.
 
I do not have words to say that will comfort you right now. You and your family will be in my prayers.

JWalker
 
Oh SJ, I'm sorry. She looked like a good girl and must have been a fighter. We lost an 18 month-old niece some years back, choked on a peanut. She'd be in high school now with my two daughters and her oldest sister in college if she hadn't had to leave us. Don't have to think about it hardly at all for it to be as raw as it was the first second it happened. It's just plain going to hurt for awhile and it's okay to be mad and demand answers. I didn't get any answers myself and couldn't hang on to anger very long with a wife and (then) young family's worth of living to do yet. I just let it turn to an easy going detente that I call "by and by Lord, I'd like to know". I'll pray for you and your family.
 
SJ, I type this with tears in my eyes. I'm so sorry. I know she's in heaven, there's no doubt. I know that anything I say can't take away the heavy grief you have bearing down on you and her parents, but I am praying for all of you. Jim
 
My condolences. I can not begin to imagine what you are going though. I thought I had a bad until I read your post. It is sad some times, the things that such young children must endure, yet they seem to deal with it better than most adults. Sorry for your loss.
 
STAN-your story touched a cord in my heart.I think the God your upset with looked down on your granddaughter and a tear came to his eye and he said no more.With all his power and might he told her to come to him and there will be no more pain.God took this child in his arms and smiled at her.He told her you are special and he was sorry for the pain she and her family endured. You suffered alot on my earth I made and now you are free.A tear came to his eye again and she smiled back and thanked him.
 
Sorry to here of your loss but do not be mad at God for this he knows best and just think he may have taken her now because if she had grown up she might have been a in some way a bad person. Yes I understand you feel bad now but Gods ways are ways the human does not understand and he does things for a reason we will only know when we meet him face to face
 
Sorry for the loss of your granddaughter and my condolences to all your family.

Hold on to your memories of a sweet child.

I know it"s hard for both you and your family.

I"ve experienced the loss of two grandchildren.
 
Stan,
Like the others, I can't imagine your pain. I commend your son and her mom for such a difficult decision.
I know that she is now running and laughing and I pray that someday you will come to accept why God wanted her to come Home at such an early age.

Chuck
 
She is now able to hold up her head, and fly in heaven with Angels. Always hurts to see or hear of young people passing. God bless you, her and the rest of the family. Paul in Seabeck, WA
 
My Prayers go out to you and your family. We may not understand the why? at this point, but the man upstairs had plans for her and called her home.
 
Stan, So sorry to hear of your loss. You're part of this community, and all of us here hope to ease your pain by shouldering some of your burden. May God bless you and your family. Nick
 
Scripture that reassures me is in 2 Peter 1:16-18. Eye & ear witnesses.Comfort sent from a grampa that lost his 13 year old grandson,a few weeks past 13 years ago.Riding a motorcycle where he was not supposed to be. He had just said a day or so before, Grampa, if you will teach me, I would like to take over the farm someday. He was my only hope of someone to keep the farming tradition going in the family.
 
I am really sorry to here of your loss. Im sure she has her spot in heaven. Dont lose faith in god, its times like this that are a test of your faith, Maybe he needed another angel.

My prayers go out to you and your family
 
it's hard to understand why and how God lets these things like this happen.
my first wife passed away suddenly at age 44 I never did learn what happened other than her heart stopped for unknown reasons.
with time things get better it's hard not to be mad at God ,but he understands.
my prayers are with you.
msr 730 said she will also pray for you.
 
You and your family have our deepest sympathys.May God bring you comfort.We will hold you up in our prayers.Steven and Susan.
 
I would like to extend my condolences to you folk. I simply can't imagine what you must all be going through.

I hope the illness can be determined so that perhaps her loss will benefit other children.
 
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