"but her and my ideas of necessities are way apart!"
Hmmmmm, sounds familiar.
Wanna make her mad? Tell her that at a sale, your stuff (tractors, equipment, tools, etc) will bring close to what you paid for it, while hers (knick-knacks, cookware, kitchen appliances, etc) will be the stuff on a wagon the auctioneer spends hours on trying to get a dollar bid.
CAUTION!!!...Start that discussion at your own risk!!!
In all seriousness, if it makes her happy and we can afford it, I'm good with that. Usually