Why I hate lending people things

300jk

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We used to use 2 sets of rear wheel weights on our 88 puller.
When the tractor got painted I also painted the rear weights.
Base coat clear coat like the rest of the tractor. Friend
borrowed them and I have been trying to get them back for a
while. Too long. I know my fault for lending me hem and
letting it go so long. I his is what I just got back today
after pestering him for a long time. Doesn't even look like
the ones I originally lent out. His son dropped them off and
said they had used them as winter weight in a pickup and he
used them on his stock puller. I was so aggravated I didn't
even get into it with him. Guess I should learn how to say no !
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Well you got weight back that are in one piece. I loaned a couple of front weight to a fellow and he managed to break the corner off of one of them before he brought me back most of the pieces. IF he had brought me the broke piece I could have repaired the weight but he threw it away. I should have made him buy the weight.

I rarely loan anything much anymore. Many times I tell folks I will loan an item out only if I go with it.
 
kinda why a lot of my tools were painted blue and white,, many years ago friend was showing me the house he just rented and the barn in the back,,,as he was showing me all the tools hung up in the barn some of them were mine he had borrowed years before,,I said,,can I have mine back?He had forgotten my trademark blue and white? lol
 
Sounds kind of like a friend of mine a few months ago. He called and said he was coming over to return some sockets, I forgot he even borrowed them.
 
I was unloading a new cement mixer a number of years ago, saw neighbor go by. He came over before I ever used the mixer and wanted to borrow it. I loaned it to him reluctantly. Two weeks later I called him and told him that I needed my mixer. He brought my new cement mixer home caked with dried cement. As we were unloading it he said "when are you going to be through with it, I have some more concrete to pour"
 
I no longer loan anything out.If they need it they can go buy one. I loaned out a water pump once. One I had found in a scrap pile restored it ran fine.Nothing fancy just a small pump with a 5 horse briggs on it. Got it back in a box full of parts.
 
A friend of mine lived a mile from a nephew of mine. My friend, "Wayne", occasionally noticed some tools missing.

In the course of human events, Wayne bought an old pickup from my nephew. He happened to look under the seat and there were all of his missing tools.
 
Was working with my friend the stone mason.On saturday,,he said his neighbor was going to borrow the dump truck on Sunday,,so we better make sure our stuff is out of it,,and the gas tank is full.The neighbor used the truck,,,and on Monday morning when we went to use it for work,,,the gas tank had an 1/8 of a tank...nice neighbor? lol
 
About five years ago I bought a brand new Stihl chainsaw. 65cc 25 inch bar etc. Cost me about $700. Well about a month or so before this my B-I-L was cutting firewood with an old worn out Poulan. I felt sorry for him and I sold him a 372XP Husqvarna for my cost $125 . Bought it from a Pawn shop. Looked liked it had been ran over by a train. But it had excellent compression ( iirc in the 150-175 range) all the internals were excellent shape. Well back to story I let him have for dirt cheap. New they were $750 (again iirc) at the time. So about a month goes by and he calls and wants to borro my new saw to go cut firewood for profit for a coworker of his. I ask want happened to that Husky saw. Says he needed smokes sold it to the neighbor for $75 .so I tell him no. He then proceeds to blow up my wifes ( his sister) phone at work. He asked me to borrow something else some time later. I gave him the number to "a friend" that had one and would let him borrow it. I didnt tell him the nunber was to a local rental yard. Sorry for the rant but now you know why I dont feel sorry for people any more
 
Another neighbor story,,,his mower broke down in the fall,,he asked me to help him take it to the repair shop with my pickup.I said no problem,,lets go.He said,,I Cant go right now,,maybe some other time? now its springtime,time to mow,,he comes over and says can we take the mower,,ok I Said,,lets go.The man naturally is swamped with repairs of mowers at that time of year.Tells the neighbor in about two weeks I ll have it ready.Can you believe who wanted to borrow my mower to cut his grass until his machine got fixed? I said no,,would you have said yes?
 
A while back, a guy I knew was getting rid of some docks. Said I could have them if I picked them up. Asked how much he wanted for them. He said "they're yours". Thanked him and gave him a gallon of his favorite whiskey. He heard that I have a wood chipper mounted on a trailer. Wanted to borrow it. I said no. Told him I didn't think it would make the 75 mile trip to his place (true as the wheel bearings were questionable). He was pretty quiet about it. I know he was not happy figuring he'd just GIVEN me some stuff. But I don't lend ANYONE equipment anymore, unless I go with it. Have had too much stuff stay in someone's garage or come back dirty and in need of some maintenance.
 
JML755- After he gave you something and you bought him a
gallon of whiskey....you still refused to help him????

Why didn't you put $40 worth of wheel bearings on the
trailer and take your chipper to help him???

Afterall, you didn't mind taking his stuff...
 

I have always felt fortunate that I had friends that would loan me things when I was starting out and didn't have much. I always made sure to return them promptly and in better condition. Now I feel fortunate to be able to have things that can be a big help to friends when I loan them. Being older I have a lot of history with and knowledge of many people that enables me to know who to trust and who not to.
 
I don't like to borrow or loan anything to anyone either. If I borrow anything (very seldom) I try my best to return it as soon as I'm done with it and in better shape than I found it. Several years ago I bought a new Stihl chainsaw and loaned it to a family member. When it was returned it had a hole knocked in the bar oil tank. When I asked about it he told me that it fell out of the back of his truck. He made no offer to repair the saw. Lessons learned.
 
I have 2 neighbors that I'll lend tools to both are very careful with the tools and usually give something they borrowed back promptly and in as good or better condition than
when I lent it to them,but that's about it and never ever lend anything to my relatives.I don't lend welders or chain saws to anyone.
My dad hated to so no to someone that wanted to borrow something had another neighbor that kept borrowing his hay rake and abused it.I did most of the raking anyway when I finished each time I'd pull the shaft off between the drive and the gearbox and keep it in my truck.Dad didn't have to say no after I started doing that(LOL)
 
My dad and I are both the same with something borrowed. Lots of neighbors had no trouble loaning us stuff cause it came back greased, fixed, straightened out, and one time a headlight got replaced. I don't loan stuff anymore after "friends" bil etc. Bust stuff and look at you with that "well its your stuff, so fix it" . I borrowed the neighbors little trailer last year and found out some friend of his bust the crap out of the front wire harness. No left blinky lights. Yes I fixed it better than factory.
 
Loaned a splitting maul to a neighbor. He brought it back a couple years later- obviously, the next whack would have finished breaking the handle, and he sure didn't want to replace the handle! I've kept it as is (I have another, better, one), for if he wants to borrow a maul again.
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I tell people that what they want to borrow needs a tire,a tail light,chain,bar or something. If they say "no problem,I'll take care of it",I loan it to them. Those that say"when will you have it fixed",don't get to borrow. I've had a couple of people ask why my chit is always tore up. I told them if they would care to buy equipment I'd sell mine and use theiers. Then go on to say it will be cheaper to help maintain what they buy than own it and maintain it both.
 
I always tell people who want to borrow that I won't loan the tool or whatever to them but I will do it for them. When I was little my parents thought it bad of me to not let other families children play with my toys. I didn't play well with others. We didn't have a lot on the farm but what Mom and Dad didn't buy for me were good quality. Most of them I still have. I had several Doepke toys to use in my construction enterprises.
 
If you loaned out 4 and that is three in the pic, that's a bummer.

If you loaned them out a long time ago and got them all back a bit faded, kinda normal wear and tear, at least you gott hem back.

Paul
 
Neighbor growing up had a son my age and one four or five years older. They had nearly all new Craftsman tools. Every Spring the older boy was tasked with root-tilling the garden, he wanted to sit around smoking some ditch weed, so he'd turn all the screws around on the carb so the engine would not run. His Dad couldn't fix a burned out light bulb, so off it went to the repair shop, for a week or two.

One year, my Dad asked to borrow the tiller, as it was less trouble than bringing a tractor home from the farm. The neighbor explained it did not run, but he had not taken it in, yet. Dad asked if he could look it over, and of course, fixed it in short order. From then on, the neighbor would call Dad to offer to loan him the tiller, knowing it would be tuned up sharp, washed and full of fuel, ready for the kid to spend the day with!!
 
(quoted from post at 20:38:28 09/17/17) JML755- After he gave you something and you bought him a
gallon of whiskey....you still refused to help him????

Why didn't you put $40 worth of wheel bearings on the
trailer and take your chipper to help him???

Afterall, you didn't mind taking his stuff...
I DID mind taking his stuff for nothing. I offered him $100 and he refused it. (It was a fair price). So a $50 gallon of whiskey was more than he asked for. I don't like to be in someone's debt for anything. And what happened is exactly what I was afraid of. The chipper stays on my property and never travels over the road. Most of the time it sits in one spot. The bearings are fine for that. Why should I invest $$ I wasn't planning to spend just to be able to lend a very expensive piece of machinery and take the chance someone messes it up? He ended up renting a wood chipper which is exactly what I do if I need something I don't own.
 
I needed to use a ladder rack, my BIL had one and he said sure. Got there and it would not fit my chevy, so he said let's put it on my ford and leave your truck.

I went and picked up my vinyl siding, applied the brakes and popped a rusty old brake line. I spent the day under his truck replacing the lines, bleeding brakes,etc.

I returned the truck and told him what happened. Did he come up with cash to cover my expense? Did he say Oh that sucks? No he said "You must have really hammered those brakes to make a line pop"

He did manage to burn 3/4 of a tank in my truck though.
 
Just wanted to post something on the flip side to all the horror stories. My BIL "lent" me his brush hog years ago. I offered to buy it from him as he then got a finish mower and then later a zero-turn. He said no to me every time I brought it up. just laughed and said "just think of it as you're storing it for me". Anyway, last year he needed to clear some brush along a creek and he borrowed my DR Brush Mower. Brought it back a couple of weeks later. I started using it and after a while the chain started popping off. Took a look and the sprockets were not in line. Something looked different, didn't realize what it was but I adjusted them quite a bit and everything was fine. Next time I saw him I mentioned it, kidding him that he "broke" my brush mower. He laughed and said "how did you know?" Turns out that he DID bust it and took it into the dealer for repair. I told him that I could probably have fixed it for a lot less than what the dealer charged him and what did I owe him. His response was "I borrowed it, I broke it, I fixed it. It is none of your concern how much I paid". He's the only guy that I'll lend to. BTW, still keep trying to buy that brush mower from him that I use regularly and his answer is the same "no, keep your money".
 
OH the horror stories.......I have a BIL who borrows things from some people without asking permission. Wife and I were not home when he barrowed by trailer. My nephew had been close to my place with his snowmobile and broke down so my BIL came in, saw that we were not home and just took my trailer. The next day my MIL called first thing in the morning and told my wife how nice it was that I had let him borrow my trailer. Now my wife knows I don't lend ANY of her brothers barrow anything. So she gets off the phone and ask if I had let him borrow it. When I found out it was gone I got mad and was going to report it stolen. Wife begged me not to. So I called my BIL and told him he had an hour to get it back and told him there had better not be anything damaged. He told me he couldn't have it back in an hour, that he was in Fargo and he had let a friend of his sue it for the day. Wife still begged me not to call the cops. So the next day my BIL calls me and tells me where my trailer is, says "you can just go hook it up and take it home". That's when I told him the only reason he was talking to a cop instead of me was his sister. I told him one hour, it will be here, undamaged or I was calling to cops. At that point my wife knew better than to argue. He made it, one busted tail light and wiring harness trashed! BIL tells me "I'll get the stuff to fix it". Yea, I know better, I tell him you will fix it right now I have a spare light and a new trailer harness. He tries telling me he doesn't have time. I ask him if he has time to wait for the cops. He knows better to even drive onto out place without calling first. ANd he tries to act like he's this great Christian....... There have been other things I've lent out that have come back broken or I've had to chase down to get em back. I don't lend stuff out!

Rick
 
Ditto. Although by the time I forget who I lent something to, I can figure it was never coming back anyway. Some things I only load if I go along with it and help. The favor isn't always returned, but that way the item always is returned in good condition.
 

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