Strange living condition your opinions

JOCCO

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Didn't want to hijack other threads like MIL. Here it is, seen it more than once, Fellow lives at his farm or boy hood home and wife lives in town or in there house!!! No mistress involved as such. In one case the wife did not want to live at the farm. Always seemed strange to me whats your thoughts???
 
My neighbors brother took over the family farm maybe 20 yrs. ago, works all the time, stays on the farm. Wife lives in town 10 miles away and don't want anything to do with the farm.
 
Seen a few like that here. Don't really understand but it's working for them so I don't dwell on it.

A friends daughter loves to visit him on the farm but hates staying overnight even one night. Doesn't make sense to me but then it doesn't have to.

Rick
 
(quoted from post at 11:02:17 08/29/15) As the song goes; 'You are my wife' 'Goodbye to zee life'.


LOL yea that was then, this is now! Don't like it? She'll own the farm!

Rick
 
Did you say, "I do"? Then its your own fault!
Lol! Just teasin'! It will get better. Just remember that both of you have to meet each other half way most of the time and work out the rest. And don't go to bed angry, instead, be " in love " with each other! Good fortune!
 
When my brother moved from California to Nevada his wife refused to go. His financial business is all done on-line with a visit to a client now and then. So he can live about anywhere and run it. He was fed-up with Ca taxes and liked Nv. better. They lived that way for close to 20 years. They never had any kids. I don't quite get it but it seems to work for them so who cares.
I've visited him lately and she did say she would live in Reno so his thinking of building a new house there and moving from Fernley.
 
Whatever works for some couples. A local fellow here an his wife fought like cats and dogs for 30 years. When the kids where gone they divorced. She moved off the farm an got a town job and house. Within six months they were dating again. In a few years they married again. They seem happy as heck when ever I see them. HE still lives on the farm and she lives in town. They date on the weekends.
 
If you think about it, does it really pay to build a new home on an isolated farmstead anymore, especially if it will be on a gravel road next to a large feedlot or a confinement livestock operation? Some new farm house can become white elephants because they can't be separated as an acreage or potential buyers can't get a loan because it's on a gravel road. In those cases, the house has little resale value and can only be included with the farmstead.

Two generations ago, the house was on the farm and both dad and mom worked on the farm, even if the farm was rented. A generation ago mom commuted to work in town while dad and the house were on the farm. Now-a-days many younger farm families live in a house in town and dad commutes to work on the farm.

Some of the advantages of a house in town are difficult to ignore:
children can walk to school activities or to visit friends instead of being driven everywhere;
paved roads vs gravel roads and a driveway to maintain;
city water and sewer rates vs a private well and septic system;
natural gas vs propane for heating;
in-town electric rates vs REC electric rates;
high speed internet, phone and cable tv vs dsl internet, phone and satellite tv;
etc.
 
(quoted from post at 13:07:05 08/29/15) If you think about it, does it really pay to build a new home on an isolated farmstead anymore, especially if it will be on a gravel road next to a large feedlot or a confinement livestock operation? Some new farm house can become white elephants because they can't be separated as an acreage or potential buyers can't get a loan because it's on a gravel road. In those cases, the house has little resale value and can only be included with the farmstead.

Two generations ago, the house was on the farm and both dad and mom worked on the farm, even if the farm was rented. A generation ago mom commuted to work in town while dad and the house were on the farm. Now-a-days many younger farm families live in a house in town and dad commutes to work on the farm.

Some of the advantages of a house in town are difficult to ignore:
children can walk to school activities or to visit friends instead of being driven everywhere;
paved roads vs gravel roads and a driveway to maintain;
city water and sewer rates vs a private well and septic system;
natural gas vs propane for heating;
in-town electric rates vs REC electric rates;
high speed internet, phone and cable tv vs dsl internet, phone and satellite tv;
etc.

Isn't that pretty much what they do in the old country? live in town, work in the fields, then go home for lunch.
 
There are a few couples like that near me, wife works in the city, a bit too far for a daily commute. Old enough there are no kids at home though. Knew an older couple that couldn't live with each other anymore, but didn't want to divorce. They built a new house with two apartments and the garage in the middle. He would go visit in the evening, and when they had had enough, he could put his slippers on and walk home! Down side was she would go steal ice cream out of his freezer.
 

I know of 2 different couples who live in separate homes for the purpose of claiming separate income . ( so i'm told )
 
Not that uncommon. Neighbor has a grain and potato farm. No cattle. Inherited his aunt's house in town. They decided to move into town and he would come out to the farm as needed. Soon discovered that unwanted visitors had been "looking around". So, he decided to spend some of his nights on the farm for security reasons. The strange thing about it was he explained to all the neighbors why he was doing that and there was no problem in the marriage. I would never waste a second explaining to anyone why I was doing something. But, some people just "have to know" what's going on so they have something to talk about. I guess???
 
That is how my parents did it for years. They each had their own house about 5 miles apart. Every day one would go to the others house. They also had a large garden about half way in-between. Each day they would meet at one house or the other (after work) and go to the garden to work on it.

They would either be at the garden or one of the two houses. As the evening progressed and the screamin' and arguments escalated, one would leave and go back to their house.

Next, morning everything was back to normal and nothing ever mentioned about the previous evening. They did this every day for years.
 
I know of several 'unconventional' living arrangements if it works for them then more power to them and I don't feel the need to pass judgement one way or the other.I got enough business of my own to tend to.
 
Whatever works for them is fine with me.

'Way back when, when I was managing our local newspaper the publisher's wife lived here and he actively managed another paper he owned in Minnesota. He had his own airplane and flew down here for 2 or 3 days every couple weeks, both to check in on the paper and to visit his wife.
 
Friend of our family was born to a couple that owned a general store between two small cities, they lived in an apartment behind/above the store. WWII comes and he gets drafted, goes to England and crews a P-47, then later a P-51, the war ends and he moves back home into the same room. As time progresses the cities move out and encroach the store, but he's still got 3 acres there. Eventually his brother, then his mother and finally his father die. He's like 65 and decides to get married, after about 3 months she decides she can't live above the store. So they buy a house, across the street from the store. He has troubles sleeping at the house. Has time progresses more and more he "forgets" to walk across the street to go home and starts sleeping above the store. That went on for almost 15 years until he decides he will have to close the store and sell the land to the developers. He was never quite the same after that. When he passed he left most of his estate to his church which really torqued off her kids. Silly part is if any of the kids had shown any interest in the store and ran it for him the way his family always did they probably would of inherited the store and could of sold it for 3-4 million the day after the funeral.
 
Someone I knew had parents that had divorced when he was in grade school. Mom and the kids lived in the singlewide, dad lived in a 12' camper about 100 yards away on the other side of the grove. He could tell the filthiest jokes a 12 year old ear ever heard!
 
I agree !!! The whole point of being married is to be with someone you care about,to share your life with them.Mark
 
One that's a little different he got caught to many times and they get huge government payments solution she's got the downstairs and he built a separate outside stairs and lives upstairs.
One older couple when she got married there was a cast on her wrist her dad broke her wrist when she refused to marry the guy he choose they had separate beds but stayed married and had kids
 
Not quite the same, but my farming partner lives in the house her great grandfather built with a team of horses. Two of her great aunts inherited it but fought like cats and dogs. They finally drew a line down the middle of the house and each stayed on their own side. Although the house has been remodeled over the years, there are still portions of the house that are mirror images of each other. It no longer has two kitchens across the hall from each other though.
 
(quoted from post at 16:14:31 08/29/15) Sorry, but you couldn't pay me to live in town. 30-40 miles from the nearest neighbor would be about right.
hat he says^

My nearest neighbor is 2 miles away,...to damn close!
 

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