john in la
Well-known Member
And it was not a happy cry.
Not one to air my dirty laundry but figure some of you have been threw this.
My 85 year old mom was diagnosed with dementia a while back.
My never married sister lives with my mom and dad now to help take care of them.
She still does most of her own cooking; laundry; house cleaning but under a watchful eye from my dad or sister.
90% of the time she is OK but if you catch her at the right moment you can tell she is not all there.
This has cause the doctor to pull her drivers license.
We had to put a lock on the mail box and inform the mailman not to give her any mail to prevent her access to the send us $20 to claim your million dollar prize junk mail.
We even blocked her phone where it will not work with any number not in her address book.
My dad took away her electric scooter because he found out she had opened a PO box and was using the scooter to go to the post office to get her junk mail.
So they have pretty much cut off all outside access to her that my dad or sister does not take her to.
Even with all these precautions we are still unable to stop her roaming the neighborhood 100% of the time.
She will get up at 6am while others are still sleeping and walk the 4 blocks to church just so she can be out on her own.
Then last Sunday she walked to church and got lost on her way home. She could not find home even though she was only 4 blocks away. Luckily she had her phone and a clear enough head at the time to call my dad for help.
So today I sat her down and told her she was not allowed to leave the house unless someone took her.
My sister and dad have told her this in the past but she just blows them off in protest.
Her response while holding back tears was she would not allow us to take away her freedom.
Said she would move out before she allowed that so I ask her where will you go.
I will just move into a home.
OK they can keep a eye on you but be forewarned it will not be pleasant.
I will get a court order if I have to that says you can not leave the premises.
Right now you still have it good. You are free to go anywhere you want; grocery; church; casino; friends house; you just need one of us to take you.
You elect to go into a home and you will be locked in and go no where till one of us gets around to visiting you.
I say this not to be mean but we fear for your safety.
With this she started crying; left the room; and locked herself in her bedroom.
I really felt bad but my dad and sister were thankful for my mom to see we all feel the same way.
Boy this sure was a whole lot easier when I was dealing with my own teenagers rather than having to treat my mother like I would a rebellious teenager.
I still feel real bad about the whole thing but am sure I did the right thing.
Time will tell how well it sunk in her sometimes not there head.
Not one to air my dirty laundry but figure some of you have been threw this.
My 85 year old mom was diagnosed with dementia a while back.
My never married sister lives with my mom and dad now to help take care of them.
She still does most of her own cooking; laundry; house cleaning but under a watchful eye from my dad or sister.
90% of the time she is OK but if you catch her at the right moment you can tell she is not all there.
This has cause the doctor to pull her drivers license.
We had to put a lock on the mail box and inform the mailman not to give her any mail to prevent her access to the send us $20 to claim your million dollar prize junk mail.
We even blocked her phone where it will not work with any number not in her address book.
My dad took away her electric scooter because he found out she had opened a PO box and was using the scooter to go to the post office to get her junk mail.
So they have pretty much cut off all outside access to her that my dad or sister does not take her to.
Even with all these precautions we are still unable to stop her roaming the neighborhood 100% of the time.
She will get up at 6am while others are still sleeping and walk the 4 blocks to church just so she can be out on her own.
Then last Sunday she walked to church and got lost on her way home. She could not find home even though she was only 4 blocks away. Luckily she had her phone and a clear enough head at the time to call my dad for help.
So today I sat her down and told her she was not allowed to leave the house unless someone took her.
My sister and dad have told her this in the past but she just blows them off in protest.
Her response while holding back tears was she would not allow us to take away her freedom.
Said she would move out before she allowed that so I ask her where will you go.
I will just move into a home.
OK they can keep a eye on you but be forewarned it will not be pleasant.
I will get a court order if I have to that says you can not leave the premises.
Right now you still have it good. You are free to go anywhere you want; grocery; church; casino; friends house; you just need one of us to take you.
You elect to go into a home and you will be locked in and go no where till one of us gets around to visiting you.
I say this not to be mean but we fear for your safety.
With this she started crying; left the room; and locked herself in her bedroom.
I really felt bad but my dad and sister were thankful for my mom to see we all feel the same way.
Boy this sure was a whole lot easier when I was dealing with my own teenagers rather than having to treat my mother like I would a rebellious teenager.
I still feel real bad about the whole thing but am sure I did the right thing.
Time will tell how well it sunk in her sometimes not there head.