jon f mn
Well-known Member
Thanks for all the responses yesterday, you really helped me make my desision. I wanted to explain a few things first.
A couple folks asked if I trusted him, and the answer is yes. If he had asked because he needed to get to school or work as John in la said, the answer would have been yes no question. I just feel that a vacation is a different deal. He is no more likely to do damage to it than my wife or I am.
The reason for this trip is he went to college for 2 years in Boise and he wants to go see his friends, and his girl friend who lives there. She has come here a couple times to visit him, so I supose that a trip out for him is not so out of line.
Finally to the "it's only a car" folks. Usually I would agree with you. But in this case there is a bit more to it. My wife and I have had a tough time financially ever since we've been married, and she has always been very poor. She had never owned a car newer than 15 years old. A couple years ago we were at the point where we had nothing to drive that was safe to go more than walking distance. I've been doing well enough that we could get a new car, so we did. We did one of those 2 year low milage leases with low payments and that worked ok, but we didn't like having to always watch where we went so we didn't run over on the miles. That ended now, so we decided to buy this time, but to buy the payments are quite a lot higher so our budget was going to be stretched. To get what she wanted we found a 2014 left over that with all the incentives brought the price to what we could afford. My point with this is that should it get wrecked, replacing it would be real tough, and would likely result in having to sacrifice some things as a new model of the same car is out of our price range. So there is some fear with loaning a car that is not just a car.
So any way here is what I decided, I started by explaining to him that I felt that if he couldn't afford a car he couldn't afford a vacation. I explained, as some said, that he should wait til he had a job and could pay his own way would be the resposible thing to do. But then I also showed him the Greyhound bus scedual and that he could ride the bus for less than gas. That made him excited. I also offered one other alternative, I said if he took his mom with he could take the car. She has only been on one trip since we got married 15 years ago and I thought it would be nice for them to spend some time together. Plus then I could kick in some money to cut his expenses and by sharing, my wife could get a vacation I couldn't take her on right now. I can give her enough money to pay for most of the trip if I don't have to take time off to go. He was completely understanding of my concerns and grateful for the advice. He said he would think about it and talk to his mom and let me know. By the way both their faces lit up when I suggested they go together I suspect that will be their choice. That would be great with me.
A couple folks asked if I trusted him, and the answer is yes. If he had asked because he needed to get to school or work as John in la said, the answer would have been yes no question. I just feel that a vacation is a different deal. He is no more likely to do damage to it than my wife or I am.
The reason for this trip is he went to college for 2 years in Boise and he wants to go see his friends, and his girl friend who lives there. She has come here a couple times to visit him, so I supose that a trip out for him is not so out of line.
Finally to the "it's only a car" folks. Usually I would agree with you. But in this case there is a bit more to it. My wife and I have had a tough time financially ever since we've been married, and she has always been very poor. She had never owned a car newer than 15 years old. A couple years ago we were at the point where we had nothing to drive that was safe to go more than walking distance. I've been doing well enough that we could get a new car, so we did. We did one of those 2 year low milage leases with low payments and that worked ok, but we didn't like having to always watch where we went so we didn't run over on the miles. That ended now, so we decided to buy this time, but to buy the payments are quite a lot higher so our budget was going to be stretched. To get what she wanted we found a 2014 left over that with all the incentives brought the price to what we could afford. My point with this is that should it get wrecked, replacing it would be real tough, and would likely result in having to sacrifice some things as a new model of the same car is out of our price range. So there is some fear with loaning a car that is not just a car.
So any way here is what I decided, I started by explaining to him that I felt that if he couldn't afford a car he couldn't afford a vacation. I explained, as some said, that he should wait til he had a job and could pay his own way would be the resposible thing to do. But then I also showed him the Greyhound bus scedual and that he could ride the bus for less than gas. That made him excited. I also offered one other alternative, I said if he took his mom with he could take the car. She has only been on one trip since we got married 15 years ago and I thought it would be nice for them to spend some time together. Plus then I could kick in some money to cut his expenses and by sharing, my wife could get a vacation I couldn't take her on right now. I can give her enough money to pay for most of the trip if I don't have to take time off to go. He was completely understanding of my concerns and grateful for the advice. He said he would think about it and talk to his mom and let me know. By the way both their faces lit up when I suggested they go together I suspect that will be their choice. That would be great with me.