Dang Kid!!!!!!!!!!

Goose

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I have a 31 year old great nephew (Wife's side) who's back in the slammer for about the third or fourth time.

He was just paroled a couple of months ago after doing one year of a 2 to 4 year sentence for domestic violence. He's a proficient, school trained diesel mechanic and had a good job with a local Kenworth dealer. He was being considered for second shift foreman. And he threw it away.

How he's back in the slammer for beating up an ex girlfriend and hitting a man with his pickup. Both are felonies with a possible five year sentence each.

And to talk with him, he's the nicest looking, most respectful, well groomed young man you'd hope to meet.

But--consider his role models. His father and uncle have each been in the slammer at least twice for various drug offenses. And his sister has been in a girl's reformatory at least once for various offenses.

And both of my wife's brothers who produced that mess are solid, upstanding citizens. It kind of boggles the mind.

My rant for the day.
 
Should have mentioned this kid also has a cousin who has done time twice for drug issues, and has fathered 5 children with four girls. Skipped out on all of them. No one knows where he is right now.
 
You never know what went on behind closed doors to produce that mess and some people are bound and determined to rebel even if it means going against common sense. A couple of the most screwed up kids I knew in school had good parents and normal households to my knowledge. It can be very easy to drift off onto the wrong path. I could be a very intense looking guy back in the day and I never once thought about how other people might view that even though I was not thinking about anything violent or criminal in nature.
 
I know what you mean.

My son had an IQ of 160. Joined the Navy trained as a Diesel Mechanic. Naval intelligence found out. Wanted him to cross rate to their branch.Offered him a promotion to Lt jg. Based in Pearl.

Got out instead. Because he would have rather played with the drugs. Dead at 37 from a drug overdose. Threw his life away for some powder.Just glad my wife was not around to see it.
 
seems to be a pattern there with the domestic violence and makes me kinda wonder if the guy being hit with the truck was some how connected to the domestic incident or indirectly involved in the incident itself. Ya know, many things can cause a person to be like that. Hard to tell just what it might be without knowing the persons complete background, personal life, and mental condition. Sometimes people can keep thier problems so hid and locked up inside that even the people closest to them don't have a clue whats going on with them.
 
The hint of drugs in others might imply he may have some drug problems- violence is a symptom of meth, coke, benzedrine use. Heroin and other opiates are lesser violence when just used-- but withdrawal time gets some nasty actions. MJ heavy users when they get it are reasonably mellow- about the only 'good' point to MJ addicts that can't see too good while driving and crash into people, trees, police cars. Local prison system does tox screens on intake, presentence investigation does a lot also by way of sheriffs office. Any hint from them that he is using something he shouldn't? Pennsylvania Stone story has a vet with some injury issues and domestic conflicts - Xwife, etc- killing 6 so far, wounding another, all related to him by wife's side of family--SO, you could have a worse family situation. Maybe dry out for couple more years, get a bit older and decide prison is not favorite place to be- odds are about even to re offend. RN.
 

I agree with RN, sounds like drugs to me.

Don't blame the parents too much. At 31 he's way, way beyond Mom and Dad telling how to live life.
 
Goose,
My Wife,son and I knew a kid who was an upstanding young man,who killed his Dad nd Mother. He took the checkbook and had a big party,all the while the parents lay dead in the house from 30-06 rifle.

Meeting this kid, you would think he was on the way to success,not murder. In two more years he will be eligible for parole.Now we don't want to talk about my nephew,who is doing time now for felony charges,B&E and drugs.His mother still dotes on him,his Dad is on the road as a truck driver,talking to either one is a giant waste of time, they have all kinds of excuses for him,bi-polar, adhd, and various other psychobabble BS. He just wasn't taken out back of the woodshed and taught manners and respect.Not my problem,as he isn't allowed up here in my home when and if he gets out.It's called tough love.JMHO,
LOU
 
John Wesley Harding was a nice guy except for the few seconds it took to murder someone,John Dillinger was an upstanding guy except when he went to the bank guess their mamas weaned them too early.
Always an excuse for criminal behavior if you look hard enough.Of course they all could just be thugs that CHOSE to do criminal things.
 
How he's back in the slammer for beating up an ex girlfriend and hitting a man with his pickup.

Ex & her "friend" there is a start for ya.....
Best thing to do concerning an EX is to change zip codes.
 
Some men just can't control their temper with some people. My brother is that way. With 99% of the people he has zero issue. His current wife can get him boiling fighting mad in ten seconds. Then she will get right in his face and tell him she can take anything he has. LOL I guess she can as she still is alive but she has had him arrested 2-3 times. HE so stupid he goes back. She seems to like the drama. It is a good thing he is self employed as no one hardly will hire anyone with a violence conviction these days.
 
Being in the cop biz for 20 plus years, I've seen every type of person do really, really stupid things. From ministers and nuns to doctors to bankers and lawyers to teachers to welfare types and career criminals who should have known better. I can give you a list of excuses they made a mile long, it's always someone elses fault or the systems against them or they have such and such a debility. In the end, they make choices and no amount of parenting, family support, community support (It takes a village, etc.) is going to change a lot of people. Throw drugs, both prescription and illegal, and booze into the mix along with the artificial world so many are convinced by tv, movies, music, video games and porn that exists and we are idiots if we don't see why these things happen.

The saddest part is that so many people, otherwise good, smart people, make such poor choices and don't see what they are doing.
 
Lot of variables on something like this. Part is that the schools have been teaching for years entitlements. Not just the government hand outs but entitled to pretty much what you want when you want as long as it's not on school grounds. Add in that the government has stopped into our homes and told us how to raise children. Sometimes a swat or 2 on the butt is what's called for. I don't mean beating kids cause that's wrong too. I have a 7 year old grand daughter who has anger issues. She can throw a fit lasting a 1/2 hour or more. Now if I have her and she does that it stops right now. No, I don't spank her, I just don't put up with it. I'm the Grand Pa, I'm not supposed to spank my grand kids! That's moms an dads job. So part is the parents. Part of it's the mental health community who really doesn't know what they are really doing but the brain is complex and not fully understood. That means there is a lot of guessing going around out there. Then add in booze, drugs and thousands of ways to get in trouble. But for every bad kid out there, there are hundreds of good ones. But once someone is 31 and still doing stuff like that there is a problem. And you can't fix stupid.

Rick
 

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