O/T Anyone on Facebook Beware!

John B.

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Just want to share my experience that I had on Facebook. I joined on in 2009. Reconnected with many of my highschool classmates. Then in 2012 one of our classmates lost her parents just 28 days apart. I started a conversation with 13 others to get a sympathy card started and sent around the country for all of us to sign. One of classmates that I had unfriended a year or so before but included her in this conversation. Well it got down toward the end of only her and one other person to sign. This one class mate started to vent in the conversation saying I had been stalking her for the last three years and made her life a living hill. Anyway it came out she had the wrong person. I had to call the sheriff on her because she sent me a personal message that she was coming over and bringing a man with her to talk to me and my wife. The Sheriff called her and after that she came out with an apology in the conversation. It was too late though. Anyway just 3 weeks ago I contacted her and forgave her. She was nice about it but I was impatient with her. It has turned out to be a sad situation and I have since left Facebook and feel so much better. I wish I would have forgiven her sooner but I was selfish. I also found out there is two reasons to forgive. 1. Forgive and give the person a second chance. 2. Forgive them to move on without them. This was her second chance so you know which one I choose. SO be careful on FB, I'm just talking from my experience.
 
Since then many have told me that she is jealous of me since I am happily married. She's been married and divorced twice. First marriage was to get away from home at the age of 18 then the second divorce came to get away from her 2nd husband.
 
I cancelled my Facebook account a couple of years ago.

Nothing but one huge PITA.
 
I am not on flab book. I have a hard time with the forgiving part, My brothers wife left him for another man, went to Texas with the guy, left my brother sobbing like a baby right at deer season. He poured his heart out at deer camp. The two lovers did not last long and begged my brother to take her back and he did. She came back and acted like nothing happened. This was 4 years ago and I have yet to talk to her. At least I hope he is happy! Sorry for the rant.
 
Never been on FB and don't intend to, My wife in on it and I have heard of too many conversations taken out of context and hurt feeling come of it. It also made me a Facebook widower, she is on it all the time playing those silly games.
 
(quoted from post at 18:52:32 10/21/14) I am not on flab book. I have a hard time with the forgiving part, My brothers wife left him for another man, went to Texas with the guy, left my brother sobbing like a baby right at deer season. He poured his heart out at deer camp. The two lovers did not last long and begged my brother to take her back and he did. She came back and acted like nothing happened. This was 4 years ago and I have yet to talk to her. At least I hope he is happy! Sorry for the rant.

If you sold a tractor cause the clutch was slipping and the tires all wore out and it was just over the hill, would you buy it back????

Gene
 
You are not the only one who has problems with forgiving. When someone crosses that line it is over for me. I know this is not the way to be, but it is the way I am.
 
It's an addiction.

And the sad part is, people get so addicted to communicating by social media, they lose the attention span and skills necessary to communicate in person.

I recently read a article written by a female newspaper columnist who realized she was becoming addicted to Facebook. She resolved to go 3 hours without logging onto Facebook. She couldn't do it.
 
Without fb there would be a lot less daily funnies. Lol. I'm on it and have quite a few friends, some from here. The thing is that it's what you make it. If someone shows signs of being a pain I just unfriend them. Simple as that. I don't get into the drama and if someone does it too much they are gone. My facebook activity looks a lot like what I do here, many posts are duplicated in both places. Like anything, moderation is the key.
 
I was on Facebook for about 4 or 5 months in 2009 and then quit. I decided life was too short to spend it reading trivia about former acquaintances.
Zach
 
WOW! What kind of tractor did she have to make you so interested?

(I'm a little more fussy, and only reply to the HAWT Russian women that have a tractor!)
 
I always had a hard time forgiving someone, actually, it was almost impossible for me. Then one Sunday morning I was channel surfing and paused on a well known preacher's program. It happened that he was discussing forgiveness, so I stayed. He explained that forgiveness is not to help the other party, but to help yourself. Not "forgive and forget," because you can't forget. But, to forgive is to stop holding the grudge, to put the incident, whatever it was, aside, file it in the archives, so to speak, and continue with life. Sometimes it is easier said than done, but I have benefited greatly from his advice'
 
Don't do face book myself. From what I hear from people that I know that do, it doesn't sound like anything I want to be involved in. Its a big gossip pit, people bashing and dogging one another. People sticking their nose into everybody else's business. Sounds like some people post everything including what they fed their dog that morning. And it seems like whenever somebody gets mad at somebody on there, it is always at somebody they know, not a stranger. Well, its just not for me. Never got into that.
 
Facebook is a great tool. I have been on it for years and you do get out of it whatever you want. I stay in contact with friends all over the country. Sure some people on there are messed up, and some are on there all the time, but there are some folks on this site that spend a lot of time YTing.
To each their own. I have picked up a few customers by posting photos of projects.
 
We use it for our 4H club, as a town bulletin board and that's about it. If you are friends with a bunch of loser morons (most of the people I went to school with) you will be dealing with loser morons. If you limit it to those you value, it works better.
 
(quoted from post at 19:05:29 10/21/14) You are not the only one who has problems with forgiving. When someone crosses that line it is over for me. I know this is not the way to be, but it is the way I am.

Your loss. That is the way my pathetic brother is.
 
From what I hear about them Facebook and hard drugs about the same as far as I'm concerned and I have no interest in either and really can't understand those that do.
 
Well Jon, if that is your thing OK. Me I have not and never will be on facebook, brother in law tried to get us on a few years ago but it is not something I want. And as far as your funnies a lot seem to like them, me I do not even open them, just not interested enough to do that. So would not miss them.
 
Just like everywhere evil learks even here.

So far I have not signed up for facebook.

Facebook has a local bargain hunters area. Wife has gotten some good deals on there. Was a good deal on a tractor too, but I snoozed and lost it.
 
Told a guy in town. I don't like you in person why should I like you on Facebook.

Never been on the site. Son showed it to me one time. That was all I needed to see.Don't know what twitter is don't care. Only phone I have hangs on the wall. If I want to read a book I get a book. Not going to stand in line at 2 AM to buy something. That cost more than it did last year.Know enough about this computer to do what I need to. Guess I am just an old grouch.
 
I know some people, me included, that want to delete their FB account. I have no idea how to do that. I hope you can help. How is it done? Several years ago, I was on for about 6 months. After that, I just doo not log on and avoid it. I still get "personal messages" from some that I don't know to my email address and they go directly to the spam file and deleted.
 
Bob, I too have a problem with forgiving in the preachers biblical sense. Once I am wronged I put the incident aside, try never let the person know it, and when I get the chance screw him good and then never bother him again. most folks in the community know better than mess with me.
 
You get out of facebook,what you put in to it.
We have family in various parts of the country and several over seas.
FB makes it possible to keep a closer relationship with these far flung friends and relatives.
True 99% of what is posted is trash,but the I easily skim over the things that I deem useless.
The wife and I were fairly early to the internet,you would not believe the number of "one Handed typing", how much porn do you look at etc,that we heard.
Some people just can't see the good in any thing and compelled to seek out the evil in things to promote.
I feel bad for such close minded people.
 
My impression of FAKEbook is that it is a place for the "drama queens" to stir up their own little dramas. The name makes me think of something that my third grade nephew thought of. Seems to have taken on a life of its own. Cutesie little icons like the thumbs up and the "designer F" logo. Makes me embarrassed for those that have so little to their lives that they have to spend it there stirring up conflict among others.

Regarding forgiveness, much like another poster stated, once you cross that line, we're done - for good. I had a long time friend. One day we had a difference of opinion about some equipment. He started to become violent and raised his hands to me. I told him to go ahead, but that there would be consequences. I never spoke to him again since that day. That was about 6 or 7 years ago. Forgive? OK. Forget? No way. Allow a repeat? No thanks.
 
I've lived 69 years without Facebook (or Twitter) and plan on finishing out my days with the same "deprivations." I'll add Texting to that list also.
 
(quoted from post at 22:01:41 10/21/14) Never been on FB and don't intend to, My wife in on it and I have heard of too many conversations taken out of context and hurt feeling come of it. [b:10815ac5af]It also made me a Facebook widower, she is on it all the time playing those silly games[/b:10815ac5af].

Same here. I deactivated my account and don't miss it. Will occasionally post pics on my wife's account so the kids can see them, but my wife is on EVERY night, either playing that Candy game or playing scrabble against her sister. Usually getting beat. Her sister comes up with the most incredible words and I've never thought of her as a "wordsmith". Heard that there's some kind of computer program that will take your letters and make suggestions. Suspect she's using that. Pretty much cheatin, IMO. Plus, her sister is always posting these stupid motivational or supposedly "cutesy" things like "I'm a b--h today, get over it". or "I was once sweet and innocent and then s--t happened".

Wife has a friend who I always thought was a little on the rough side. But FB has left me with no doubt. She is the most foul-mouth, nasty sounding 30+ yr old woman I have ever met. I'm embarrassed reading some of her posts on my wife's account. Especially when her MOTHER responds. Good lord, where's the decency anymore.


I'm tempted to pull the plug on the internet connection down in the basement some nights and just shrug when she says it's down. At the end of the night, just plug it back in and say, "oh, must have just come back up" in time to check email. Wonder how long before she'd catch on? :lol:
 
Doesn't google store all the mug shots on facebook and you could be picked in a crowd of 1000's like at a sporting event? Yet if the government did something like that people would go crazy.

You will never catch me on facebook.
 
Somewhere on your facebook home page there is an "account settings" link. If you pull that up you can choose to hide your account. You can still access your account afterwards by logging in but you will stop getting messages all the time. I did that recently. I was on it for a while because I was in an Extension program for beginning beef producers in SD, and we had our own group page we used to communicate with. But now that the program is over, I do not wish to receive or give any more information on that site.... I don't know if you can permanently delete your account, but so far by hiding mine I have not been bothered by it.

Lon
 
Everyone complains about Facebook.... yet here they are on a BBS, carping about it... No drama here. LOL
Facebook, like everything else... is what you make it. I chat with a few friend on there regularly... post very little... and use it to do some business from time to time. I like it. Been on there since shortly after it became public in 2007.

Rod
 
Can't imagine why a grown man would want to be on facebook with the kids a perverts.
 
Going on Facebook is unlike going on any of the boards that are open to the world wide net.
My friends on face book are mostly old friends from tales and family. I have about eight Great Grand Kids as Facebook friends along with their parents. A pleasure for me to open Facebook here in Ohio and see them doing different things with them in Texas. Most anything that can be used can be misused. The only way you get bothered with unwanted kids or perverts is if you let them in.
I opened Facebook just a few minutes ago and this picture of one of my Great Granddaughters. Made me smile.
<img src="https://fbcdn-sphotos-b-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xap1/v/t1.0-9/s526x395/10599655_10152851865836532_2933950450355605154_n.jpg?oh=300229c31251e45ae68fc2eb17ecd837&oe=54E9EECB&__gda__=1424909680_3e4b20b3bf56c0eccb9967171d83dd5c"?
 
I signed up for FB a few years ago, but forgot my password and realized that FB is BS. I am better off without it. The last thing I need is an old girlfriend from HS stalking me. Do not need that crap.
 

Who are you folks hooking up with and what are you posting on Facebook that's causing you so much problem? It might be time to pull up your big girl drawers and manage your personal connections rather than becoming a victim to them.

There are some great private sites on Facebook that discuss the very kind of stuff that's discussed here.

Why there's even one that says the same thing about these boards as you're saying about Facebook.

If you remove the word Facebook from every previous post and insert "Tractor Talk" nothing would change but the names.
 
Some of it is the assumption by those who are on it constantly,that everybody in the world is on it.
My elderly mother lives with my oldest brother and his wife. His wife is one of those who can't get off it for ten seconds. A few years back,instead of calling everybody to tell them when the family Christmas get together was,she just posted it,assuming everybody was like her and would get the message. It's as stupid as sending a text message to a land line phone.

That's the kind of thing that can go wrong,just to name one.
 
Uh, the gov't does do this with driver's license photos, and they have checked faces at large sporting events and other places, as well as everywhere else......

Don't think that you are not being watched here or anywhere else, like driving anywhere, where the license plate scanners are tracking you too.
 
(quoted from post at 14:23:56 10/22/14) Can't imagine why a grown man would want to be on facebook with the kids a perverts.
Or why young people would want to be on and old tractor site with old farts?
 
My wife is on the FB stuff. She has seen old friends from HS, and others. So.....she posts her name. My real name is not posted on tractor talk, does not need to be.
 
Ya know, I'm not a big FB fan, but it's like I said- if you "friend" morons and losers then you;ll be dealing with morons and losers. If you on;y "friend" people you actually know and like you won't have any problems. And even if you "friend" someone you don't have to "follow" them and their posts won't show up. Example- My Pastor is a great guy, but he LIVES on FB, posting stupid cat picture after stupid cat picture and them posting stupid sports pictures and stupid videos of athletes with their stupid cats. You get the picture. Took me less than an hour to stop "following" him. You can do that too.
 
That's funny. I've heard of Face Book, but never tried it, not interested. But here's what's funny. I hear that the computer manufacturers like HP and Dell and ??? are in trouble, because Desktops and Laptops are going the way of the buggy whip too. They are being replaced with iPads, iPods, iPhones, and who knows what else. So a couple of months ago I'm sitting in a tire dealer getting new tires on one of my trucks and as I look around almost everyone has their fingers zipping and zooming around their iPhones. So I count it up, there are ten of us there including a father and his teenage daughter, and eight of us (not me) are completely lost to the world, buried in iPhones including the father and daughter, both iPhoning and not saying one word to each other as they sat next to each other. That's when I realized that iPhones have become babysitters to mindless drones walking around that look like people, but don't resemble them beyond that.

Oh, I too have an iPhone provided by work for them to send me work orders and emails on, and to call me, but it ends there. If it aint ringing or buzzing, its setting off to the side. I can't stand them other than to watch people so mezmerized by them that they walk into walls, speeding traffic, other people doing the same thing.

Mark
 
22 yr old here in Michigan was just killed this week because he drove into the back of a semi-trailer. No skid marks. His cell phone was still in his hand.
 
The Indiana State Police have cars with about 6 cameras. It scans cars coming and going. They can drive through a parking lot and look for cars. Comes in handy for Amber alerts, stolen cars, bank robbers, expired plates.

ACLU doesn't like it, but it's a handy tool. As for government having my pic, so what? If it helps catch a crook, child molester, GREAT.

I won't post any pics on facebook. I don't like it when my kids post pics of my grand kids.
 

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