Question for all you married guys

NCWayne

Well-known Member
I spent the day Sunday working on my service truck putting new brakes on the rear, along with putting in a new brake controller so I can tow my trailer with it. Usually when I am working in the field I take my wedding ring off and hang it on a toggle switch on the dash of the truck. When I am working around the shop I tend to stick it in my pocket with my change.

I've been doing this for nearly 7 years now and have never had a problem until today. In this case I put it in my pocket this morning when I got down to the shop. I worked on the truck all day, lying under it running wires for brake controller, doing the rear brakes, and several other minor projects. When I got cleaned up this evening to head in I reached into my pocket and my ring was gone.

I spent the next 10 minutes on my knees looking around in the dirt under where I was working on the truck, and came up empty handed. I knew it had to be there, and what surprised me was I actually had a huge piece of cardboard laid down to work on and I never saw it hit the cardboard, even though I did see a nickel and a dime at one point. In other words I knew if the change came out the same had to have happened to my ring.

I wound up getting my metal detector out and found it on the first sweep, only inches from where I stopped looking when I was on my knees a little earlier.

The whole incident had one good thing come of it as my wife actually saw how important it was to me....Not that she didn't know already, but it just reinforced the fact for her.....

Now my question. What do ya'll do with your rings when your working? Like I said, I've got a place for it when I'm working on a job site, and I've got my pocket for around home, but as today proved, the pocket isn't as secure as I have thought it was. My wife got me a necklace to wear it on when we first got married because she knew it wasn't good for me to wear it while I was working. I tried it for a week or so, but the first time it got hung on something and about took the skin off my finger I knew that wasn't going to happen. So, I tried the necklace idea, but when I stood on my head to get to something down in a hole the first time, I discovered that wasn't going to work either. So, into the pocket it went. Now I just need to find something else that works so I don't lose it again.

Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
 
Id leave it home. I doubt yer trolling for chicks while your out workin on tractors if the wife can't stand you to be without maybe yer next question where can I find another wife
 
Mine stays at home, only put it on when doing non work stuff like parties and gatherings.otherwise it just stays put so I don't lose it.

Donovan from Wisconsin
 
I took mine off about two months after we got married and never wore it again. The reason for this was I had two friends that lost their ring finger from getting it hook on a piece of equipment and totally lost their finger and back then they couldn't save the finger like they can today.
 
I seldom take mine off, but when I do I always put it on my key ring.

Not too long after we were married, I was digging a post hole and took off my ring. My wife saw me take it off and said "I'LL take that!". I forgot about until the next day. She was convinced she had placed it on the kitchen counter, and now it was gone. We tore the place apart looking for it. Two months later she found it in the pocket of the shorts she was wearing that day! That was the last time she asked to hold my ring for me.
 
I haven't had my wedding ring off of my ring finger for more than 35 years at least. It won't come off. My finger has apparently grown some since I got married.
 
My wife's Dad was a mechanic so she well understands why I take it off. Call me sentimental, or whatever, but I can work all day without it on, but the second I get done working, regardless of where I am, I feel as naked without it on as I do without my hat.
 
I know what you mean. I've known, or known of quite a few guys who got their fingers skint when their ring caught on something. Just as bad, if not worse, was one that grounded out a hot wire with his and basically melted it to his finger.

Like I said I tried to wear mine for the first week or so, just because I wanted to wear it. Then I got it caught on something as I was climbing down off of a machine and, had I not caught myself, came close to removing the meat off of my own finger. That was the day I stopped wearing it when I was working.
 
As simple as that sounds, I really hadn't thought about doing that. Heck now that I think about it, I've got stuff in my wallet that's been riding there for over 20 years and hasn't gone anywhere yet.

The only problem I can see, for me, is that it's often off my finger all day. I'm afraid if I stop to buy something it might fall out in a store somewhere and me now even know it. Still I might be able to get something to put it in before putting it in my wallet that would make that a lot less likely.
 
Wedding ring ? Mine had to be cut off in March 2000 , after wearing it for 33 yrs . The only reaqson it came off was so I could throw it across the street into the woods after she served divorce papers on me .The impression of that ring showed for a couple yrs after that , which caused problems whenever I'd go meet another woman . Goes to show how having had an unfaithful wife haunts a fella . My outlook on that ordeal is that "She lost a great man" . God bless, Ken
 
NCWayne: I can't stand anything on my hands or wrists. I tried to wear my ring when I was first married. It was off and in my pocket before I got out the lane. I did not even realizes I had taken it off. I have been married for a lot of years and never have worn a ring. A ring is not what "makes" you married. So I am not a good person to recommend where to keep a ring.

Here is what several guys that I have worked with did. They kept a clean spot in their tool boxes and ALWAY put their ring in that place when ever they where working. These guys may not have been on the road as much as you but do you usually use the same tools/box most of the time????
 
I haven't worn mine more than a dozen times sense I was married almost 41 years ago. The wife has it for safe keeping. I don't even know where it's at.


rick
 
Had to cut one off a co-workers finger in 2002. HE was holding a piece in place bare handed while he tacke it with a 120 v welder. a single piece of slag came up and hit the gold. it stuck and transferred the heat right to his finger. Bad burns for him!

Then his finger swelled and the skin was coming off near the ring. We cut it off with a HF cut off tool, a 2 lb bag of ice, and some blasphemy and profane speaking. He wished his wife dead several times. His finger had to have skin graphs. nothing left where the ring used to be, and he now doesn't wear one.

I can't blame him, but, it is better to take it off during work.


Gold heats up very quickly.
 
I have been married for just over one year now ( and actually we are expecting "Roy in UK Jr." in November ha-ha)we both have rings but I only ever wear mine when we go out for a meal etc. I have seen to many guys who have lost/broken their rings whilst working and like someone else has said they can sort of get in the way at times and cause injury. My lady fully understands this and never complains.
 
Not married yet. Give me a few years and I will be. But my girlfriend and I have talked about it. She told me that I have to buy a ring that can get cut off because of me working on all the equipment and she would like a husband with 10 fingers. So I'm not allowed to get the tungsten carbide ones. I guess I'll have to get a stainless steel one that the shine up extra nice. Or find some pipe and make my own. That way if I lose it she wouldn't know. I'm just kidding I'll have to get a real one.
 
I spent virtually all of my working career around electronics, high voltages and rotating machinery. I haven't worn a ring since 1974.

My wife would rather me have all my fingers than some symbol. She knows I love her and would never stray and neither of us need a ring to remind us of that.
 
I don't wear mine while working. It stays on a shelf in the bathroom. Safer for the ring and my finger. My wjfe understands.
 
Never had a wedding ring. Been married for 32 years come this November, so I guess that this piece of bling, wasn't a make or break for us. Told the wife/then girlfriend that NO ring for me. I like my fingers right were they are, not caught , or pulled off in some moving part of farm equipment Bruce
 
We have rules at work that don"t allow us to wear them there. Instead of taking mine on and off all the time (I"d surely loose it), my wife has it stashed somewhere at home and I never wear it. She doesn"t mind.
 
We've been married 61 years and I was in the Army
when we got married and was lucky to have enough
money for her rings. Hal
 
I never wear it. It stays in the house in a drawer. I know to many men that have either lost or severely injured a finger from a ring. Not worth it if you are working around any kind of machinery or equipment or in construction.
 
Your wife gave you a necklace, so use it. Just hang the necklace on the inside rear-view mirror in your truck.

Mine got shorted out while doing some electrical repair work on my truck, and melted into the flesh on my finger. That was 38 years ago, and I haven't worn a ring since.
 
Always worked with my hands around something. Haven't had one on since the day married 41 years ago. If something happened to wife I wouldn't have a idea how to find it.
 
I never wear a wedding ring or any jewlery of any kind as I worked in an industrial plant around and on some heavy duty electrial equipment.The company I worked at forbade jewlery of any kind after one of the mechanics lost their finger getting a ring caught.
 
Haven't worn one for 30 years. Was soaking a dirt bike carb in cleaner. Realized all of a sudden my ring wasn't on my finger. Upon closer inspection there was a bunch of little gold beads on the workbench. Couldn't afford to replace it at the time. As Jeff Foxworthy says: "Does any guy really need a ring to remind him he's married?" Lol!
 
The wife after twenty years thought I ought to start wearing my ring again. Then got in between the wrench and frame tighting up the positive battery post. Now have a brand on my finger. So now its off most of the time. It a cheap one anyhow now.
 
Mine is in my wife's jewelry box in the house haven't put it on in over 20 years. Shorted a gold bracelet that my wife gave me before we were married on the floor mounted horn button of a Cat loader about 25 years ago still have the scars around my wrist. Only thing I wear is a antique Spanish coin around my neck on a sliver chain.
 
Married 36 years and never wore one.. She bought one for wedding but after that I never wore it again, Few years ago sold it for the gold. Did't know that till couple of years later.
 
Been wearing mine for 30 some years now IIRC. Never got it stuck, never got any voltage through it, etc. Not sure it would come off.
 
Don't know. Been married for 35 years and never have taken it off. There's no way it would come past my knuckle without cutting it off.
 
I never had a ring. My wife understood I wasn't the type of guy to wear one well and never cared about my lack of one.
 
something small, make it bigger.
something round, make it so it can't roll.
hook your ring to a plastic snap hook, etc, before you stick it in your pocket.

I usually don't take mine off, but have wore a few down from the knurling on wrench handles.
And did bend one applying gorilla force to something.
I haven't got one caught yet, knock on wood.
But, getting something strong on my hands....quickly rinsing/washing it off......always forgetting under the ring.
Painful reminder comes along a few minutes later........
 
I'm a carpenter, had my ring enlarged one whole size, and within 2 years it was too small again! It sets in my jewelry box now! Wife and I talked about it, she doesn't want me working with it on anyway! Just tells me to act married!
 
I don't wear mine. My wife is ok with that, and to be honest it is not comfortable. If I took it on and off, I'd loose it within a day, so this way we still have it for me to hear on holidays, etc. Also, I have both seen and heard of injuries from wearing a ring. One example is the local township road grader who was stepping off the blade on a snowy day. His foot slipped off the blade while his left hand was holding onto the cab. His ring caught something and he lost his whole ring finger in less than a second. Nasty situation that I am trying to avoid!
 
I heard too many stories from others about loosing fingers. Never even got one when married 23 years ago.

Now if the symbol means that much to you and her go with the latest trend and get rings tatooed on your fingers.
 
My wife made me take mine off and put it in a drawer when she noticed I had caught it on somethng and cut my finger.
 
I never wore one at work. Never really wear one now. I know I'm married - 29 years this month.
 
Had slightly different problem, but they make "rubber" rings now. Co. Name is Qloc I believe, cost about $20. Just leave the nice ring at home and wear the cheap one where it's likely to be damaged or lost.
 
I cannot wear rings at work, so do not when working around home. My dad almost lost his finger to a wedding ring.

Wedding rings when doing most any work are a bad idea.
 
Married for over 44 years. Wedding ring carefully stored in jewelry box. If I need to wear a ring to remind me that I'm married.... Too many hazards wearing ring around machinery, electrical, typical farm and industrial environments. Wife is OK with this, doesn't always wear her ring(s) either.
 
I've been married 20+ years. Since I work with my hands, including times when I'm around high voltage, I never wear my ring. Another big fear of mine is catching the ring on something and tearing off the ring finger. One example would be jumping down from a grain truck and getting the ring caught on the truck box. The ring sits in my night stand in the bedroom. If there is an instance where I have to dress up and go formal somewhere, I put the ring on but take it right back off when we get home. My wife is fine with me not wearing a ring because she'd rather have a live husband who doesn't wear a ring verses a husband who is missing his ring finger or a dead husband who wears a ring.
 
(quoted from post at 02:09:24 08/31/14)

.

I wear my ring to church, weddings, funerals and when out on "special occasions ".
Too many people around missing that left ring finger or even the hand and arm .
As for keeping her happy I only have to do what I'm told even through what she tells me today is different than what was different yesterday which differed from the day before.
Reading her mind to know what she wants has been helpful too.
Four words used in three different combinations has made 25yrs of marriage possible on Oct 9th. They are "yes dear", "I'm sorry" and " yes dear I'm sorry".
 
My wife is ------ if I don't wear my ring, and would be ------ if I lost my finger.

Welcome to my world.
 
I wore mine for about 6 years then 1 day I jumped off the side of a truck and hooked the ring it cut to the bone all the way to the fingernail. It broke the bone under my fingernail. The finger and the ring had to be cut off.... Leave them home !!!!!
 
In 4 weeks, it'll be 48 years of "marital bliss" for my wife and I. MOST of the time it's been happy days. SOME of the time it's been a struggle. A FEW days it's been a living he!!.

All things considered, I'd do it again. Moral of that story is, I never learn......

In all those years, my ring hasn't been off but a few times, and when it was off, it was still in my other hand. Moral of THAT story is, don't smash your hand, ring or no ring.

And to everyone who thinks they have it figured out and have a secret that'll keep 'em married forever, there's a couple who lives just up the road from me that are getting divorced after 62 years of marriage. The only advice I have is NEVER quit trying. Like anything worth having, it takes a lot of hard work.
 
I stoped wearing mine a couple months after we we married.I hooked it on something and skinned the crap out om finger.It now sits in my 'jewerly' box.She is ok with that.Wuld rather have a 10 fingered husband.
 
I was married 37 years August 20th. I"ve never worn a wedding ring I understand what the ring represents but have just never worn any kind of jewelry and the wife has never said anything about it. Of course she has a beautiful engagement ring , wedding ring and birthstone ring.
 
After seeing several severe ring/watch/bracelet/necklace injuries/burns/entanglements (including an instructor getting his necktie caught in a running jointer, quick thinking student with pocket knife saved his bacon), I have never worn any jewelry. Wife understands and agrees love and commitment are expressed in the heart, not necessarily on the finger. Hope to return all my "original issue" parts intact when the time comes.
 
I don't wear any jewelry. I wore a wedding ring when I was younger but then I joined the FD and it was discouraged. We were told they would cut it off with bolt cutters if we had a hand injury and I did not want it damaged. So I put it on my wife's ring holder. She asked about it and I told her "I can't wear it, it cuts off my circulation!" She hated that joke. :)

When I said goodbye to the FD I found I could no longer stand to have a ring on my hands and was too impatient to learn to get used to it. Now it really does not fit anymore. So it stays on the ring holder...safe and sound...which is where you should leave yours. In the house on a ring holder whenever you are doing shop work.
 
I have a brand new wedding ring in the original box in my dresser drawer, haven't wore it since the day I got married, that's been over 40 years ago. I can't stand hair or jewelry or even my glasses if I don't have to read something. The only thing I have to carry is my good old 8 inch pliers on the belt. Been a farmer and mechanic all my life, I guarantee that if I would have worn a ring that finger would be missing or wouldn't work. I guess if I have to have it with maybe a chain around the neck??
 
My employer would not allow any rings or jewelry, a good idea. I have seen a couple of guys with fingers pulled off. Now I have such a severe reaction to mosquito bites that I don"t wear it in the summer. If I would get bitten on that finger it would swell up so much I would have to cut the ring off!
 
When I got married 38 years ago I took my ring off before our reception was over, gave it to my wife and never put it on again. She is an incredible wife, mother etc., never had second thoughts about marrying her. What helped with the ring deal was her father had his on and jumped out of the back of a truck, caught it and actually stripped all the meat to the bone, he just had the rest removed to the knuckle.
My son just got married and where he works they can't wear jewelry, so he and his bride just had tattoos of rings put on their fingers. Serves the purpose for them.
 
I lost my ring twice within the first year of tying the knot.
I found it back both times, second time was 3 years after losing it.
I have not worn it since,...42 years and counting.
 
My first wedding band is laying in my neighbors hayfield. Was on the rack stacking bales, took it off, put it in my pocket and never saw it again. It was silver colored but was tinted brown from the time it completed the circuit between the frame, a 1/2 inch wrench and the positive battery cable on the combine. Was like having non removable branding iron wrapped around the finger. Replacement ring won't go over my arthritic knuckle so it stays on the dresser. Jim
 
Had almost all those things happen to Me with My first ring (First Wife). Finally had to cut it off when I sprained the finger and panicked because of the swelling. Still wear mine every day (Second Wife). I can tell you a grease fitting on a pto shaft will ruin your whole day.
Ron
 
It doesn't matter what the rest of us married guys do or don't do what matters is that you want to wear it when not working.
So When you're working you hang it on a toggle switch and when not "working" you go get tools or whatever why not have a nail/hook either by the door or a convient spot where you see it to hang it on. Another thought is to set it on the dresser for those at home "work" days.

And yes it's a good thing your wife knows how important it is to you.
 
After I'd been married about 8 or 10 years, I was working on the innards of a stock car, drilling a hole in the sheet metal for something or other using an electric drill with a metal case.

The battery on this car was mounted in front of the left rear wheel to help with weight distribution. Somehow, with the drill be spinning on metal I managed to touch the positive pole on the battery with my wedding ring. I managed to get the ring off in spite of a helluva burn around my finger.

My ring has been in a jewelry box ever since. Considering what I get into in my shop, my wife understands.

We'll be married 49 years next month. There are far more important elements to a marriage than whether you wear a ring or not.
 

When I got married I told my wife I wouldn't wear a ring. She pitched a wall eyed hissey fit so I wore it. I soon came home with a mangled finger and had to cut it off. I haven't worn one since and that was 32 years ago. I still got the same wife and a nice scar to prove it.
 
My parents split after nearly 40 years together, so I know what your talking about. I figure between the economy, and several other things my wife and I have had happen to us in the past, going on, seven years, if we could stay together through all that we have, anything else that life throws at us ought to be easy. Personally I think it takes not only a lot of hard work, but also being stubborn enough not to give up, regardless of what happens.
 
"Wore" mine on a chain around the neck with my dog tags while I was in the service. After I got out, I was so used to it there, just kept it up.
 
PS Always wore a T-shirt to keep it contained. Never had any problems. I wouldn't do it without a T-shirt though.
 
I hardly ever wear my wedding ring. Luckily, this is not a problem for my wife as she also believes that the ring is not what makes you married.

If it were a problem with the wife, then I would likely have a picture of a ring tattooed on my finger. While I am not a fan of tatooe's at all this would work from a functional finger safety perspective, plus it is one less thing I have to worry about losing. I do well to keep track of my keys, wallet, cell phone as it is. I absolutely do not need something else to keep track of . Would be no issues either as a person gains or loses weight either with a ring tatoo....Course that tattoo would be hard (but not impossible) to remove if you expecting divorce....still better than losing a finger though.
 
Wear mine for special occasions, weddings, family stuff. Had it enlarged a couple of years ago so it'd go over my knuckles.
 
I haven't been able to get mine over my arthritic knuckle in about 5 years. It has worn a callous on either end of it and the fingers on both sides. I have mashed it with enough pto shafts that it is no longer round. I keep thinking that I am going to get the bolt cutters and cut it off but I can't bring myself to do it. I still think it is too pretty. It is starting to get thin, so eventually it will let itself off, but I hope I catch it first. As my hands get more twisted up there won't be another, I'll tell you that. I've had surgery and they want it off. I tell them either it stays or you get it off after you put me out. It's gonna mangle something real good if it slides off the intended way.
 
Mine is in the jewelry box on the dresser except for special occasions. Wrenching and rings don't mix. Wife understands.
 
I take it off and put it on my watch band and buckle it all together...the watch goes on the dresser or in the armrest of the puckup.... Hard to have it roll away that way!
 
I rarely wear my ring.. I have that married , beat-down , bedraggled look so no filly in her right mind will mess with me.. Once in a while I'll have to wear it, nearly tore off my nose when I rubbed my face once.. SCHEEEESH..
 
We got married 51 years ago today(Aug 31st)haven"t wore wedding ring since the honeymoon. Safety reasons, wife understands.
 
Turned 59 years of marriage in July. Always wore ring until I broke my arm and hand swelled. They wanted to cut if off at clinic but I said no, get a string. My dad had used the technique in world war I to remove rings from dead soldiers . They could not find a string in the clinic but found a lady in waiting room with some yarn and used it . Soon as I could get it back on did so and still wear it. I actually wore out the first ring as it got so thin it was cutting into my skin so replaced it. I had to have this one resized a couple of times, once larger, once smaller again. Had to cut the wife's ring off due to her arthritis as it was causing lot of pain. She won't let me spend the money to put one of those clamp mechanisms on it so it lays in her jewelry box.
 
So how did the string do the trick. I am thinking winding the string around the finger in front of the ring. Is that right? Stan
 
Occupational hazard as a carpenter.It is used for special occasions.SWMBO understands perfectly as I spelled it out before we married.

Vito
 
Work as you do not allow Wedding Rings. I do my best to put it on when we are going out. I just thought Vacation Time is here better get it.
 
I have a carabiner that I keep attached to my key ring. It is small one and I just use it to have something attached to my key ring. I never clip my keys to my belt loop either. I slide my ring on it like the key ring. It will be very hard for me to lose the keys along with my ring. If I take them out of my pocket, I clip it on something.
 
Glad you found your ring. I fed my first cheap wedding band to an old sow (by accident - it fit too loose). I kept her on a concrete floor for a week, thinking it would pass through her and I'd find it. Never did. Made a new one out of a silver half dollar, and wore it off and on for thirty years. Edges are sharp now, so it stays in a box on the dresser. Wife doesn't care - she knows I ain't leaving after 47 years.
 
You insert the string under the ring, then wrap tight coils of the string over the knuckle. Hold that end tightly and pull end you inserted under ring and unwrap the coils. If the ring is not smooth and even all the way around (like a ladies huge engagement ring) it may not work well. First time I knew dad did this was when the local implement dealer was trying to cut a washer off a young kids finger. Dad came in, saw what they were doing, says hold every thing, ran over to the grocery store next door for a length of string and had that washer off in a few minutes. Kid no worse for wear.
 
Since I wear the ring that was my dads, then I rarely wear it, as in almost never. It stays in a special compartment in my bedside night stand. I may wear it two or three times a year.

Haven't worn a wedding ring for 35+ years.

Gene
 
I have only taken my wedding ring off once in 36 years and that was for trigger finger surgery. The doctor was going to cut it off but with ice and lubricant I finally got it off. It won't come off now.
I have caught it several times while working on equipment but nothing serious.

My ring is egg shaped.
 
Dave, I was thinking along the same lines, and when I got to the bottom, I see you had already said it. They say great minds think alike.LOL
 
(quoted from post at 00:09:24 08/31/14)


......... Now I just need to find something else that works so I don't lose it again.

Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

The right size 0-ring 8)
 

1) On ring finger
2) In wallet inside change pocket.

The ring WILL be in either of those two places. No guessing.
 
My mom threw a hissy fit the first two times dad lost his ring after taking it off to work on something. I'm not sure it was replaced the third time.

He wanted to leave it in the house, but she couldn't stand him not wearing it. Like anyone's going to be hitting on him out in the middle of a corn field.
 

We sell tractor parts! We have the parts you need to repair your tractor - the right parts. Our low prices and years of research make us your best choice when you need parts. Shop Online Today.

Back
Top