Darn tired of the things I have to do just to get my life ba

I have spent the entire week with my baby sister ( 74 ). To get the house cleaned up my wife Winnie was a hoarder of sorts we found sever hundred dollars in change and old coins and some paper money. So about 8 $2 bills. It's been a fun week digging though her stuff we cleaned out one whole bedroom. I have a big bed to put in there.
Now it's time for the truck and the 4 acres in her name this should take a while.
I will never marry an older woman no matter how rich she is.. It's just to much strain on the old body. I broke down again when my friends were over old memories bring it on I guess.
Walt
Living from day to day?
 
Walt,
Loss of your wife is the greatest stressor out there. I would encourage you to stay in contact with family and friends and share memories of your wife. It's good for you and them to acknowledge the laughs and tears and victories you had together.
Hang in there friend. Keep on touch and keep talking.
Gods blessings on your day. Tim
 
There are no words to ease the pain, but there will always be somebody willing to listen. The people on this forum are great and I am sure there are people close to you that will listen as well. Will keep you in our thoughts and prayers
 
Walt, going through all of those things that bring up memories is about as tough as it gets. You find something that triggers the tears and you turn away for a moment to get your composure back. I feel for you, but if you wait till you think you are ready to go through that stuff you'll find you will never be ready. After our daughter passed away at 27 we had to face that task, and to be honest Marilyn was a lot stronger than I was. You are doing the right thing by venting your feelings. Take care. Jim
 
One day at a time, little here and there, keep busy if you can, things will eventually ease up on you, can tell you already have some momentum going, you'll get there for sure !
 
Walt, there is no easy way. It just takes time, and more time for some than others. Reading your post confirms my belief that the individual situation also plays a large part. My wife was not the best housekeeper in the world, she kept all the bills paid on time, and stressed if they didn't, but her filing system consisted of stuffing it in a box and "I'll organize it later". I spent countless hours digging through boxes of receipts and even junk mail that should have been discarded then. After four years, I have just this summer been able to pick up something of hers or watch her favorite flowers bloom without getting misty eyed. When we lose someone near and dear it leaves a chasm that cannot be filled. We must build a bridge over it in order to continue with our lives, and building bridges takes time. Hang in there my friend, you have lots of company!
 
I can only echo what others have said, it's been 20 months for me. We still have things to go through. My daughters have helped a lot but there's still lots of things that need pops attention. It's getting a bit easier to talk about but there's still times when I feel like someone dropped a ton of bricks on me. Living from day to day - Yes. Talking about it helps for me, things are a bit better. Ken
 
Hang in there Walt. For some of us that day is coming and we may need advice from you to get us through. Wife has high blood pressure, had a stoke, and after 8 years doctor says she has beat the cancer. Some days she is hard to live with and other days alright. Its still nice to know that when you walk in the house there is someone there.
 
For me, that was about the most difficult thing to do. For the last few months she spent a lot of time in her rocker/recliner in the den, then I would walk in and realize the chair was empty.
 

Walt, it is to your credit that you and your sister are cleaning out. So often people just hire someone to just come on and throw all the "junk" in a thirty yard container and haul it off along with all the family memories and history. Then it is gone and can never be retrieved.
 
I feel sorry for my family when my time comes.... Got a barn full of Manly Mans Stuff.. All my tools, '49 Power Wagon, all my magazines with "important stuff" in them.. Tech manuals and a variety of guy's stuff that I just couldn't do without.. Yep, sucks to be them..
 
My Aunt died back in March since then my cousin(her daughter)and my wife have pretty much been working full time to box up her many collections (60'X38' house with full basement) so far they've filled 3 28ft
box trailers.Auctioneer is going to break it down into 3 auctions.
 
(quoted from post at 00:15:26 08/31/14) I feel sorry for my family when my time comes.... Got a barn full of Manly Mans Stuff.. All my tools, '49 Power Wagon, all my magazines with "important stuff" in them.. Tech manuals and a variety of guy's stuff that I just couldn't do without.. Yep, sucks to be them..

I really hope that I will part with all my good stuff before the end comes, let someone else enjoy it. I'll give it away if I have to. Hoping my estate sale is a fairly small one!
 
I'm still at that stage where I clean a flat spot today to do something tomorrow only to have to refind it tomorrow cause she filled it back up while I was at work.
 
Walt. I know it does not seem like it but what your doing right now will help you in the long term. You are busy with something that means something to you. You are remembering your wife but working on grieving while your shorting stuff. You will find many things that will bring back memories. Make sure and keep some of them, NOT all but some.
 
I keep looking at her chair and it's empty I called my little sister Winnie so many time I think she thought it her name.
Walt
 

Walt It will be hard but YOU will start to feel less pain as time goes by. I am sure your sister understands and is not bothered by you calling her Winnie.
 

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