Something else you may want in your will is a no contest clause. The executor (trix) is in charge of the distribution and handling of the estate and if you protest, you are out. The instructions are in the will as to how the deceased wanted the estate handled. Had an attorney draw mine up also.
For anyone with a big mess, do your survivors a favor and get your legal documents in order. That way assets will be distributed per your wishes, not wind up in the pockets of the arbitrators.........
If you can't deal with doling things out to your kids, get a grip. Not having a will just because you can't is no excuse. It only hurts, not helps them. BTDT