I used to BE you. I internalized everything, would never speak up... even at times when I should have done so. I grew up being told kids are to be SEEN and NOT HEARD - so I let the whole world use me as a doormat until I was about 40.
YOU must learn to break this cycle. This does not mean that one must be mean and onery and cuss at people - it just means that one has to learn to establish boundaries within relationships with people and then stick to them. You have to learn to deal with conflict as there is some in every life. Otherwise, the stress in your life is going to give you a heart attack or stroke and you will die young - either that or you will get so angry that you do "go postal" on someone.
A great book to read and apply to your life is called "BOUNDARIES... When to Say Yes and How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life" (by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend). It is a great book and is very helpful in helping one understand unhealthy relationships. Hope this helps. Book on Lifes Needed Boundaries This post was edited by SweetFeet at 12:10:47 04/06/13.