The many others have said it so well, that I'll just go for the short response. I have watched the progress of Steve's situation, and have truely respected what you and your family (plus others) have done to help a family in need. You did not take the easy way out, but got down to doing what was needed. I have been in that situation many times, but on a much smaller scale than what you have done. I know about the accusations and negativity, and agree it hurts. But like you, I have not changed a bit of "what I am".
Hang in there, I wish we were neighbors.
Paul in MN