I know the feeling you are talking about. Seems like others are so jealous of so many others out there trying to do a good deed. I can tell how hurt you are by what others have said other wise you would not be posting this today. I had a similar incident on Facebook back in Dec. We had a class mate lose both her parents within one month's time. So I decided to get a sympathy card started for her and it was sent all over the US for 13 of us classmates to sign. Well it got down to the last two people and the second to the last person blew up at me accusing me of such wrong doing of something going on in her life. Only to find out it wasn't me that did anything wrong. She threatened me to the point that I called the sheriff on her to stop her accusations and threats. That stopped it. Some of us have come to determine that this person really didn't want to be part of the sympathy card at all. She said she would send her own and never did. I was very upset.
By the way be sure and tell Steve to tell the hospital staff he would like to apply for assistance on his hospital expenses. I ran a post on this a month ago and many said they have applied for assistance and their whole bill was paid in full. My wife and I applied several months ago for our expenses. My bill was cut by 60% and my wife's bill was paid in full.
There is no shame in asking but in not asking!
Well I hope the best for all of you that are helping Steve.