In this life there are givers and there are takers.
You are a giver and this taker is taking you for granted and a ride.
sweetfeet had the best advice. Stop looking and do what you like to do best. The right lady will notice and "fall" for you.
This bit of advice I pass on to all young guys.
Looks matter most for GF"s, compatibility most for wives.
The best mates come from large families and later in the birth order. Only child"s are to be avoided. Best girls to marry are the ones who had at least a few brothers, some of which who were less then pearly white. That way when you act like a man she is familiar with that kind of behavior.
And, oh, btw, Your MAN CARD is hereby revoked until further notice.