It ain't going anywhere you want, move on, the longer you hang around the more it's going to hurt when you figure this out. You're 30, she's 23 you are both at different points in your life and it doesn't appear she's ready to grow up and move into the adult/settle down/responsibilities/kids phase of life you are in. I've been happily married for 23 years, we got married when I was 30. To make a long story short I left the farm and the area I grew up in for good when I was 24, I joined the Air Force, got commissioned and was stationed about 6 hours from home, and not to far from a far sized University, plenty of younger Coeds. Having already gone through college and having an Air Force career was somewhat of a barrier between me and the coeds, they were where I was 4-5 years earlier, after I while I even stopped trying. I was 28 when I met my wife, she was 34, but we both had been out of college about the same amount of time and were both in the same phase of life, build a career, settle down, accept responsibilities, wanting kids..... Had I met her when I was 16, or 18 or 20 or even 24 our relationship wouldn't of worked. I also warn you to be wary of Women that are right at 29 or 30, it's a milestone they don't want to face single and they get a little freaky about it at that age, maybe a little to willing to rush into something they wouldn't a few years earlier or later. And if you insist the easiest way to make yourself more attractive to her is to move on to someone else. I don't know what it is I think women can smell it on a guy if he's seeing someone else. About the time I started dating Mrs wisbaker some of my fellow single lady officers that previously wouldn't give me the time of day were a lot more friendly. Or maybe it's cause they were coming up on the big 30! And it's not like Mrs wisbaker spent much time out at the base, she lived several hours away so I don't think it's because they saw us together.