First, I am well aware I need to seek counsel with an atty in real life. But, that is one of my questions. I will condense this: Aunt and Uncle childless, Me and bro co trustees of living trust. They are starting to fail in mind and body but still able to "live" alone. I would like medical POA for their wishes. General POA would be ideal. I have fear that other nephews just now surfacing after 50+years are not sincere, particularily one. I don't know how to approach this. Uncle is paranoid and thinks everyone is after his land. I would like to talk to their atty. If I do is he obligated to tell them I was inquiring? "hey your nephew wants POA. Did you know that"?. I'm not after their money, just don't want the wrong person to run and have them declared incompetent and say "I'm a nephew I should be in charge". What is ones first step? email open if you do not want to make it public.